RJ's Building Blocks

[RJMasters]

Okay, made a treck around town today hitting all the different hardware stores I could find as I've pretty much exhausted the limited suply at wally world and Home Depot, well mine just sucks. Tried ace hardware and wasn't much better. Just when I was about to give up I struck gold at Tractor Suply Company! OOooh the rope choices.... the leather..... and the rings RJ mentioned (will make a lovely gift) and then I was walking between the Feed isle and the Pet isle and there I found horse suplies. To my dismay no crops, but I couldn't help but notice the increase in moisture as I looked at the various bits! I was in total shock! I've never liked the idea of gags but looking at the bits very obviously got a reaction.... Anyway I think I've found a new hang out

Very cool.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

Just came in to wave at RJ!!

*waves and blows kisses*

 

[BeachGurl2]

Had a long talk with Mrs. RJ today about my new interest in Shibari.

I was preparing for my math final and just playing with some of my rope. I am working on an arm piece that I will eventually incorporate into an upper body type harness. Been working on mastering this one section over and over until I can almost do it now without even looking, but by feel with just my hands.

The books haven't come yet, but right now I am just experimenting on my own and enjoying working with the rope. Alot of it just comes natural to me.

Anyways, Long story short, at first she was a bit apprehensive, but after we talked about it, we were able to come to honest consent about the whole thing for which I am glad. Her biggest concern was that she would have to particpate or feel obligated to particpate. I assured her that this wasn't about her, it was about me and something I wanted to do and had an interest in. I only expected to be able to show her some of the things I come up with and get her opinion on it. I also reassured her that I would never ask her to participate. If she chooses to, then she could let me know and that would be fine.

So I am enjoying pursuing this skill. I hope as I improve, I will share some pics of some things I come up with.

I'm glad things are progressing so well, RJ. Can't wait to see the pics.

 

[incubus'_sub]

Hey RJ, congratulations on your change of management.

I'm really glad that you mentioned Mrs RJ too, but I'm disappointed for you that she's really not interested in participating.

Now, she's probably relieved to have her husband "back" from hours on the computer, but are you aware that once you have your purchases, that looking at them & handling them is going to drive your desire rather than satisfy it.

Have you & Mrs RJ come to an agreement as to what you plan to do after you have all the equipment?

BTW Alice, nice pics. Tonight I am to be prepared in a similar fashion for a photo shoot. As I am away from home on business for 2 weeks I have been loaned by My Master to a friend of ours, a very experienced Dom. As he prefers not to interrupt our sessions to take photos & My Master is very fond of them, tonight is specifically set aside to take them.

 

[RJMasters]

Just came in to wave at RJ!!

*waves and blows kisses*

Warm smiles. You always take me by surprise, but never cease to amaze me when you appear. Thank you for brightening my day.

 

[RJMasters]

I'm glad things are progressing so well, RJ. Can't wait to see the pics.

Thank you BeachGurl.

 

[RJMasters]

Hey RJ, congratulations on your change of management.

I'm really glad that you mentioned Mrs RJ too, but I'm disappointed for you that she's really not interested in participating.

Now, she's probably relieved to have her husband "back" from hours on the computer, but are you aware that once you have your purchases, that looking at them & handling them is going to drive your desire rather than satisfy it.

Have you & Mrs RJ come to an agreement as to what you plan to do after you have all the equipment?

BTW Alice, nice pics. Tonight I am to be prepared in a similar fashion for a photo shoot. As I am away from home on business for 2 weeks I have been loaned by My Master to a friend of ours, a very experienced Dom. As he prefers not to interrupt our sessions to take photos & My Master is very fond of them, tonight is specifically set aside to take them.

Thanks you for the congratz, the questions and the comments.

In answer to your question if it might drive my desire rather than satisfy it, I can only answer I don't know. It may do that. However I am finding that as I work with the rope, I feel very similar to how I did when I spent hours and hours in focused concentration when learning a martial arts weapon skill. There is whole different head space I get into. For now I see it as a way that positively channels my desires. As I said in my opening post, there may be consequenses that come, but I am prepared to meet those rather than live with the consequences of doing nothing.

