romance to a guy

[rosebud5446]

okay, lately my guy has been saying such sweet things. i try to compliment him too, but i don't want to say things that are too girly about him i guess... what kinds of things do you say to a guy to make him feel special...

input appreciated

 

[TBKahuna123]

okay, lately my guy has been saying such sweet things. i try to compliment him too, but i don't want to say things that are too girly about him i guess... what kinds of things do you say to a guy to make him feel special...

input appreciated

OK, here's a trick. you can say the sweetest, most girly thing to us that you want, but if you drop your voice into a husky alto tone, it's gonna give us goosebumps.

Seriously though I guess if I were to look at what makes me feel special, it's when my wife tells me about things I do that make her feel good. We like to hear that you find us attractive, for what ever reason. I don't know, I guss to be totally honest I've spent so much time figuring out what to say to my wife that I never really thought about what I wanted her to say to me.

When in doubt tell him how huge his cock is. We love that!

 

[midwestyankee]

okay, lately my guy has been saying such sweet things. i try to compliment him too, but i don't want to say things that are too girly about him i guess... what kinds of things do you say to a guy to make him feel special...

input appreciated

What do you like about him? Is he warm? Generous? Funny? Tell him.

Why did you choose to be with him? Is it because he makes you feel like the center of his universe? Tell him. Does he make you feel beautiful? Tell him.

Anything you tell him that comes from your heart will ring true and resonate in his heart for a long, long time.

 

[rosebud5446]

i always tell him how much i love his eyes, however no matter what, even though i think it is, if i mention anything about how i love how BIG his cock is, he gets defensive, because he thinks it's small because it's not a foot long, but he does have the most beautiful penis i've ever seen, and i do tell him that which he seems to enjoy...

i do have a question though about some of the things he's been telling me lately... some of you know our situation and him being afraid to get to close... well, i think he finally let his guard down, he tells me plain and clear that he loves me. where he knows i hear it, even before and during sex. but he's also been talking alot about marriage and family. we had a long conversation the other day that he brought up and was asking almost all the questions like... how many kids i want, #of boys and girls, where i want to raise my family, how far apart on age i want the kids to be, how i would teach/punish/whatever when my kids would do certain things... and has been saying things like that since and putting us in hypothetical situations where we are married with children. he has agreed/liked everything i have said. how serious about all this is he? does he really feel like i could be the one for him?

 

[TBKahuna123]

i always tell him how much i love his eyes, however no matter what, even though i think it is, if i mention anything about how i love how BIG his cock is, he gets defensive, because he thinks it's small because it's not a foot long, but he does have the most beautiful penis i've ever seen, and i do tell him that which he seems to enjoy...

OK, sorry I was being facetious about tellying him how big his cock is. That was me being sarcastic. Now this is me being serious. Tell him TBK said to stop fucking worrying about his little dick and start worrying about things that matters! Obviously it's just fine because you like it. If you like, what the hell does he care? You get more girls with gorgeous eyes than a huge cock. I'm living proof!

i do have a question though about some of the things he's been telling me lately... some of you know our situation and him being afraid to get to close... well, i think he finally let his guard down, he tells me plain and clear that he loves me. where he knows i hear it, even before and during sex. but he's also been talking alot about marriage and family. we had a long conversation the other day that he brought up and was asking almost all the questions like... how many kids i want, #of boys and girls, where i want to raise my family, how far apart on age i want the kids to be, how i would teach/punish/whatever when my kids would do certain things... and has been saying things like that since and putting us in hypothetical situations where we are married with children. he has agreed/liked everything i have said. how serious about all this is he? does he really feel like i could be the one for him?

Hmm... Could be. It could just be that he's trying to decide what he wants out of a wife, but we usually avoid these discussions like the plague if we aren't at least thinking about it. I don't want to get your hopes up, but my advice would be to just go with it. Let him lead and just follow along.

Unless you want to put a stop to this line of thought, in which case I'd speak up soon before he gets HIS hopes up.

 

[rosebud5446]

Hmm... Could be. It could just be that he's trying to decide what he wants out of a wife, but we usually avoid these discussions like the plague if we aren't at least thinking about it. I don't want to get your hopes up, but my advice would be to just go with it. Let him lead and just follow along.

