henry0reilly
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My first taste of brown sugar and she's a ghetto snipe, pathological liar, and H - O - T hot in bed. Dump it or hump it? Dump it how with least amount of collateral damage to reputation?
Red hot pathological liar, dump or hump?
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deliciea
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DUMP DUMP DUMP
Hot in bed or not do you really want to be with some body that lies to you
was married to one of those for 7 years hard to tell what is lies and what is truth after a while
And when you have to second guess ever thing that is told to you why bother
just a though
Hot in bed or not do you really want to be with some body that lies to you
was married to one of those for 7 years hard to tell what is lies and what is truth after a while
And when you have to second guess ever thing that is told to you why bother
just a though
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Tell tale signs of an upcoming Jerry Springer episode if you keep on wnadering down that path!
I can see the chairs flying & the security staff restraining one or the both of you guys.
I can see the chairs flying & the security staff restraining one or the both of you guys.
I have to agree with Deliciea. I just had what I thought was a very special friendship come shattering down around me because the only thing he knew how to do well was lie - and not only to me but to his wife as well. (Newlyweds, no less!)
There is a lot I can stand within a relationship, but being honest is foundational. When some one lies, you lose trust in everything about them. If you hump it, do it once and clear out. It ain't worth your time or effort!
There is a lot I can stand within a relationship, but being honest is foundational. When some one lies, you lose trust in everything about them. If you hump it, do it once and clear out. It ain't worth your time or effort!
henry0reilly
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second part of ?
I was pretty sure the opinions were going to lean heavilly towards "dump her" but no one has addressed how I can get out of this and miniminze her anger at me and reduce the likelihood of her trashing my reputation. I really like the club where she bartends and would like to continue going there.
I was pretty sure the opinions were going to lean heavilly towards "dump her" but no one has addressed how I can get out of this and miniminze her anger at me and reduce the likelihood of her trashing my reputation. I really like the club where she bartends and would like to continue going there.
Re: second part of ?
Um.....get her really angry at you so that she dumps you first? Hey, isn't that what most guys do?
Barring that, if she the liar that you say she is, then I am certain others know about it as well, yes? Unless she has everyone fooled - which is possible, but liars are generally discovered in time.
Do other people in the club know you? Have you made relationships with them? Established friendships? You don't say how involved you are with this woman - one night stand or several months. If a one night stand, then I think very few people would bother to get involved. If you have been seeing her for any length of time, well, expect some people to take your "side", others to take hers, and quite a few who stay out of it and just like to watch the fireworks.
If you want to stay with what you yourself is calling a pathological liar just for the sake of your reputation at a club, then perhaps you should consider marrying this girl and making your reputation stellar? (Tongue in cheek joke, of course!)
Live your life. Don't expect others to make your decisions for you. If she starts lies about you, rise above it, and consider the source. Go about your life, and enjoy. (And be sure another bartender makes your drinks for a while!)
henry0reilly said:
Um.....get her really angry at you so that she dumps you first? Hey, isn't that what most guys do?
Barring that, if she the liar that you say she is, then I am certain others know about it as well, yes? Unless she has everyone fooled - which is possible, but liars are generally discovered in time.
Do other people in the club know you? Have you made relationships with them? Established friendships? You don't say how involved you are with this woman - one night stand or several months. If a one night stand, then I think very few people would bother to get involved. If you have been seeing her for any length of time, well, expect some people to take your "side", others to take hers, and quite a few who stay out of it and just like to watch the fireworks.
If you want to stay with what you yourself is calling a pathological liar just for the sake of your reputation at a club, then perhaps you should consider marrying this girl and making your reputation stellar? (Tongue in cheek joke, of course!)
Live your life. Don't expect others to make your decisions for you. If she starts lies about you, rise above it, and consider the source. Go about your life, and enjoy. (And be sure another bartender makes your drinks for a while!
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Re: second part of ?