One of my wife's questions was infact, if I would tie anyone else up. I told her that I wouldn't probably do hat until I felt I had mastered the skill and worked out a few different designs, but I wouldn't do so unless she was present. She didn't seem to react negatively, but sort of nodded and continued to ask some other questions. So she didn't appear to be against it, but was satisfied that her interests were being respected.

It is my hope that over time as I continue to work with it and she is exposed to it more, she will come to appreciate it. If I can ever find a group to get plugged into near here, I would also be able to take her to some demonstrations.

If she doesn't in time come to appreciate it, what have I lost? There is no sense fixating on things which I cannot control, so I am going to focus and do something which I am in control of and enjoy it for me.

As for the floggers and crops and canes. I think that might be a whole different level, but in principle its the same. I need to learn the skill of using them. Why? Simply because I want to. Granted that might seem impossible to "fully" do without one to use them on, but at the moment even if I had someone I could use them on, I still couldn't without some skill. So I see this as me taking steps to train myself. I took second place for a person exhibition using Nunchucks. I mastered throwing stars and knives. I could wield a Bokken with fluid grace precision and power. And I wasn't half bad at the staff. I understand the bond between that which is held in the hand and the one one holding it. Holding a crop flogger or cane with a sense of confidence is something I wish to know and feel.

I hope your photo sessions go well and you enjoy your experience to the fullest. If you are able to, please share as I would enjoy that.

Thanks

 

[incubus'_sub]

Dear RJ, your transformation into a real life Dom as opposed to an online one is going to be very interesting to watch. Your maturity shows in your patience, your desire to learn the skills involved.

I also feel, having always read your posts, that your decision to go ahead was not made lightly. Your attitude of taking one day at a time is wise because all sorts of emotions & desires are about to be rocket fuelled.

I do speak from experience, having had 2 lengthy vanilla marriages, which whilst loving & close, did not satisfy my core being. For 30 years I tried to be "good". I came to the same crossroads & chose the path which allowed me to be myself, however, there are losses & changes involved. Be prepared, as I know where you are & probably what will happen as time goes on.

I have lived with My Master for a few years now & have not regretted my decision, however, he is Mr Right in all ways, not just B&D.

I have not been loaned before, for photos or sessions & it has been an interesting & quite wonderful experience. I'm proud, too, to be able to do it without argument or fear & to do it well. The photos taken last night will be the property of My Master, but it is indeed possible that he will share them.

 

[His_pita]

Oh about the gloves...

I just love the how they feel.

We love them too. My Dom has a pair of black, leather racing gloves that he uses to spank me with. I love the smell, the feel of them when he runs his hands over my body and the smacks he gives me. It reminds me of the floggers, but in a more intimate way that is more personal then what the floggers give me.

 

[WriterDom]

I got new gloves today. Not for play, but I'm sure they'd work for that too.

 

[alice_underneath]

BTW Alice, nice pics. Tonight I am to be prepared in a similar fashion for a photo shoot.

How wonderful! If you have time and are interested in talking about it, I would love to hear about the experience - in whatever way you feel is appropriate to describe it.

 

[RJMasters]

Dear RJ, your transformation into a real life Dom as opposed to an online one is going to be very interesting to watch. Your maturity shows in your patience, your desire to learn the skills involved.

I also feel, having always read your posts, that your decision to go ahead was not made lightly. Your attitude of taking one day at a time is wise because all sorts of emotions & desires are about to be rocket fuelled.

I do speak from experience, having had 2 lengthy vanilla marriages, which whilst loving & close, did not satisfy my core being. For 30 years I tried to be "good". I came to the same crossroads & chose the path which allowed me to be myself, however, there are losses & changes involved. Be prepared, as I know where you are & probably what will happen as time goes on.

I have lived with My Master for a few years now & have not regretted my decision, however, he is Mr Right in all ways, not just B&D.

I have not been loaned before, for photos or sessions & it has been an interesting & quite wonderful experience. I'm proud, too, to be able to do it without argument or fear & to do it well. The photos taken last night will be the property of My Master, but it is indeed possible that he will share them.

Thank you Incubus for the advice and encouragement. I do hope your Master is favorable in the sharing. My best to you both.

