rl master called it quits- what now- advice anyone?

[innocencebegone]

need good advice only, please... Parting is such sweet sorrow, shall we kill her now or tomorrow...Innocencebegone

Thank you for the advice. I am ok now, I have people in my life now that will protect me. thank you and god bless you all

 

[bhndblueyes88]

<hug> First of all, I'm sorry for the loss and pain you must be feeling right now. Regardless of the relationship, it's never fun to be in one that falls apart.

I don't know what's best for YOU. Really, only you can know that My only advice is to take some time to stabilize yourself before rushing headlong into something, just because you're hurting.

Then, well, where you move on from there is up to you

Hope you find your feet. Good luck!

 

[ecstaticsub]

I'm so sorry. The end of a relationship is so very hard.

Find some way of finding closure. How you do that will depend on your relationship and your own needs.

For me I need to focus on all the good things and hopefully get him to talk about the good parts, too. Then part as friends, on a happy note. Carrying around regret, anger or hatred is not healthy.

Whether that is possible or not allow yourself some grieving time. Wallow in your pain for a set amount of time--a couple of days, not too much. Then pack up the memories and move on.

I go to an awesome therapeutic massage therapist who not only does fantastic massages but also heals my spirit. She told me yesterday about a yoga instructor of hers that once sat the class in a circle around him outside. He then took a pail of water and poured it into the ground. They all watched quietly as the water disappeared into the soil. He said "Now the pail is empty and free to refill with positive experiences." She told me that I had felt empty to her as she way treating me. But it was a good emptiness. It was an emptiness that was ready to be re-filled.

If you are feeling empty without your master then try to look at it as being ready to be refilled, rather than something negative.

 

[MasterMix]

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[skinnysinner]

Take it easy, make sure you are ok in mind and body. Don't overdo anything as has been said, but if you need that guiding hand, ask away, Lit seems a good place.

Online, help is here as you can see, and submitting gently and with careful boundaries, to a knowledgable online master might ease the transition. I hope I can help, I am sorry you have had to go through this alone butvuse pm if you need to.

X

 

[eastern sun]

Use the time that is available to you in ways that make you happy.

Do things you want to do. Especially the little things that remind you of your ideas and interests before you entered the relationship.

You have time now to pursue your own interests.

 

[MasterBob227]

spend time with me, MasterBob

 

[bhndblueyes88]

A second piece of advice, ignore anything like this comment -----^

 

[HussarVanburen]

need good advice only, please... Parting is such sweet sorrow, shall we kill her now or tomorrow...Innocencebegone

No time like the present.

 

[silkface]

need good advice only, please... Parting is such sweet sorrow, shall we kill her now or tomorrow...Innocencebegone

Loss is not easy. Separation with no reunion never good. My empathy to you. Now you can reflect and prepare for you are changing seasons and each is different yet wonderful.

 

[desertslave]

Just sending you hugs. The end of a relationship can be so painful. Happy to see your edit and that you have good support to help you heal.

 

[smokepole]

take the time...

Whether that is possible or not allow yourself some grieving time. Wallow in your pain for a set amount of time--a couple of days, not too much. Then pack up the memories and move on.

If you are feeling empty without your master then try to look at it as being ready to be refilled, rather than something negative.

I have to second this advice. I rebounded once too quickly and found myself in danger. It was a position I was able to remove myself from, but not without scars (the physical ones).

Healing takes many forms. I found that reaching out to like-minded folks helps to ease our losses. It helps us to bond and realize our potential through each other.

Just don't rush yourself into anything because you feel lost. We can be your anchor if you need it, for now.

 

[DVS]

HussarVanburen and MasterBob227 are idiots. There's always one hanging around. Why are we so lucky to have two?

 

[CuriousSubGG]

my two cents

Break ups are never easy. I was in that boat not long ago and I found the best way personally to heal was to become the best me that I can be. At first it was with a goal to make him realize we should be together, but in a short amount of time I realized I'm way better off without him. I started getting back to the things that make me happy. I focused on working out, taking walks, reconnecting with those I lost contact with and trying to believe that in this crazy game called life, everything happens for a reason.. and I know that it ended because it just wasn't meant to be. I know that the pain can seem intolerable. I couldn't eat for days at first. But whatever you do, try to not be angry. Its okay to be sad, but when anger overcomes you, it will destroy you from within. What helped me most was NOT contacting him, which allowed me to reflect and realize why it should have ended sooner. Just try to be at peace and keep reminding yourself that it isnt your fault.

I really wish the best for you