relocation of "i need some advise"

[jewel_GR]

i am told i should post this here...sorry for the confusion.



i am new to Literotica's discussion board, but since this is a "how to," i am wondering if anyone has advise on how to beg, convincingly. It is something my Master really desires, but so totally opposite of anything that i have been conditioned for, that it is becoming a problem. i love my Master and want His approval, but i hit a wall when it comes to being this vulnerable...i really need some sound advise. Anyone?

 

[Sex & Diamonds]

Are you asking about online begging ? or in real life ?

Either way, just put your heart into it.

Read some of the BDSM stories on this site, tons of them have begging scenes. They might help.


Good luck with it

 

[cymbidia]

With all due respect, the stuff one reads in the vast majority of the BDSM-type stories here or anywhere else don't have fuck-all to do with what one does on her knees facing her Dominant.

Just *try* to say any of that stuff aloud in the privacy of your own...well...wherever you have your computer.

Doesn't work, mostly, cuz that stuff is designed to be read and get you wet or hard - not as an illustration of what one actually says or does in real flesh-and-blood situations that require a bit of begging.

So, here's what i do in those gotta-do-some-begging situations. (Please trust me when i say that, like you, i'm definitely *not* the begging type.)

1. Focus on what your Dominant needs from you.

2. Feel the submission rising from your heart, the ache to please your Dominant, the need to be found of value and worth to him/her.

3. Remember that you owe your Dominant your sincerity, your truth, your desire. You owe those things to your Dom/me because without them flowing with strength and reality between you, everything between you just kinky sex. (Not that there's anything wrong with "just" kinky sex - please! But "just" kinky sex does not a good, strong, real, lasting, valuable BDSM relationship make, either.)

4. Open your mouth and request (i sometimes cannot think of it as "begging" but i can think of it as "doing the humble request thing") with all the submission in your heart, all the love in veins, all the desire in your body - request that from your Dom/me that s/he's waiting to hear.

Do it from your strength as a submissive.
Make it an act of your submission, something you're offering that's pure and whole and sound and good and right.

It's a gift, to respond to our Dom/mes as they need. They give so much to us, and we give back so much. It's always a two way street.

Sometimes the street is narrow and cluttered and difficult to travel, i know. Sometimes we are asked for that which seems and feels foreign to our nature.

If you really cannot do that thing, sincere begging or caning or piercing or exposing yourself to strangers or whatever they want of you, then you owe that truth to your Dominant. Clearly, Cleanly. Without anger or hurt or bitterness or judgement.

However, if you just don't know how to do something your Dominant wants of you, perhaps it will help to simply reach into the core of yourself, down to the well of strength from which rises the brightness of your submission, and use that as your guideline along the path of openhearted and pure obedience and submission.

I hope this is of help to you.

And welcome to the BDSM Forum here at Lit.

 

[fallon2]

Yeah

Yeah, what cym just said AND do not look up to his eyes , , , keep them lowered until granted permission. Good Luck!

 

[Quint]

Cym, you are an amazing woman. You continually astonish me with your strength and wisdom. I wish I were a Domme so I could hope for a sub like you. As I'm a sub myself, I will learn from you and continue to be awed.

And by the way, your AV is breathtaking.

 

[jewel_GR]

Thank you, cym...your advise is well taken. Master is impressed as well...i am glad that i asked

 

[HotXBunz]

Cymbidia, your words touched me in such a deep place I cried. I have felt that pure submissive place and it is from the deepest recesses of my heart and my desire to please. It is a very pure place. Thanks for sharing.

Welcome to the board jewel_GR.

 

[RisiaSkye]

cym: that was so eloquently stated, you'll have to work hard to knock yourself off this pedastal; you know, the one you keep forcing us to put you on, just by being so damned impressive.

 

[YosemiteSam]

OOps,........can't figgure out how to delete this...

 

[AnonymousSlave]

begging...


i must agree, begging in person and begging in writing are two different things. For one begging in writing you have time to think, time to rethink, to rewrite, you can be serious, you can be humorous... ie:
"i beg of You on stockinged knees
To ravish me and not to tease.
For I am burning with desire;
Tie me up and quench my fire!"

personally when i write... i love the humor...

"i beg of You please,
on my back or on my knees
take me as You wish
and i will be Your favorite dish."

but in person, it must be truely heart felt, there is no replay, no 'do overs'.

 

[jewel_GR]

LOL...thank you AnonymousSlave...either one of those may come in useful...very funny .