quick question

[Kemet]

Just wanted to see if anyone could help me, sex with my girlfriend always has been and continues to be great we never fail to satisfy each other. The only possible problem is that it take me a long time to achieve orgasm. It takes me around an hour of sex for me to finsh, it also takes around that long for me to masturbating. My girlfriend has never complained about it she says that she likes the fact that I can last so long, but I was wondering if there is anything wrong with me. What do you guys/girls think?

 

[sheath]

You last an hour? And this is a usual thing?

Honey, you aren't normal. You are BETTER than normal. You are a rarity. Your girlfriend is a lucky lady!

S.

 

[Sybarist]

Yeah, what Sheath said!!


The girlfriend knows when she has it good, you'd hear no complaining from me either!!

Syb.

 

[quickfoot]

I also can go an hour no problem but it becomes a problem when every encounter takes at least an hour there tend to be fewer of them.

The other problem I've encountered is going so long it is not possible for me to finish, which is a pretty fine line and does not do much to boost the self esteem of your female companion.

There was a really good thread about this a while ago https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=208028

There isn't anything wrong with you, and it's good to be able to last but it is fun going quicker sometimes too.

It takes some practice, I spent most my teenage years practing on how to go long and am now having to learn how to not go so long.

It can also cause soreness for her if it goes too long BUT if both of you are happy and she isn't complaing I don't think you need to be worried to death about it.

You might bring it up and make sure she is ok with how long you last, if she is don't fix it if it isn't broken.

 

[CelticFrog]

HOLY CRAPOLA!!!

Hon, there are likely people lining up to worship at your feet.

Of course, as much as I'd like to experience that with MY husband, it could get sore real quick. And if quickies are an impossibility, then that would cut out a good quarter of our fun.

Still...
that's pretty damn impressive.

Ang

 

[lovechild27]

Nothing better than an hour long bang fest! your perfectly normal.

 

[Kemet]

Well she has never complained about soreness, she doesn't really say much during sex, although I have on occasion tired her out. We still do get have our quickies before work and dinner and all, I just don't usually orgasm. Which is perfectly fine with me, I am happy just driving her wild.

 

[Kemet]

So I take it from the response that I have nothing wrong with me . Good to know, I was a bit worried that I was a freak or had some sort of problem.

 

[Sarah_C]

As others have said, there's nothing wrong with you.

However, this has a name - just like premature ejaculation does. It's called Retarded Ejaculation.

The name might sound mean or nasty, but it's using Retarded in the proper way - to mean "slowed down."

About 1 in ten men have this at some point in their lives, and some have it to such a degree that they actually seek medical advice about it.

It's good that you and your partner seem to have such good attitudes towards it - because it can be very frustrating and depressing for either person when one of them has trouble coming as soon as they would like to.

By the way - my partner was like this when we met - it took us almost a year for him to get the time it took him to come down from an hour to six minutes (that doesn;t mean he never goes over six mins now, just that he can choose to come sooner or later, sepending on how we both feel.)

There's a good article on retarded ejaculation here.

Good luck and happy sex

 

[Kemet]

Didn't know there was a name for this, I have had this for about 5 years now I would guess. Although I don't mind if it doesn't go away, I don't need an orgasm every time I have sex, just the act and seeing her reaction is enough for me most of the time.

 

[Lust Engine]

I guess I probably fall into that retarded ejaculation syndrome too because I sometimes take forever to cum with a female partner. While it's "impressive" to last so long for certain lovers, I've also had others who've been disappointed with themselves because they couldn't get me to orgasm. I try my darndest to re-assure them that it's okay and I'm more than satisfied with them. I totally enjoy a woman having an orgasm. It's wonderful if you & your partners are okay with the situation though.

Sometimes sex isn't about the orgasm & the release to me. It's about the intimacy with the other person. As long as that's priority one with the both of you I think there shouldn't be any problems.

It's when she feels obligated or hurt somehow that they didn't reciprocate enough is when I've had issues. Some of us just aren't wired that way! And far be it that I didn't enjoy myself thoroughly either.

 

[Kemet]

After looking through that article I am not sure if I have reatarded ejaculation, my equipment has been checked thoroughly by a doctor somewhat recently, I at the moment have little stress or anxiety in my life(especially not on my mind during sex). And for once I feel secure in a relationship with a woman. Also I have no problem reaching and orgasm, I don't need any special circumstances to do it in, I just last for awhile. My girlfriend did make the comment when I asked that she likes that I can perform for so long.

 

[zhukov1943]

I hear ya, man - I've had a similar problem. I think I know what causes it - you need more stimulation! If you're used to "dry" masturbation, good old "wet" vaginal sex may not be giving you enough "rubbin'", so to speak! If she's really wet, try pulling out and wiping off your cock, then putting it back in. Of course, if this is uncomfortable for her (as is might well be!) you might have to figure out something different...

Whoops - just re-read your original post, and you've got the same issue with solo work. Hmmm...