If you guys split, why worry about HER anger at you. At that point she should no longer be an item to you & vice versa. Why worry about her opinion especially if she's a liar?? There will always be a load of people out there that'll like & hate you for all kinds of reasons; some genuine & some libelous. You can't go around defending your name & honor at every turn when somebody speaks poorly of you. You can just go around doing what you know to be right & sincere. Don't let other people dictate to you where & how you want to lead life... ESPECIALLY the ones that don't care for you any more.
Don't let her ruin or control your life any more. You don't owe her anything nor does she owe you anything. You guys are no longer an item. And quite honestly if she was even half a mature person, she wouldn't even bad mouth you... but then that's HER choice.
henry0reilly said:
If you guys split, why worry about HER anger at you. At that point she should no longer be an item to you & vice versa. Why worry about her opinion especially if she's a liar?? There will always be a load of people out there that'll like & hate you for all kinds of reasons; some genuine & some libelous. You can't go around defending your name & honor at every turn when somebody speaks poorly of you. You can just go around doing what you know to be right & sincere. Don't let other people dictate to you where & how you want to lead life... ESPECIALLY the ones that don't care for you any more.
Don't let her ruin or control your life any more. You don't owe her anything nor does she owe you anything. You guys are no longer an item. And quite honestly if she was even half a mature person, she wouldn't even bad mouth you... but then that's HER choice.
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ok, im going to go against the trend here and say 'hump'. but leave it at that. if your lucky enough that she's cool with having a purely sexual relationship, just keep her around for fun
if however, you decide to dump her, try to catch her in one of her little lies.. she'll probibly be embarassed as hell and want to avoid you so that you dont ruin her reputation.
of course these are just my ideas, it would be easier to make the judgement if i knew you both; this is just my cold reading.
if however, you decide to dump her, try to catch her in one of her little lies.. she'll probibly be embarassed as hell and want to avoid you so that you dont ruin her reputation.
of course these are just my ideas, it would be easier to make the judgement if i knew you both; this is just my cold reading.
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DO NOT HUMP IF YOU PLAN TO DUMP!!!
If she's as coniving as you say, let her go.
Don't give her any incentive to dump you.
Because it sounds as if she'd bad mouth you anyway.
Your situation is a little tricky.
Is there any way that you can get her fired, cause that would solve everything.
If she's as coniving as you say, let her go.
Don't give her any incentive to dump you.
Because it sounds as if she'd bad mouth you anyway.
Your situation is a little tricky.
Is there any way that you can get her fired, cause that would solve everything.
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Who's to say she's not already bad mouthing you? She sounds like trouble any which way you cut it. Ditch & run. You don't need that kind of grief in your life.
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How would you know if she is good in bed? Talk is pretty damn cheap. Dump it and find someone worth while.
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Mona said:Is there any way that you can get her fired, cause that would solve everything.
tell her boss that she was hitting on you in the club.... that should do a good job of getting her in trouble at work.
henry0reilly
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clarifications
The original subject line should have said, "continue to hump or dump?" I certainly don't want to attempt to get her fired, but even if I did her boss knows we are seeing each other. But several of the replies have missed the point of my inquiry....how to dump her WITHOUT pissing her off....that would be why this is posted in the "how to" forum.
The original subject line should have said, "continue to hump or dump?" I certainly don't want to attempt to get her fired, but even if I did her boss knows we are seeing each other. But several of the replies have missed the point of my inquiry....how to dump her WITHOUT pissing her off....that would be why this is posted in the "how to" forum.
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Re: clarifications
I really can't see any way of dumping her and NOT pissing her off. I'd dump her just to save YOUR reputation! Don't worry about what she's gonna say about you; you've got to do right by you.
henry0reilly said:
I really can't see any way of dumping her and NOT pissing her off. I'd dump her just to save YOUR reputation! Don't worry about what she's gonna say about you; you've got to do right by you.
Okay, you want the play by play action? (I'm presuming you have never, ever ended a relationship with anyone from your comments.)
