Revenge

[scheherazade_79]

I come from a rather conservative Church of Wales home background, where it was drilled into me that turning the other cheek was the only way to deal with people who wronged you.

I have plenty of friends who believe in the fine art of revenge, though, and these days I'm torn between to the two extremes.

Revenge can be a satisfying, fun and creative process - and something you still talk about in years to come. But on the other hand, is it really worth spending so much time and effort on someone who's been a cunt to you?

So what I want to know is this - what's your take on revenge? Have you ever indulged in it? If so, what did you do, and are you proud of it?

 

[starrkers]

Depends on the situation. I can't conceive of a circumstance where I would plot a revenge, but if the opportunity happened to arise, there are several people I wouldn't think twice about returning the cuntery they performed on me

 

[Edward Teach]

I come from a rather conservative Church of Wales home background, where it was drilled into me that turning the other cheek was the only way to deal with people who wronged you.

I have plenty of friends who believe in the fine art of revenge, though, and these days I'm torn between to the two extremes.

Revenge can be a satisfying, fun and creative process - and something you still talk about in years to come. But on the other hand, is it really worth spending so much time and effort on someone who's been a cunt to you?

So what I want to know is this - what's your take on revenge? Have you ever indulged in it? If so, what did you do, and are you proud of it?

I have indulged in revenge a couple of times.

In the very short term I was proud of myself, even boasted about it, but in the longer term, I regretted it and was even ashamed of myself. Each time it began to eat at me.

Currently, I have a very, very good reason to seek revenge against someone who was a close friend but I am fighting the temptation because I know from experience that I will be hurting myself more than him.

Edited to add: I'm not talking about taking up for yourself or getting even for minor trespasses in small ways. I'm talking about plotting to hurt someone -- cause them real pain and/or anguish.

 

[scheherazade_79]

I took revenge once on a guy who'd vandalised my car. I'd parked next to a drop-kerb, without realising its significance, nor caring really, because I was driving my nan home from the doctor's and there was nowhere else I could park without making her walk miles.

When I got back to my car I found that someone had bent the windscreen wipers out of shape and scrawled a message all over the paintwork and front windscreen, telling me not to park there again.

I worked out who it was. It was an old guy whose wife was in a wheelchair. If he'd just left a note I would have understood, felt guilty and never parked there again. But he'd used permanent marker and it wouldn't come off.

I confronted him. He was rude, he was patronising, he threatened more damage to my car if I parked there again. I gave him a 30 minute timescale to put right what he'd done and threatened to report him to the police if he didn't.

He took two hours. I reported him to the police anyway... then took revenge by throwing Japanese ironweed spores into his garden.

I don't know if I'm proud of that one or not, but I still remember the rush of getting revenge and knowing that at least some justice was done.

 

[scheherazade_79]

Depends on the situation. I can't conceive of a circumstance where I would plot a revenge, but if the opportunity happened to arise, there are several people I wouldn't think twice about returning the cuntery they performed on me

I think gay guys are better at doing that.

When I've been wronged in the past I've heard some brilliant yet shocking suggestions from gay men about how to get revenge...

 

[scheherazade_79]

In the very short term I was proud of myself, even boasted about it, but in the longer term, I regretted it and was even ashamed of myself. Each time it began to eat at me.

This is my biggest problem. The conscience thing. Sometimes I wish I had none.

 

[Edward Teach]

This is my biggest problem. The conscience thing. Sometimes I wish I had none.

I think Zade is probably better with conscience.

Sometimes, in order to cause someone real pain, you also hurt others. A simplistic example would be if you beat someone up badly and they couldn't work for a while, you might be hurting their family, their employer and their creditors.

 

[scheherazade_79]

I think Zade is probably better with conscience.

Sometimes, in order to cause someone real pain, you also hurt others. A simplistic example would be if you beat someone up badly and they couldn't work for a while, you might be hurting their family, their employer and their creditors.

True...

I hold out for the rare occasions of poetic justice, when you can sit back and indulge in the Schadenfreude with a completely clean conscience, because it wasn't your doing

 

[Edward Teach]

I took revenge once on a guy who'd vandalised my car. I'd parked next to a drop-kerb, without realising its significance, nor caring really, because I was driving my nan home from the doctor's and there was nowhere else I could park without making her walk miles.

When I got back to my car I found that someone had bent the windscreen wipers out of shape and scrawled a message all over the paintwork and front windscreen, telling me not to park there again.

