Really sensitive clitoris/ pillow orgasms ?

[newbie_dom]

I'm with a woman who seemingly has a very sensitive clitoris. Whereas with other woman I would touch and stroke the clitoris, with this woman it is too much, she is too sensitive.

She told me that she has never orgasmmed from touching herself, but rather rides a pillow between her legs. She did orgasm with me while having sex, by grinding her crotch on my pubic bone.

I'm at a loss as to how I would give her pleasure with my fingers. Is anyone else out there this sensitive ? If so, what feels good for you ?

 

[fluttertongue]

Put something between your fingers and her clit....panties, a towel, something like that. Experiment until you get the right amount of "buffer."

 

[mjl2010]

I had a girlfriend once with a clit like this. Fingers on her clit were a no-no. However, two fingers in her pussy, rubbing her g-spot and my tongue Along Side her clit were great. Then just as she started to cum, I'd suck on it as hard as I could and rub it with my tongue at the same time.

Talk about screaming! Then it would suddenly be over and she'd be pushing me away and getting off the bed until she could stand just to stand there again. I don't miss her, but I've never met a woman with a clit like that again.

Anyway, can you touch along side of it, instead of right on it. That's usually better to start out with anyway.

Always wondered, after I got older, what she would have been like if I'd tied her down and just made her take it for say ten or twelve big ones.

MJL

 

[ms.read]

mjl, speaking from experience, you would have desensitized her completely by shorting out the circut.

 

[reignophelia]

Hi,

I'd suggest something similar to Mjl, in that you should start out beside or just above the hood. Be very gentle and lube up, yes, the clit needs a little as well, or it can burn.

Hope this helps.

-Ophelia

 

[M's girl]

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[PertPerth]

I'm with a woman who seemingly has a very sensitive clitoris. Whereas with other woman I would touch and stroke the clitoris, with this woman it is too much, she is too sensitive.

She told me that she has never orgasmmed from touching herself, but rather rides a pillow between her legs. She did orgasm with me while having sex, by grinding her crotch on my pubic bone.

I'm at a loss as to how I would give her pleasure with my fingers. Is anyone else out there this sensitive ? If so, what feels good for you ?

This is exactly how I am.

I agree with other replies : non-direct contact is a good option and always use lots of lube (I recommend silicone-based).
Another thing could be to try stimulating her clit with other parts of your body - not your fingers. Your leg, arm - even the heel/palm of your hand. That way the pressure isn't so direct.
She also might like to go and get a prescription for a cortisone cream (apply twice daily). My doctor gave me some to try 6 months ago. It's helped a little, but definitely not a 'cure'.

~Pert

 

[Dreamliner]

This is, in my experience reasonably common.

In general it seems to be more when the woman is nearly ready to orgasm and just needs that little bit extra to take her over the top, yet, touching the clit directly is too sensitive and can actually remove the desire to orgasm.

Better at this point to gently stimulate the side of the clit! You can tell as in general when a woman is very excited the clit extends from the hood and just before climax will often retract. use your eyes and ears and your sense of touch.

Another option is to focus stimulation on the vagina or the perenium.

Have fun discovering with each other.

 

[naamplao]

I'm with a woman who seemingly has a very sensitive clitoris. Whereas with other woman I would touch and stroke the clitoris, with this woman it is too much, she is too sensitive.

She told me that she has never orgasmmed from touching herself, but rather rides a pillow between her legs. She did orgasm with me while having sex, by grinding her crotch on my pubic bone.

I'm at a loss as to how I would give her pleasure with my fingers. Is anyone else out there this sensitive ? If so, what feels good for you ?

You have my sympathy completely. I wrote a thread about this experience with a woman I knew in France. I had to be ultra gentle with any stroking of her clit or even the top of her mound. It really is disconcerting to your normal style of love making, isn't it? Everything that worked soooo well including oral sex. now is too rough for her. She didn't even like to be fingered inside. I tried that sure-fire method of Mr. G's to no effect at all. She didn't like fingers or penis insertion for that matter {sigh}

Eventually I discovered that she did like to be cuddled with me spooning her from behind and she liked to wiggle her sweet bottom into my groin. I am not used to ass play but I experimented a bit and found that she liked me to rim her anus with my finger. My stay was too short to explore this further as I found this out towards the end of my trip and frankly I have never had anal sex so I was nervous about going too far, too fast.

But you might try this...

 

[mjl2010]

... it's not just that little button and it's not a Playstation remote control thing that makes her do tricks if you push button x.

Oh God major coffee spew. The image this gave me I can't begin to explain. Even though some guys probably think this and it's not funny, I am so LMAO.

Where's those damn paper towels now?

MJL

 

[mjl2010]

mjl, speaking from experience, you would have desensitized her completely by shorting out the circut.

I realize that, but sometimes I tend to have perverse thoughts.

There is a thread over in that BDSM place that talks about forced orgasms, but that's a different topic all together. It was interesting to read.

MJL

 

[playmiss]

glancing surprise only

In reading all the postings on this subject, I am surprised at how many of these responses I could have written myself. Like so many others, I am terribly sensitive there. I had no idea that so many others were also. Sometimes Playmaster touches my clit in the midst of his other ministrations, but he has learned not to do anything more than a glancing surprise because any extended direct contact desensitizes me completely, and that ruins it for both of us. Instead, when touching that area, he teases all around it, and his glancing surprises then become something that might happen and might not, and my anticipation of it heightens the experience. Most of our play is about teasing. He is a bit older than me and very experienced at it. He doesn't just go for the big O. His approach is to sorta nudge me in that direction and enjoy the effect. When I play with myself, I use two fingers to the sides or the heel of my hand. Anything direct for more than a moment, I just can't stand it, and my whole sexuality just shuts down.