1. Take her some place private, but unromantic. Be certain she is unarmed.
2. Highlight her good qualities to her - certainly there are more than one or two, and certainly more than what she can do in bed.
3. Tell her the relationship just isn't working for you, you've tried, but it just isn't there.
4. Let her know that she is still a good person (Okay, that's a bit of a lie, but she must have some good deep down inside?), and that there is some one out there who will love her and give her all she deserves - but it just can't be you.
5. Let her know you want to still be civil to each other, as you will probably still continue to see one another on occasion.
6. Say good-bye and leave.
If she is totally unreasonable, you will have lost her at #3. She might be ranting and raving for the next 3 points, but say them anyway. It might also be a not so bad thing to skip the club where she works for a couple of weeks - she may just get even more pissed if she sees you hitting on another woman. Think with your head, not your dick.
Be prepared for the fact that she will probably get pissed off. Period. That's normally what happens when one person wants the relationship to end and the other doesn't.
But, uh, a word of unsolicited advice? Next time keep it in your pants until you've determined exactly what kind of person you are dealing with and what kind of relationship you want to have.
1. Take her some place private, but unromantic. Be certain she is unarmed.
2. Highlight her good qualities to her - certainly there are more than one or two, and certainly more than what she can do in bed.
3. Tell her the relationship just isn't working for you, you've tried, but it just isn't there.
4. Let her know that she is still a good person (Okay, that's a bit of a lie, but she must have some good deep down inside?), and that there is some one out there who will love her and give her all she deserves - but it just can't be you.
5. Let her know you want to still be civil to each other, as you will probably still continue to see one another on occasion.
6. Say good-bye and leave.
If she is totally unreasonable, you will have lost her at #3. She might be ranting and raving for the next 3 points, but say them anyway. It might also be a not so bad thing to skip the club where she works for a couple of weeks - she may just get even more pissed if she sees you hitting on another woman. Think with your head, not your dick.
Be prepared for the fact that she will probably get pissed off. Period. That's normally what happens when one person wants the relationship to end and the other doesn't.
But, uh, a word of unsolicited advice? Next time keep it in your pants until you've determined exactly what kind of person you are dealing with and what kind of relationship you want to have.
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dump her ,cuz once a liar is always a liar and once a cheater is always a cheater....
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i was married to a compulsive liar for 9 years.... divorced her and still having to deal with her lying ass even now... not a word comes out of her mouth do i believe.... experience tells me if her mouth is moving she is lying.... dump her!
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i was married to a compulsive liar for 9 years.... divorced her and still having to deal with her lying ass even now... not a word comes out of her mouth do i believe.... experience tells me if her mouth is moving she is lying.... dump her!
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Re: clarifications
Ewwww.......if she's a lier, God only KNOWS what she's lied to YOU about ("oh yeah - I ALWAYS wear a condom.........you're the first guy I've had unprotected sex with..." Yeah RIGHT!!) WHY take the risk????? It's not worth it.
Nothing personal, but I gotta believe you AREN'T so hard-up that you'd go to this extreme for a little (albeit, "great") sex.
Geezzzzzz - I wish my Ex's had been that concerned about MY anger!
I say hold on to your integrity...............Dump her, take the heat where her anger is concerned (and perhaps buy a locking gas cap), and drink elsewhere for a while.
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henry0reilly said:
Ewwww.......if she's a lier, God only KNOWS what she's lied to YOU about ("oh yeah - I ALWAYS wear a condom.........you're the first guy I've had unprotected sex with..." Yeah RIGHT!!) WHY take the risk????? It's not worth it.
Nothing personal, but I gotta believe you AREN'T so hard-up that you'd go to this extreme for a little (albeit, "great") sex.
Geezzzzzz - I wish my Ex's had been that concerned about MY anger!
I say hold on to your integrity...............Dump her, take the heat where her anger is concerned (and perhaps buy a locking gas cap), and drink elsewhere for a while.
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