Remote Meaningful Relationship

[FERDY]

What is your experience with establishing such a relationship? I've had one for almost a year and I'm continually amazed by the depth of feelings I have for this woman who I have never met and probably never will. We've emailed, chatted and talked on the phone. If we never meet in person that will in no way effect the emotional and spirtual connection. Prior to this I'd thought that it was necessary to "press the flesh" in order to bond.

 

[FERDY]

Would like your input---Thanks

Bump----Hoping for more responses

 

[teknight]

Hey,
You might have a bit more luck in the "How To" forum.

How do you feel about distance?

 

[FERDY]

Bump------

 

[janeyl]

What is your experience with establishing such a relationship? I've had one for almost a year and I'm continually amazed by the depth of feelings I have for this woman who I have never met and probably never will. We've emailed, chatted and talked on the phone. If we never meet in person that will in no way effect the emotional and spirtual connection. Prior to this I'd thought that it was necessary to "press the flesh" in order to bond.

I've never had that experience to be honest and I'm afraid that not so much "pressing the flesh" is necessary for me but actually being in someones physical prescence is an absolute requirement. I live hugely through my senses and I need all of them stimulating in order to establish that kind of bond, olefactory, gustatory, and tactile especially and that necessitates some degree of contact on some level.

That's not to say that I haven't established really good friendships here and other places but they have generally been hugely enhanced by an actual physical meeting or at least the possibility of it. This would be even more true for a relationship which seems to be what you are talking about here.

I don't wish to belittle anyone elses experience, but you asked for opinions and this is mine

J

 

[littlelovedove]

What is your experience with establishing such a relationship? I've had one for almost a year and I'm continually amazed by the depth of feelings I have for this woman who I have never met and probably never will. We've emailed, chatted and talked on the phone. If we never meet in person that will in no way effect the emotional and spirtual connection. Prior to this I'd thought that it was necessary to "press the flesh" in order to bond.

Interesting topic. Doubt you will get many responses to this.

But.........................I have been in such a relationship. It started out as friendship, by getting to know each other through phone calls, chatting helped. He and I developed a much stronger bond that way. Away from posting on the boards. Now we did post together and many people liked the relationship he and I developed, they said they felt we were 'sweet together'. But our more intimate, personal bond was strengthen by what we said and did offline.

Sadly we never got the opportunity to meet, though we spoke often of the "what if's". "What if we had that chance?" "What would happen when we would see each other face to face for the first time?" "What would happen when/if we had to say our "goodbyes"?" "What would happen if anyone would ever find out? " (seeing that he was single and hiding me from his family and I was/still am married)

It is something that isn't as cut and dry as one may think. RL complications can make a relationship or break it.

He and I knew we were doomed from the start, but true emotions and true romance/love..............never fears the doom.

Not sure if that answered your question. But this is just MHO of the topic.
Just one person's point of view.