Quitting Smoking...

[waaitg]

Oh....BTW....To the six people that PMed me about fulfilling their smoking fetish...

Fuck you, you motherfucking asshole! Is that clear enough?!?!?!?!

I'd say name them.

The community would be better off knowing what kind of self-serving scumbugs would do this.

W~

 

[kiwi_submissive]

All the best to you in your efforts.

My brother smoked for nearly a decade and it took him multiple tries before it finally took. What I learned was that in his case, it was the 3rd day that was the hardest for him (aside from stressful days).

Don't worry if you have trouble, there are people who care for you and want to help you. Let them know and keep us posted.

W~

On my numerous attempts I found the hardest to be about a week into it when I thought the craving had stopped so stupidly would think that I could just have one smoke and it would be OK.

 

[knot_sweet]

When my mum quit she was terrified of this. She's a recovered (mostly) anorexic so the thought of gaining weight was one of her chief concerns.

Nicotine, like many stimulants, is an appetite suppressant. Ciggarettes also contain sweeteners. So when you quit you body regains the ability to feel hunger properly and automatically goes on the hunt for the sugars you've unwittingly been inhaling for years.

The chromium supplement absolutely takes care of the sugar cravings. Mum didn't gain any weight at all.

Incidentally, I started taking it. I'm an emotional eater (it doesn't help that I just really like food either) and it stopped me wanting sweet foods. I still like them, but I don't crave them at all. so bonus weight loss tool too!

 

[satindesire]

I'd say name them.

The community would be better off knowing what kind of self-serving scumbugs would do this.

W~

It's against TOS to reveal IMs with names attached.

 

[zarngash]

I have decided that Friday March 16th, I am quitting smoking. It is a long time coming. I'm 36, have smoked since I was 14, with the only exceptions being my pregnancies. (Even then I wasn't fully quit... I still snuck one every few days.) It's affecting my health, obviously...and my self-esteem. I need to do this for my kids and for my girl who is utterly repulsed by smoking, but wants to be with me anyway... (go figure...) There is a huge age difference between us, and I need to be my healthiest to "keep up" with her...

So..for anyone who has done it... What worked for you???

I quit smoking last year. I've been smoke free for 14 months. I had quit several times before. And started back up again. One time I had quit for 3 years. I learned from each of those failures, so in reality they became my way to build success.

For me, I had to find all those reasons to quit and keep them in the front of my mind. I still have my last empty pack. It is in the console of my jeep. Every time I open it up I see it and remind myself why I gave up smoking (I smile to now). For me, quitting smoking has become the ultimate expression of self love and self care. I didn't want to gain weight during that time either, so I dove into exercise and slowly making healthy and mindful food choices. I lost 15 pounds at first. Thus far I lost 40 pounds and my TC (total cholesterol) has went from the danger zone of 230 to 160. I'll be turning 40 this year and I don't think I've ever felt so go, or taken care of myself (and family) so well, or looked as good.

So for me it has been a very selfish (in a good way) self loving, self care thing to do. I wish you the best on your journey. Have faith in yourself. Learn from both your successes and failures, and celebrate both to.

Lots of love~

 

[havsumfun1]

HP good luck, this is a lot easier than you think. The first 3 to 7 days are the hardest. The trick is to wait out every craving to smoke. If you can occupy yourself for five minutes the craving will pass. You will find yourself a very busy and productive person, instead of sitting, there smoking you will be cleaning, tidying, exercising, reading, whatever you need to do to go that 5 minutes until the craving passes.

Do not go into this with the mindset that you're embarking on an impossible quest sure to fail. Instead, realize this is test of your will power and dare yourself to be stronger than the cigarettes.

What helped me most was printing out a list of the benefits of quitting and reading it until the cravings pass. I was the heaviest smoker imaginable and am surprised how easy it was to quit.

The only weight I've gained is muscle because now I work out 3 to 5 times a week. Can't even tell you how much $$ I've saved. Everything smells better and I no longer have to deal with annoying anti-smoke Nazis.

You're going to feel weird for the first week, just realize you're flushing garbage out of your mind and body

Good luck!

 

[BiBunny]

Just coming back to this thread after seeing all the talk of drugs to ease the transition, and of how much willpower it all requires etc**. As someone who has been free of tobacco (both mentally and physically) for 8 years, I would URGE you to read the Allen Carr book. It requires only about a week's worth of willpower, if that, and no drugs or replacements, and no hypnosis or anything like that.

