Research

[Luci_nerdy_kink]

I’m weird (autistic af probably lol) and like studying things obsessively.

Been talking to a lot of ladies on here who seem lonely and only getting unwanted sexual attention, so I wanted to figure out the best way to chat with you without being “creepy”.

It seems weird to me that all these women need orgasms so badly with so many men talking to them so much… (I get bombarded JUST by guys who don’t know im male lol)

Any advice would be appreciated.

When I was growing up… there was a group of abused ladies that kept me safe from gangs and people who hurt kids… so I just like chatting with women, and the dudes don’t really understand that

And I’m just extremely into science and learning so everything I do is basically an experiment.

If anybody wants to get to know each other, that would be cool. Have a good day.

 

[EmilyMiller]

I’m weird (autistic af probably lol) and like studying things obsessively.

I’m autistic definitively - diagnosed in my teens. There are a lot of ND people on Lit for some reason.

Been talking to a lot of ladies on here who seem lonely and only getting unwanted sexual attention, so I wanted to figure out the best way to chat with you without being “creepy”.

I think “top ten ways to talk to women” is likely to be creepy, almost by definition. We are the same species. If your goal is just to talk to women, then just talk. If you goal is something else, it would be refreshing if:

1. You said that up front
2. If anything else is not on offer, you immediately accepted that

It seems weird to me that all these women need orgasms so badly with so many men talking to them so much… (I get bombarded JUST by guys who don’t know im male lol)

Don’t assume that just because a woman is on Literotica, she is in need of orgasms - full disclosure, I used to selectively sext here when I was single, now I’m just here to write and as I have a lot of friends I chat (non-sexily) to, or with whom I collab on writing.

And yeah I get all sorts of PMs, most days at least one.

Any advice would be appreciated.

Whether you are looking for a sext partner or just to chat, be friendly, polite, undemanding, and try to be yourself.

And I’m just extremely into science and learning so everything I do is basically an experiment.

Lots of scientists here - and ex-scientists like me

If anybody wants to get to know each other, that would be cool. Have a good day.

Please don’t take this reply as an invitation for sexy talk. I don’t do that anymore.

 

[Luci_nerdy_kink]

I’m autistic definitively - diagnosed in my teens. There are a lot of ND people on Lit for some reason.

I think “top ten ways to talk to women” is likely to be creepy, almost by definition. We are the same species. If your goal is just to talk to women, then just talk. If you goal is something else, it would be refreshing if:

1. You said that up front
2. If anything else is not on offer, you immediately accepted that

Don’t assume that just because a woman is on Literotica, she is in need of orgasms - full disclosure, I used to selectively sext here when I was single, now I’m just here to write and as I have a lot of friends I chat (non-sexily) to, or with whom I collab on writing.

And yeah I get all sorts of PMs, most days at least one.

Whether you are looking for a sext partner or just to chat, be friendly, polite, undemanding, and try to be yourself.

Lots of scientists here - and ex-scientists like me

Please don’t take this reply as an invitation for sexy talk. I don’t do that anymore.

Thank you so much for the in-depth response that makes so much sense.

I may have worded things poorly and suggested that all women want orgasms right now or something…

You know how some people get… I run my mouth a little too much. And I feel forced to go off of a lot of assumptions sometimes… that is not intentional.

You are sexy and beautiful just for existing and being so kind, and any man that wins your heart is very lucky indeed

I was probably seeking out horny women, because I’m impulsive, and there’s a good chance I projected my impulses onto them, which was unintentional, of course.

But I’m having a wonderful time making sure all of these ladies are happy and safe and comfortable.

And people like you help me do that a lot because I have no way to know until we talk about it

Have a wonderful day

 

[EmilyMiller]

Thank you so much for the in-depth response that makes so much sense.

I may have worded things poorly and suggested that all women want orgasms right now or something…

You know how some people get… I run my mouth a little too much. And I feel forced to go off of a lot of assumptions sometimes… that is not intentional.

You are sexy and beautiful just for existing and being so kind, and any man that wins your heart is very lucky indeed

I was probably seeking out horny women, because I’m impulsive, and there’s a good chance I projected my impulses onto them, which was unintentional, of course.

But I’m having a wonderful time making sure all of these ladies are happy and safe and comfortable.

And people like you help me do that a lot because I have no way to know until we talk about it

Have a wonderful day

Good luck. Some women like to play on-line. Some even get off on that with zero connection. But others will want to establish a rapport and to check that needs are aligned first.

And quite a lot of women are here to read or write or socialize and are totally uninterested in any other activities. Start by assuming that and it might help.

The thing I hate most is when people assume I’m an OF gal they don’t have to pay for. Fuck that shit!

 

[Luci_nerdy_kink]

Good luck. Some women like to play on-line. Some even get off on that with zero connection. But others will want to establish a rapport and to check that needs are aligned first.

And quite a lot of women are here to read or write or socialize and are totally uninterested in any other activities. Start by assuming that and it might help.

The thing I hate most is when people assume I’m an OF gal they don’t have to pay for. Fuck that shit!

I would never assume you’re an only fans, girl… I don’t really have anything against them or you lol.

Have a good day!

 

[liliput1]

I’m autistic definitively - diagnosed in my teens. There are a lot of ND people on Lit for some reason.

This question has been bothering me for a month now. I’ve been trying to write it down long form to get it out of my head, but it’s not coming together.

I think maybe that erotica covers a lot of ways that we can end up Othering people, and there’s something cathartic about reading an Ugly Duckling story where the person who is unlucky in love finally realizes they are trying to be something they are not. That they are filtering out the people who will actually make them happy, who will see them.

People who feel they have to mask to be accepted should have each other’s backs. There’s some sympathy and some solidarity to be had there and literotica digs deeper into those topics than one normally encounters.

 

[EmilyMiller]

This question has been bothering me for a month now. I’ve been trying to write it down long form to get it out of my head, but it’s not coming together.

I think maybe that erotica covers a lot of ways that we can end up Othering people, and there’s something cathartic about reading an Ugly Duckling story where the person who is unlucky in love finally realizes they are trying to be something they are not. That they are filtering out the people who will actually make them happy, who will see them.

People who feel they have to mask to be accepted should have each other’s backs. There’s some sympathy and some solidarity to be had there and literotica digs deeper into those topics than one normally encounters.

Might be some truth in that.

 

[Luci_nerdy_kink]

This question has been bothering me for a month now. I’ve been trying to write it down long form to get it out of my head, but it’s not coming together.

I think maybe that erotica covers a lot of ways that we can end up Othering people, and there’s something cathartic about reading an Ugly Duckling story where the person who is unlucky in love finally realizes they are trying to be something they are not. That they are filtering out the people who will actually make them happy, who will see them.

People who feel they have to mask to be accepted should have each other’s backs. There’s some sympathy and some solidarity to be had there and literotica digs deeper into those topics than one normally encounters.

Wow… what an eloquent and beautiful way to put it…

Thank you for that

This is really no reason to other anybody…

We’re all just trying to make friends and procreate as far as I know

I don’t mean to play victim because I’m the person who sets the tone most of the time…

And that is by design, other than my own.