Unless you want to put a stop to this line of thought, in which case I'd speak up soon before he gets HIS hopes up.

yeah, i've just been kind of going with it. trying not to get my hopes up because of our past issues. guys are just so damn confusing, and i don't want him leading me on again. even though at this point, after discussing how he's lead me on, it would be pretty mean to say all this without ANY truthfulness behind it.

 

[TBKahuna123]

yeah, i've just been kind of going with it. trying not to get my hopes up because of our past issues. guys are just so damn confusing, and i don't want him leading me on again. even though at this point, after discussing how he's lead me on, it would be pretty mean to say all this without ANY truthfulness behind it.

Yeah, given the past you might want to have a real sit down heart to heart at some point. Just tell him listen, you know what's happened in the past and this current discussion is making me a little uncomfortable. Not because the idea is unappealing at all, but because I don't want to get my hopes up and get hurt again. So is this for real?

He might freak out and stop talking about it, he might not. I really can't say, but at some point in all this you'll need to be sure. For your own sanity.

Oh and you say guys are confusing? Well if that ain't th pot calling the kettle black! Like women are so cut and dry easy to read!

 

[rosebud5446]

forgive me if i'm... contradicting (not the word i'm looking for) but the last time we had a discussion, we decided to relax a little more in the relationship and go with the flow a little bit. although soon after this discussion is when he started all the lovey dovey hooplah. but i don't want to bring it up because he may flip out again that i'm being to serious and push himself away... i really don't know. when he first started talking about me being his wife or marriage, i told him 'don't tell me that stuff unless you mean it' yet he continues to do it. and the other night (i don't know if this is problematic...) we were having sex, and he was like 'oh i could fuck you for the rest of my life...'(which he has told me before) then he started 'imagine if we were married (to other people) and we were fucking right before your husband got home' which i'll admit was pretty hot to think about even though i would NEVER cheat on my husband. and then he said 'better yet, if we were married to each other...'

 

[TBKahuna123]

forgive me if i'm... contradicting (not the word i'm looking for) but the last time we had a discussion, we decided to relax a little more in the relationship and go with the flow a little bit. although soon after this discussion is when he started all the lovey dovey hooplah. but i don't want to bring it up because he may flip out again that i'm being to serious and push himself away... i really don't know. when he first started talking about me being his wife or marriage, i told him 'don't tell me that stuff unless you mean it' yet he continues to do it. and the other night (i don't know if this is problematic...) we were having sex, and he was like 'oh i could fuck you for the rest of my life...'(which he has told me before) then he started 'imagine if we were married (to other people) and we were fucking right before your husband got home' which i'll admit was pretty hot to think about even though i would NEVER cheat on my husband. and then he said 'better yet, if we were married to each other...'

SIGH, I don't know what to tell you to do hun. All I can say is go with your gut instincts. How come love isn't easy?

OK Important: Don't take what's said mid coitus too seriously. Like you said, sounds great as a fantasy, but in practice? Not really.

I heard a funny ass line last ngiht. We were watching the 40 Year Old Virgin, and I think it went something like this:

"We went down to Tijauana last night and saw one of those shows, you know where the woman fucks a horse? At first you think it's gonna be cool because hey it's a woman fucking a horse, but then you get there and it's a woman fucking a horse."

It's kinda like that. Or maybe not.

 

[rosebud5446]

yeah... you're probably right about that one. at first i thought about that, but didn't think so, but i just remembered something else he said. so i'm sure it was a fantasy... even though it was hotter when i was thinking about cheating on my fake husband than being married... but he might have thought he offended me or something, so he changed it... i dunno...

the point is... he's confusing as hell... surely he wouldn't start leading me on 2 days after we discussed how he was leading me on when he's to scarred to commit. and laying it on 5 times more than he ever did. that would just be asshole shit to knowingly do that... or he's just a total dumbass, and i really don't think he's either of those. so does he really mean it? it's just wierd to make such a sudden change, unless the talk really did make him think about things and go for it with me... in like a week he progressed from quickly telling me 'i love you' as he left for work to 'hey rose, i love you' while looking into my eyes, and then later talking about marriage and whatnot. or is he testing me... blah, okay i'm just going to shut up now.

p.s. '40 year old virgin' was hilarious!