That one book really DOES make quitting smoking easy (almost enjoyable!), even for the heaviest, most addicted smoker.

I strongly urge you to acquire it and read at least half of it before 16th March.


[**edited to add: for the avoidance of doubt, I tried willpower for many years. I was truly very addicted. I am NOT dismissing how hard it is to give up smoking without Carr's method - I've been there, and done that, many times, and those times were some of the hardest of my life]

I am very glad that the book worked for you, but I would say that there's no shame in using whatever tools are at your disposal--medication, especially--to stop smoking.

 

[Cattypuss]

I am very glad that the book worked for you, but I would say that there's no shame in using whatever tools are at your disposal--medication, especially--to stop smoking.

Oh I agree and in no way at all was I implying that there's any shame in using anything in the fight against nicotine addiction. I also volunteered in my first post in this thread that the book may not work for everyone. But I would think that reading a book before taking a pill or whatever would make sense, in case the book obviates the need for the pill.

 

[BiBunny]

Oh I agree and in no way at all was I implying that there's any shame in using anything in the fight against nicotine addiction. I also volunteered in my first post in this thread that the book may not work for everyone. But I would think that reading a book before taking a pill or whatever would make sense, in case the book obviates the need for the pill.

Right, that makes total sense.

 

[waaitg]

It's against TOS to reveal IMs with names attached.

Thank you for letting me know. I was not aware. I will keep this is mind for the future.

W~

 

[satindesire]

Thank you for letting me know. I was not aware. I will keep this is mind for the future.

W~

No probs, bobs.

 

[DVS]

I'd say name them.

The community would be better off knowing what kind of self-serving scumbugs would do this.

W~

I'd say name them, too. But, it's against the rules. And the irony of it is these people know that too, so I think it fuels their skanky tendencies that much more. It's kind of like the alts people create so they can be another person. They develop a likable personality with one screen name, then they create another one just to be skanky and rude. Why? Because they can.

I classify them with the Fred Phelps family. Fred pickets funerals of dead soldiers because it keeps his name in the news. Nobody likes it, but he doesn't care. He calls his group a church, but most of his followers are actually family members and many of his kids are attorneys. Their only client is the Fred Phelps church and they know their laws. They know how far they can go without infringing on the law. That also tends to piss the rest of the world off. And Fred loves it.

You see it on YouTube video posts. The snarky ones that always post contrary themed messages and it's usually just to piss people off. They enjoy it most, when others confront them. That is called "feeding the trolls". We do that here. Many of us do it just for fun, but the troll loves the attention.

As for the alts, we don't know if they are actually people we know just having some fun or if they are just bored 14 year old kids looking for some action. Maybe it's a game amongst them to see who can fuel the most rage in people.

Whatever their desires, they are safe from harm because they hide behind a screen name. Personally, I'd at least allow people to post their hate messages so everybody can see. But they are call Private Messages (PMs) because they are meant for only one person.

And if it was allowed to post screen names or even messages without names, what's it cost to start up another screen name? Hopefully, they smoke a lot and will die young. One can only hope.

See how I merged that rant back into the topic of the thread? God, I'm good.

 

[Etaski]

Well....you can post the messages without the screen names (there are a couple of "PM asshatery" threads in existence, as I understand it), so at the very least, the "private" comments can be made public and people can join in a good finger-pointing.

It's the only support I know of, and we should have it. Why protect and coddle the narcissistic, anti-social, conceited, self-centered, and malevolently selfish as if society doesn't have a right to comment on their ill behavior?

Laughter is the best way to castrate a fair number of them, from what I've seen.

 

[ravi64]

Well....you can post the messages without the screen names (there are a couple of "PM asshatery" threads in existence, as I understand it), so at the very least, the "private" comments can be made public and people can join in a good finger-pointing.

It's the only support I know of, and we should have it. Why protect and coddle the narcissistic, anti-social, conceited, self-centered, and malevolently selfish as if society doesn't have a right to comment on their ill behavior?

Laughter is the best way to castrate a fair number of them, from what I've seen.

Laughter is the best way to castrate a fair number of them
Indeed!!! You write very well.

 

[Cattypuss]

Best of luck for your quit-day tomorrow, HottieMama!

You can do it!

We're all rooting for you!