 

[Bottomlover]

A former GF is like this, and fortunately she was able to teach me what felt good to her. There are 2 things that feel sort of like a string under the skin, and they run down the inside of the labia forming an inverted "V", with the apex at the clitoris. Gently stroking these things along their length drove her crazy.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm with a woman who seemingly has a very sensitive clitoris. Whereas with other woman I would touch and stroke the clitoris, with this woman it is too much, she is too sensitive.

She told me that she has never orgasmmed from touching herself, but rather rides a pillow between her legs. She did orgasm with me while having sex, by grinding her crotch on my pubic bone.

I'm at a loss as to how I would give her pleasure with my fingers. Is anyone else out there this sensitive ? If so, what feels good for you ?

Let me just say that it is sooooo freaking wonderful when two people fit together well enough that this can happen.

*sigh*

 

[playmiss]

i know the feeling

A former GF is like this, and fortunately she was able to teach me what felt good to her. There are 2 things that feel sort of like a string under the skin, and they run down the inside of the labia forming an inverted "V", with the apex at the clitoris. Gently stroking these things along their length drove her crazy.

Yup, that does it for me also. Very good description, Bottomlover. When he ever-so-lightly teases those "strings," as well as stoppng to do other things to surprise me, he knows how to slowly build up the tension for me. When I am by myself, I also tease on either side of that "apex" and sometimes a little above it. It seems to pull the skin in that area in such a delicious way. Like a few other women I've conversed with about this, my clitoris is not very obvious. In fact I am not really able to identify it (in a mirror--believe I've looked and looked) as a separate item in those wrinkles of skin. There just seems to be a bundle of very sensitive invisible nerves all meeting in a tiny area there.

By the way, your former GF is lucky to have had a guy who wanted to learn. I know many women who complain about their guys not wanting to let them teach them what they really like (and don't like).

 

[indecision04]

Like the penis the clit has a wider base underneath; it's not just that little button and it's not a Playstation remote control thing that makes her do tricks if you push button x.

Of course not.

You have to press ↑ ↑ ↓ ↓ ← → ← → B A start.

 

[M's girl]

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[mjl2010]

Of course not.

You have to press ↑ ↑ ↓ ↓ ← → ← → B A start.

How did you get those nice arrows here? All this time I've been stuck with <--???

<grumbles off>

MJL

 

[Yang4yin]

How did you get those nice arrows here? All this time I've been stuck with <--???

<grumbles off>

MJL

If you use Windows, take a look at the Character Map. (In XP, go to the Accessories folder and look in System Tools.) There are all kinds of symbols you can use.

← ↑ → ↓ ↔ ↕ ♀ ♂

 

[Jagged]

I'm with a woman who seemingly has a very sensitive clitoris. Whereas with other woman I would touch and stroke the clitoris, with this woman it is too much, she is too sensitive.

She told me that she has never orgasmmed from touching herself, but rather rides a pillow between her legs. She did orgasm with me while having sex, by grinding her crotch on my pubic bone.

I'm at a loss as to how I would give her pleasure with my fingers. Is anyone else out there this sensitive ? If so, what feels good for you ?

I have heard that from one or two women over the years...including one woman who said her first orgasm was from humping a pillow in bed.

Another confess to riding a couch leg to get off...

 

[cookiemama]

*kills self laughing at the Playstation imagery*

*wipes tears*

Gawd how true!

Anyways, to the OP - moi aussi, especially when I'm not warmed up. Even when I masturbate, it just doesn't feel good to go directly for my naked bits. I always start by keeping my undies on. If I'm alone, it feels best to rub through my panties and use my vibrator on my clit over my panties first. Then, when I'm really horny, I can touch directly and it feels really good.

AFAIK, a lot of women are like that - it isn't until we get really hot and bothered that direct clit stimulation feels good. And keeping it wet wet wet is a GOOD thing - it's SOOOOOO much more delicious when everything is nice and slick.

*squirms at the thought*

YMMV, as always. Best thing to do is go along with her cues and even watch her masturbate, if she'll let you. I know sometimes I have to shove the hubby away because he's not pressing *quite* in the right place, or quite the right way.

 

[PassionateStars]

mmm

Sensitive clit - pillow orgasms. Many women are especially sensitive - walking in jeans can be a torment and a pleasure. But just the right touch at the right moment - mmmm!

 

[fun2playwith]

I must be buying the wrong kind of pillow

 

[PassionateStars]

Pillow tummy or back

It is always interesting to me how some women prefer to be on their tummy when they play with themselves, hand under their mound against the clit, and others prefer on their back, often legs wide apart, and so so visible. Women here: what's your preference and desire?

 

[Luna_Bella]

I am also very sensitive .... to this day I still have a hard time enjoying oral sex especially since my partner is always so eager and tends to use a little too much pressure /suction.......

I am a belly girl when it comes to pleasing myself, it helps distribute the pressure all around instead of on the spot... I can orgasm in less than 2 minutes that way......It's not a screaming orgasm but it sure gets me wanting more!!!