 

[RJMasters]

We love them too. My Dom has a pair of black, leather racing gloves that he uses to spank me with. I love the smell, the feel of them when he runs his hands over my body and the smacks he gives me. It reminds me of the floggers, but in a more intimate way that is more personal then what the floggers give me.

Thanks for sharing Pita.

I imagine there is some kind of cross over connect between how most women like shoes to how I like gloves. I am going to buy my next pair this coming weekend and I am going to get me a chest with a lock. I think I am going to get one that I can put ties on the inside lid so that when I open the chest I will be presented with all of my gloves for chosing. Also going to be looking for a carrying case, but that can wait for now.

 

[the captians wench]

Thanks for sharing Pita.

I imagine there is some kind of cross over connect between how most women like shoes to how I like gloves. I am going to buy my next pair this coming weekend and I am going to get me a chest with a lock. I think I am going to get one that I can put ties on the inside lid so that when I open the chest I will be presented with all of my gloves for chosing. Also going to be looking for a carrying case, but that can wait for now.

*purr*

 

[RJMasters]

I got new gloves today. Not for play, but I'm sure they'd work for that too.

Sweet WD. I have been thinking about tip-less kind. I like the the idea of having exposed fingertips to be able to touch. Kind of a dual feeling. Do you like the tipless kind better? Or do both kinds just have different feels you like?

 

[RJMasters]

*purr*

Smiles I bet I know what's going through your mind. You be crooning your neck from where you would be to see what gloves was gonna be picked tonight. Don't let it be the black ones....not the black ones...oh dear please don't let it be the black ones...YESSSSss its the black ones!!! I am so in for it tonight.(instant juiice machine)

Chuckles.

 

[the captians wench]

Smiles I bet I know what's going through your mind. You be crooning your neck from where you would be to see what gloves was gonna be picked tonight. Don't let it be the black ones....not the black ones...oh dear please don't let it be the black ones...YESSSSss its the black ones!!! I am so in for it tonight.(instant juiice machine)

Chuckles.

You've learned me well... and in such a short time.

you may have just given me a bit of insperation.... do you mind if I snag your idea there a bit?

 

[RJMasters]

You've learned me well... and in such a short time.

you may have just given me a bit of insperation.... do you mind if I snag your idea there a bit?

Please help yourself. That's why we share. Enjoy.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Rattan cane is very cheap. Just make sure you don't buy it from a bdsm site. It comes rolled up pretty tight. You have to soak it for several hours in water and then figure out a way to dry it in relatively straight position.

When I made ours, I tied them (every couple of inches) to the broomstick and left them to dry. Worked great and they are still going strong after all these years and tons of use on me and others.

Catalina

 

[RJMasters]

When I made ours, I tied them (every couple of inches) to the broomstick and left them to dry. Worked great and they are still going strong after all these years and tons of use on me and others.

Catalina

That's a good idea. Thank you.

May I ask if hanging it and then weighting the end would work?

I don't know never worked with it before.

 

[the captians wench]

Please help yourself. That's why we share. Enjoy.

Thank you....I'll let you know when it posts.

 

[catalina_francisco]

That's a good idea. Thank you.

May I ask if hanging it and then weighting the end would work?

I don't know never worked with it before.

Don't think it would, but is how I had to manage them once I coated them..had the bathroom ful of canes hanging from the shower while the varnish dripped and dried.

Catalina

 

[Missingmeds]

RJ here is a link to Petsmart's online store particularly the crops and whips that they carry. Just to give you some idea of what you can find in one of their stores. If you have a particular item in mind, I would suggest that you copy down the item number and name and then call your local store to see if they have it and if not, if they can get it.

Whips and Crops

 

[RJMasters]

RJ here is a link to Petsmart's online store particularly the crops and whips that they carry. Just to give you some idea of what you can find in one of their stores. If you have a particular item in mind, I would suggest that you copy down the item number and name and then call your local store to see if they have it and if not, if they can get it.

Whips and Crops

Ah splendid, thank you Missingmeds.

 

[RJMasters]

Don't think it would, but is how I had to manage them once I coated them..had the bathroom ful of canes hanging from the shower while the varnish dripped and dried.

Catalina

Yes after reading up on it I am pretty sure you are right in that it will not work. Your broom handle gave me a great idea though. I'll post a pic when I find what I am looking for online.