Respect for your Dom

[KoPilot]

I thought we were fairly impartial and factual.

Not really. Words like "tantrum" don't really have a good connotation any way you slice it. But I run a bit positive and optimistic because it's so strange to see people keep trying to say that what I'm doing is resulting in X, or the result of X, when in fact it's resulting in B and is the result of A. :B

 

[lilturtle]

I want nothing more then to make my Daddy happy. I seem to do the opposite at times. I love him so much. He's the first person I've found that is the person I was always looking for. I didn't know it at the time but I've tried to turn past boyfriends into daddies but they weren't that. I know what I want now. I want it so bad it hurts. He is so special to me. He is my one and only Daddy.

 

[MeekMe]

I have a Daddy Dom. I need to learn to respect him more. Well to show it better. I get comfortable and sometimes show disrespect even though I don't mean to. He told me to do something and I figured out a way to get around it because I didn't want to do it. He is trying to get me out of my comfort zone. It really turns me on when he takes control and I like it a lot. I want to push my limits. This is cconsensual. How do you go about pushing limits and working outside of your comfort zone?

]I want nothing more then to make my Daddy happy. I seem to do the opposite at times. [/B] I love him so much. He's the first person I've found that is the person I was always looking for. I didn't know it at the time but I've tried to turn past boyfriends into daddies but they weren't that. I know what I want now. I want it so bad it hurts. He is so special to me. He is my one and only Daddy.

I agreed that I wanted my comfort zone pushed. If it's a hard limit that answer is "No." If it's something I don't have a problem with either way, then I try it out. It's not a bad idea to give something a try at least once. If that one try tells you it's a no, discuss it and move on.

A conversation like: I know we agreed to push limits, but it turns out I really didn't like doing that. I'm happy we could try it out and I now understand a little better what I want and do not want.

When it comes to something that seems kind of scary, I think about how much I trust him. Also, if he wants to, and it makes him happy I try my best. We've discussed things and know a lot about each other and what we both want, so what we do coincides with our agreement.

You should consider how much you want to please him. If you like him as much as you say and it's not a hard limit, what are your reasons for not doing it? Is it scary? Is it that you just don't feel like it? Is it something you just can't bring yourself to do?

If he's pushing you to do something you both agreed you didn't want to do, I think a new discussion needs to take place.

^_^ Otherwise, have fun with it and try your best.

 

[lilturtle]

I asked for his help yesterday which involved commands. It's more for my benefit though. I want to do things for his pleasure too. I think we do need to communicate better and more. It's just a bad time of year for me. I'm just struggling to keep my head above water.

 

[MeekMe]

I asked for his help yesterday which involved commands. It's more for my benefit though. I want to do things for his pleasure too. I think we do need to communicate better and more. It's just a bad time of year for me. I'm just struggling to keep my head above water.

^_^ You just can't help it if you're busy. In that case, life always comes first.

 

[lilturtle]

I have been overemotional. I am craving some physical pain but not sure if my daddy is in the mood for that. It's more my thing then his. I am being so selfish. Grrrrrrr

 

[YourCaptor]

Don't pretend that you can read minds and you will have much better relationships.

 

[Ready4change]

I showed disrespect again or lack of trust might be more like it. I got scared of something. Communication is key and hopefully we will be able to talk about it. This is a constant work in progress. Does anyone else in a D/s relationship find that to be the case?

I understand perfectly. I will also give sass and won't comply, particularly if I'm afraid. I don't have the answer for you, but I do understand.

 

[babslovesherdaddy]

I have a Daddy Dom. I need to learn to respect him more. Well to show it better. I get comfortable and sometimes show disrespect even though I don't mean to. He told me to do something and I figured out a way to get around it because I didn't want to do it. He is trying to get me out of my comfort zone. It really turns me on when he takes control and I like it a lot. I want to push my limits. This is cconsensual. How do you go about pushing limits and working outside of your comfort zone?

I can totally relate to this. My Daddy Dom told me to do something recently and at first I made a lot of excuses why I didn't want to. But I really wanted him to be pleased and it wasn't anything harmful. I lost a whole night's sleep last night until I finally did it and I feel so much better now. Sometimes it just takes me a little time to wrap my head around certain things.

 

[hidden1]

I have been overemotional. I am craving some physical pain but not sure if my daddy is in the mood for that. It's more my thing then his. I am being so selfish. Grrrrrrr

This is the perfect time/thing to communicate. You absolutely must let him know how you are feeling, how busy your life is and what your needs are.

Maybe when you've been together for a few decades, he might be able to figure some of that out on his own, but you can't expect him to know that at the beginning of a relationship.

I thought it was part of his job description to support you and help you thru those times. By not letting him in, you're denying him the chance to be a better Daddy.

Btw, helpful tip for communicating - journaling.