 

[TBKahuna123]

yeah... you're probably right about that one. at first i thought about that, but didn't think so, but i just remembered something else he said. so i'm sure it was a fantasy... even though it was hotter when i was thinking about cheating on my fake husband than being married... but he might have thought he offended me or something, so he changed it... i dunno...

the point is... he's confusing as hell... surely he wouldn't start leading me on 2 days after we discussed how he was leading me on when he's to scarred to commit. and laying it on 5 times more than he ever did. that would just be asshole shit to knowingly do that... or he's just a total dumbass, and i really don't think he's either of those. so does he really mean it? it's just wierd to make such a sudden change, unless the talk really did make him think about things and go for it with me... in like a week he progressed from quickly telling me 'i love you' as he left for work to 'hey rose, i love you' while looking into my eyes, and then later talking about marriage and whatnot. or is he testing me... blah, okay i'm just going to shut up now.

p.s. '40 year old virgin' was hilarious!

Honey at this point I'm jsut as confused as you are!

I can tell you that sayign I love you quick is classic guy behavior for "I'm scared shitless". Once you've taken the plunge though, what's left to be scare of? So that part I get. Is he testing you? I don't know, is he smart enough to try and test you? Seriously, I'm not sure most of us males are that clever.

 

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[TBKahuna123]

Go buy a copy of Modern Bride and leave it lying around. That'll provoke a response one way or the other!

 

[Nightbird]

Whats wrong with saying girlie things about your man if your a girl? As long as your not making him out to be a pussy or anything.

 

[DarkLover]

If you really want some great ideas on how to connect with a guy, read Dr. Laura Schlessinger's book The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands. Let me say from experience that if every couple did what she says in that book, there would be a lot more happy marriages in the world.

DarkLover

 

[Halo_n_horns]

okay, lately my guy has been saying such sweet things. i try to compliment him too, but i don't want to say things that are too girly about him i guess... what kinds of things do you say to a guy to make him feel special...

input appreciated

We guys just need our egos stroked. Our egos are the most fragile things we have aside from our twigs and berries. So, what feeds his ego that you're a part of or a witness to? What does he do well? What are the ambitions and dreams that you can help him with? Etc.?

Just don't lose yourself in him, and visa versa. A relationship built on mutual gratification is always greater than one where someone has gotten lost in it.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

If you really want some great ideas on how to connect with a guy, read Dr. Laura Schlessinger's book The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands. Let me say from experience that if every couple did what she says in that book, there would be a lot more happy marriages in the world.

DarkLover

Does she suggest having the wife bring home other women?

 

[SweetErika]

Does she suggest having the wife bring home other women?

LMAO I think not...that's obviously a sin on two counts: infidelity and homosexuality. It's a sure way to destroy your sacred marriage. *nods and waits for marriage to destruct*

 

[boston_bbw]

They also like to know they are doing there job as a husband. Tell him how safe he makes you feel, how your glad your not in the dating scene anymore and love the security of your relationship. Manly "I love how you take care of me" type stuff lettingh him know he is a good provider.

 

[Halo_n_horns]

LMAO I think not...that's obviously a sin on two counts: infidelity and homosexuality. It's a sure way to destroy your sacred marriage. *nods and waits for marriage to destruct*

Then what the hell good would it be to buy her book?!?!

 

[DarkLover]

Then what the hell good would it be to buy her book?!?!

Because, Halo, she does understand the male ego thing very well and suggests that women stroke it if they want their men to respond.

 

[Darkknight2010]

Oh my, so many responses, and all very true.

For me.... let's see... that I make her laugh... she says I treat her well (I hope so... wish I could more though...) ... she accepts who I am and when I do my little geek-ish things like ramble about my toy collection she DOESN'T roll her eyes. She may not be into it, but she knows it's what I like and just rolls with it.

Just say what's in your heart, that's the best thing.