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[Submissiveslut_whore]

So, I'm currently talking to this girl, like we flirt on and off. I once kinda made a joke more like a statement "do you wanna control me, yes please." And she kinda caught onto it, the question she asked me right after this was if "I liked leash."
And since then, she's kinda being bossy with me, like she wanna always show who's in control. And it turns me on so much, but we're still not up for something moreee. Idk what to do

 

[subdudeme13]

So, I'm currently talking to this girl, like we flirt on and off. I once kinda made a joke more like a statement "do you wanna control me, yes please." And she kinda caught onto it, the question she asked me right after this was if "I liked leash."
And since then, she's kinda being bossy with me, like she wanna always show who's in control. And it turns me on so much, but we're still not up for something moreee. Idk what to do

Talk about it and lay out what you want and what she wants. Then go for it.

 

[SirSparky]

I agree, talk about how it makes you feel, what you want to try. Communication is the key. Discuss what works or doesn't. Any suggestions to make it better

 

[subdudeme13]

I agree, talk about how it makes you feel, what you want to try. Communication is the key. Discuss what works or doesn't. Any suggestions to make it better

A domme I used to visit interviewed me during our first meeting. She wanted to know my likes and dislikes. She asked about dressing up and being a sissy and I said it wasn't my thing. I ended up dressed up in heels and nylons and bent over a horse and loving it! I miss her so much!

 

[SirSparky]

Yes, there are both soft and hard limits. Soft limits I like to push my sub on doing. I like the little fight she gives but then succumbs to my will and she finds that she actually loved it. Hard limits I never push on as that's a big no no

 

[spawnofdavey]

@Submissiveslut_whore as the others have said, communication is the key. Talk to each other, find out what you both are looking for, what you like, what you definitely don't like and see if there is a common theme between your interests.

 

[tristantrotsky]

So, I'm currently talking to this girl, like we flirt on and off. I once kinda made a joke more like a statement "do you wanna control me, yes please." And she kinda caught onto it, the question she asked me right after this was if "I liked leash."
And since then, she's kinda being bossy with me, like she wanna always show who's in control. And it turns me on so much, but we're still not up for something moreee. Idk what to do

You could always ask your friend if she would like to have her pussy licked. That usually works, with or without the leash...

 

[liqueur]

And it turns me on so much, but we're still not up for something moreee. Idk what to do

Are you not up for more, or she? And if it's her, how do you know? Has she told you? If it's you, I don't know that there's anything you can do, until you feel you're ready.

But if what you're really asking is how to get the conversation started, once possibility would be to present her with a leash.

 

[liqueur]

But it looks like the OP hasn't registered this thread since he posted it. Maybe he wasn't really looking for advice.

 

[Submissiveslut_whore]

Are you not up for more, or she? And if it's her, how do you know? Has she told you? If it's you, I don't know that there's anything you can do, until you feel you're ready.

But if what you're really asking is how to get the conversation started, once possibility would be to present her with a leash.

I'm up for it, but I'm assuming she isn't,
Oh, And actually a pretty good advice.

 

[SirSparky]

I'm up for it, but I'm assuming she isn't,
Oh, And actually a pretty good advice.

Have you spoken to her and talked it through? You need to do this to understand what she wants and what you need. Is she really up for controlling you or is this just a fantasy thing for her.

 

[Boat1]

I'm up for it, but I'm assuming she isn't,
Oh, And actually a pretty good advice.

IMHO, assumptions, too often, lead to negative outcomes... I'm not a fan of ambiguity.

 

[Samantha47]

A domme I used to visit interviewed me during our first meeting. She wanted to know my likes and dislikes. She asked about dressing up and being a sissy and I said it wasn't my thing. I ended up dressed up in heels and nylons and bent over a horse and loving it! I miss her so much!

That's so sexy to think about

 

[subdudeme13]

IMHO, assumptions, too often, lead to negaive outcomes... I'm not a fan of ambiguity.

Hey Boat! When you assume you make an ass out of u and me!
Hope all is well !

 

[Samantha47]

A domme I used to visit interviewed me during our first meeting. She wanted to know my likes and dislikes. She asked about dressing up and being a sissy and I said it wasn't my thing. I ended up dressed up in heels and nylons and bent over a horse and loving it! I miss her so much!

So sexy

 

[Musinginspace]

So, I'm currently talking to this girl, like we flirt on and off. I once kinda made a joke more like a statement "do you wanna control me, yes please." And she kinda caught onto it, the question she asked me right after this was if "I liked leash."
And since then, she's kinda being bossy with me, like she wanna always show who's in control. And it turns me on so much, but we're still not up for something moreee. Idk what to do

Maybe do something she might not like or disapprove, see if she picks up on it punishing or humiliating you.

 

[Erosfan]

IMHO, assumptions, too often, lead to negative outcomes... I'm not a fan of ambiguity.

You are spot on. Assumptions almost never work out as one might hope. Subtle hints or innuendoes most often don't work either.
After my wife and I really got together, we had some very open discussions. She was the most sexual woman I ever knew. She wasn't too keen on my CFNM interests at first. After many hours of talking through mine and her thoughts, we came to a pretty good understanding. She began to enjoy controlling me, sexually. She understood my needs and limits and I understood hers.
Over time, we enjoyed some amazing times. She was really good at taking me to my limits and occasionally beyond. She was good at getting her sexual fun as well as assuring my needs were met. It worked for us.
I was never able to get her to share our fun with her friends, but she made sure I knew, I was hers in any way she wanted, any time and anywhere she wanted. I loved being hers.