Reflections on Gentleman Doms

"Find someone who loves you well.*
Someone who never belittles you. Even
in the heat of an argument. Someone
who is gentle with you, but does not treat
you like you are fragile. Someone who
knows what you are capable of, and
celebrates those pieces of you. Not
someone who is intimated by your
strength. Someone who can call you out*
for being a brat, but doesn’t make you
feel guilty for being flawed. It is not love’s
job to punish you. And remember the*
person you love is just as broken as you
are when they fall short. No one is
perfect – do not hold them to this
standard. Find someone who is patient,*
forgiving, and apologetic. Someone who
practices forgiveness freely and often.*
Love someone who is humble, kind and*
empathetic. Not only with you, but with a*
beggar on the street, or a stranger in the*
supermarket. Common courtesy is*
important. Compassion is important.*
Kindness is important."
 
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Any man can grab a women by her hair
throw her on the bed and rip her clothing off.

Sure he can tie her up, call her a “bitch” or a “slut”
and have rough sex with her. But that is not dominance…
that’s rough sex, maybe even violent sex. If she’s into it, it can
even be fun but that’s still not true dominance.

True dominance is the ability to whisper softly in her ear
then observe as she obediently removes her clothing.
Methodically..one piece at a time.

Watching as she kneels before you offering
her entire self to you. Willingly, without hesitation or reservation.

She will show you her most vulnerable self without
embarrassment or shame. You will know that nothing
makes her happier than making you happy.
 
Any man can grab a women by her hair
throw her on the bed and rip her clothing off.

Sure he can tie her up, call her a “bitch” or a “slut”
and have rough sex with her. But that is not dominance…
that’s rough sex, maybe even violent sex. If she’s into it, it can
even be fun but that’s still not true dominance.

True dominance is the ability to whisper softly in her ear
then observe as she obediently removes her clothing.
Methodically..one piece at a time.

Watching as she kneels before you offering
her entire self to you. Willingly, without hesitation or reservation.

She will show you her most vulnerable self without
embarrassment or shame. You will know that nothing
makes her happier than making you happy.

Yesssssss.

She won't be able to stop that desire to submit to you, or to please you.

(I have missed this thread and the Gentlemen's contributions.)
 
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"Find someone who loves you well.
Someone who never belittles you. Even
in the heat of an argument. Someone
who is gentle with you, but does not treat
you like you are fragile. Someone who
knows what you are capable of, and
celebrates those pieces of you. Not
someone who is intimated by your
strength. Someone who can call you out
for being a brat, but doesn’t make you
feel guilty for being flawed. It is not love’s
job to punish you. And remember the
person you love is just as broken as you
are when they fall short. No one is
perfect – do not hold them to this
standard. Find someone who is patient,
forgiving, and apologetic. Someone who
practices forgiveness freely and often.
Love someone who is humble, kind and
empathetic. Not only with you, but with a
beggar on the street, or a stranger in the
supermarket. Common courtesy is
important. Compassion is important.
Kindness is important."


I love this Mr T. :heart:
 
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There's quite a bit about the Gentleman Dom on this thread. Go figure, it's about Gentleman Doms.*

As I posited in an earlier a post, to me, exercising my learned skills and behaviors as a Gentleman are first and always have been. I know I'm not perfect with it. I do well enough.

It's not a contest though, you know? Neither is being a Dom. Though if you read enough and speak enough about it, one might think it is, which is absurd, of course.

Just want to say a few words about what may be the flipside Gentleman Doms.

What I have read about most recently is about the Warrior Princess. ( Yet another label! :rolleyes:) I'll say a little about her first and provide a link....

https://warriorprincesssub.com/


This female submissive, who is badass, physically, emotionally, mentally, and in spirit. Watch her while she takes on issues important to her, be it family, career, politics, environment, community, social justice, and many others.*

Her fierceness of spirit with which she tackles these issues is not to be taken lightly. She is sharp, driven, energetic, compassionate, breathtaking and more.*

Stand in her way and she will shred you agregiously. She will also notice, with clarity, when you go to battle yourself, either on your own, or with her. She adores the man whose cause is as passionate to him as her own. A man she can count on in battle.*

And for the right Dom that inspires her respect, she will set the warrior aside and enjoin her submissive proclivity to him. The submissiveness that she aches to release.

She'll savor, crave, and maybe even love the man who sees her. Enjoys her. Respects her. Consumes her. She will give him the keys to her inner kingdom that she has won all on her own by the skill of her sword. Trusting him fully, the Gentleman, more than can be imagined.





To my mind, she is the perfect flipside to the Gentleman Dom.:)

She is the one who understands his self possession. His choice of being a Gentleman. She can live quite well without it, but, instead thoroughly enjoys his manner. She can see him, he is not pretentious.

It is a sign of respect. Respect for self and others. He is also no doormat and it shows. His traits are many and varied and he expresses himself well through them. He is and always will be himself.

In time, with the mutual building of trust, friendship, and desire, it may seem as if it were a natural thing for their D/s proclivities to unfold together. Each tasting the other, eventually discovering a richness in sharing with each other through many levels. Friendship, lust, care, desire, comfort, creativity, everyday things, and more.

I can say more, but then it would sound so much like a lecture, and that's not how I want to sound.

For myself, I find the idea intensely and mysteriously erotic in that twisty swirly kind of way of being that flipside dominant to a warrior princess' submissiveness.

She who bends to no one and takes on the world so effectively and yet, will join with me in exploring this side of ourselves. To hear her tiny whisper of a voice speak louder than her loudest yell of outrage


....please....take me


It is an honor and privilege to share so well with her. I enjoy that I am not taken for granted. It is a distinct pleasure to bring to bear all my faculties to this enterprise that is quite beyond mere words to describe.

All this may be fantasy and subjective interpretation. The world is what we create of it.

Good day people.
 
^^^^ :heart: Mr T
An intelligent man will open your mind,
a handsome man will open your eyes,
and a gentleman will open your heart.
 
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