I worked out who it was. It was an old guy whose wife was in a wheelchair. If he'd just left a note I would have understood, felt guilty and never parked there again. But he'd used permanent marker and it wouldn't come off.

I confronted him. He was rude, he was patronising, he threatened more damage to my car if I parked there again. I gave him a 30 minute timescale to put right what he'd done and threatened to report him to the police if he didn't.

He took two hours. I reported him to the police anyway... then took revenge by throwing Japanese ironweed spores into his garden.

I don't know if I'm proud of that one or not, but I still remember the rush of getting revenge and knowing that at least some justice was done.

I think that's kind of cool. It's not the kind of real pain I'm talking about.

When I was a kid, we used to play ball on a vacant lot. A few times a day the ball would go into the guy who lived across the street's yard. He would bitch and raise hell and keep our ball. One night we poured salt all in his yard. I still love seeing him out trying to save his dying grass.

 

[starrkers]

I have a relative who routinely bad mouths me and mine to all and sundry around town. This relative has tried to create trouble for us with the council over our landholding and our current living arrangements.
I would take great delight in seeing her come unstuck.

 

[scheherazade_79]

I think that's kind of cool. It's not the kind of real pain I'm talking about.

When I was a kid, we used to play ball on a vacant lot. A few times a day the ball would go into the guy who lived across the street's yard. He would bitch and raise hell and keep our ball. One night we poured salt all in his yard. I still love seeing him out trying to save his dying grass.

Is that what happens to grass when you put salt over it?

(Taking notes)

 

[impressive]

I'm as wary of bad karma as a televangelist is of homosexuality. So, no. I don't engage in revenge. But, when the universe eventually turns around and bites them in the butt, I do enjoy the poetic justice.

 

[All_IN]

My take on revenge is that in most cases it's not worth it (unless the injustice is ongoing; in that case I'd label it as self-defense).

I've always wanted to take revenge on some people who stole my money years ago, but they live in another country and doing anything against them would cost a lot of time, energy and money.

So I keep putting it off... and I tell myself that sometime in the future I will get back at them. I rarely think about them nowadays.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

KARMA happens a lot sooner when I assist it.

Justice rarely happens. People fuck you and go fuck others. When I hurt them enough it slows them down a little.

 

[Guest]

I'm as wary of bad karma as a televangelist is of homosexuality. So, no. I don't engage in revenge. But, when the universe eventually turns around and bites them in the butt, I do enjoy the poetic justice.

Oh, yes.

It is frustrating sometimes when that never seems to occur to those who desperately deserve it the most, of course.

 

[impressive]

It is frustrating sometimes when that never seems to occur to those who desperately deserve it the most, of course.

Well, that's when you pay some punk kid to SuperGlue their ass crack shut.

 

[Nirvanadragones]

I'm as wary of bad karma as a televangelist is of homosexuality. So, no. I don't engage in revenge. But, when the universe eventually turns around and bites them in the butt, I do enjoy the poetic justice.

Amen.

 

[Guest]

Well, that's when you pay some punk kid to SuperGlue their ass crack shut.

I really love how you think.

 

[feeeriek]

I'm as wary of bad karma as a televangelist is of homosexuality. So, no. I don't engage in revenge. But, when the universe eventually turns around and bites them in the butt, I do enjoy the poetic justice.

*nods* besides the universe has a much more perverse sense of justice and humor than i could ever think of

 

[scheherazade_79]

I have a relative who routinely bad mouths me and mine to all and sundry around town. This relative has tried to create trouble for us with the council over our landholding and our current living arrangements.
I would take great delight in seeing her come unstuck.

Let me know if you do. Other people's revenge is almost as good as poetic justice, because you don't get the guilt factor

 

[rgraham666]

Revenge is a two edged sword. It cuts not only its victim but also its perpetrator.

 

[lesbiaphrodite]

I dont 'do' revenge. If someone wrongs me, I will handle them right then and there. All fair and even like that.

 

[tickledkitty]

I like to give truly devious and immoral people enough rope to hang themselves. Will I assist? Perhaps. Just a teensy bit.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Oh! If something bad enough happens most people opt for revenge, otherwise theyre cowards.

 

[scheherazade_79]

Revenge is a two edged sword. It cuts not only its victim but also its perpetrator.

But it can be so damn satisfying...