Quick Poll... please repond!!

[Jade]

I was just curious to know the general consensus on this one (being that there is one)...?

Say that someone sends you an email with their picture, requesting mutual sex, claiming that they haven't ever asked that of anyone else before. Would you consider it? Better yet... would you DO it?

No matter what position you are in life relationship-wise at this moment in time... if say tomorrow, you received such an email from an attractive person... what would you honestly do?

I look forward to reading answers. OH... and PLEASE don't read too much into this! The last thing I need in the depths of my despair here are a bunch of "posts of misunderstanding" insulting Jade and her adulteruss-like ways!

Thanks in advance; you all kick total ass! (Hehe... please excuse me... I was at a hockey game last weekend! lmao)

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

If it's a guy....

I would not believe that it was his first such request.

 

[TN_Vixen]

I would consider meeting the person depending upon how the conversation goes beforehand, but I can't say I'd go for mutual sex without more information or some type of relationship via phone & computer and/or real life meeting in a restaurant or something.

I would definitely fantasize about it, though. hehe

 

[Ambrosious]

Nope!

Happily married to the fantasy goddess of my dreams. Wouldn't even consider it.

 

[teresafannin]

Hi Jade, Are we talking let's get together in real life stuff? I might consider it, but I would probably not do it. I am a big coward when it comes to something like that, in addition to having the best guy in the world as my sweetie. I have talked to different people here on the BB's & I have spent a very small amount of time in the chat rooms, but I wouldn't feel comfortable meeting someone in RL just to have sex. There are a lot of weirdos out there & even though I may feel like I "know" someone, I don't think I would feel safe.

 

[R Nitelight]

Would I consider it?
Yes.
Would I do it?
.............


I think I would need about another twenty pages of information about your life before I could properly answer, but I would lean toward no. Too many possible consequences for one night of unproven pleasure.

 

[CreamyLady]

It would depend on the length of acquaintance and what else was going on. If someone just dropped a pic on me and an offer of sex (which, believe it or not, has happened!), I'd say no. I wouldn't even consider it.

 

[Xander]

If someone I didn't know dropped a bomb like that in my lap.

Flattered?
Sure I would be. very much so.

Consider it?
Perhaps, I honestly don't know.

Actually do it?
Have to say no to that one.

 

[SeXy ReDHeD]

Anything for you big sis

Well, I have actually done this, so I guess my answer is "yes". I finally agreed to do it (very nervously!) after 4 months of getting to know the guy, though.

I don't know if you're considering this, but if you are I have two recommendations:

a) Be sure you know the situation. Know where you're meeting. Make sure you're with someone you know, or that it's in a very public place.

b) Know what you both expect out of this meeting. What went wrong with mine is that we both had different expectations. To him, it was all about the sex, and to me it was more. Now we don't talk because I got hurt when he got back home and started telling me how he was fucking other girls. Had I known beforehand what his views were I wouldn't have misunderstood, and I might not have lost a friend...


On the other hand, if the situation is one where the pic was from some random guy soliciting sex then I'd definitely have to say "NO!" It has happened and I just ignore the people.

[Edited by SeXy ReDHeD on 10-26-2000 at 11:02 AM]

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

I keep preachin' to you beautiful ladies....

ya can't trust these asshole's, these dogs. Men will do anything, say anything - to dip their dicks.

If you gals want relationships - rake'em over the coals before you bed them - or realize up front that the sex you may have - is just sex and that the relationship part may never happen.

Otherwise you will get hurt. Damn near every time too.

Men. They're so easily lead when their little head does the thinkin'.

 

[Closet Desire]

disaster

I can't say what toots other people's whistles, whether others find truly casual sex that spectacular, but I had just such an opportunity many years ago with someone I didn't know at all except from a couple of letters we exchanged. Too good to be true. She was gorgeous, stunning, spectacular...and willing. Went to a luxury hotel and things were going swimmingly when disaster struck...couldn't get it to stay up. Never figured out why, but finally wrote a story about it that seems to really amuse women.

For me the best sex is with someone you know really well...even if it is casual with a friend.

 

[Thor's Hammer]

NO....and NO

Folks, listen to Sparky. The woods (and cyberspace) are full of really bad people. As a Russian proverb says, trust, but verify.

And in this world, check, double check, triple check...etc.

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[Ambrosious]

CB makes a good point. Scary people scare me.

 

[SeXy ReDHeD]

Just gotta add here... I wouldn't have misunderstood had I not been MISLEAD!

I agree with the dangerous people bit. But as Celestial Body pointed out, there are dangerous people in real life, too. Why risk missing out on great people because you are afraid to take a few CALCULATED risks, like meeting them!

Also, as Closet Desire said, "...the best sex is with someone you know really well...even if it is casual with a friend." And to me, getting to know someone on the internet and on the phone is making a friend! Why would you discount that friendship just because the person lives too far away to happen to meet them at the gym or work or school? A person is a person is a person... no matter where you meet them! I have to think about it like this: I know literally hundreds of people IRL that are online that frequent BB's or chatrooms, etc. and I don't think any of them are stalkers or wierdos or whatever... so why should I automatically assume that the ONE person talking to me is one? This is not to say that caution should not be used when meeting someone initially, but if you've taken an online relationship to the point that you talk on the phone and stuff for months on end, what is the big deal about meeting them? Would it be any different if the person lived in the same city as you, on the same block as you, but you had never met them?

On a personal note: I got burned in the end because of my own naivete, but that doesn't mean I regret my decision. I truly cared for this person, and I'm glad I met him... on the internet and in real life.

[Edited by SeXy ReDHeD on 10-26-2000 at 09:56 AM]

 

[FlamingoBlue]

Simple answer....

Not a chance!!! As for you, Jade, you slut (I couldn't help it), since you might consider such an invitation, that fact only tells me that you are lots younger than me. I already have the T-shirt--- Been there, done that and don't need to do it again.


blue

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[Weird Harold]

If I got an unsolicited picture from a stranger with an offere to meet for sex, I'd politely decline.

The same offer from someone I had coresponded with for some time would probably get the same answer, but it would really depend on the the person and circumstances.

 

[Roll-One]

Pobably

I probably would, but of course i'm single, so i guess thats why, Ok, confession time: i have done that, i have met alot of nice ladies on the internet. dated one for six months one time, but it didn't work out.

to all that read this, if you would consider doing this: please be careful, when i did it, we met at a very public place first, just to make sure they were who they said they was.

 

[Mustang Sally]

If the pic and offer were from someone I'd never even heard of, I would click the delete button without a second thought. If it was from someone I'd been chatting with for a time, I'd maybe struggle a bit with temptation, but ultimately turn it down. And oh yeah, I wouldn't believe they'd never done this before.

Ok, I do have a related story.

Near the end of my last relationship, things were getting bad. It was over in my mind, though I hadn't managed to actually end it, when I started chatting with another guy online, and then on the phone. This guy was amazing, unlike anyone I'd ever known before. Well, I had to go to the city he lives in for unrelated reasons, and we talked about meeting. He wanted me to agree to spend the night with him so he could "show me why I shouldn't be with that other guy." Not saying that he wanted to be with me, just that the relationship I was in was bad for me. I said I couldn't agree to sleep with him without meeting him first, but I did bring my nightie and toothbrush with me when I met him at a restaurant for dinner. Needless to say, I succombed rather easily to his charm and ended up having some wonderful sex with him that night. That was six months ago, and we still get together occasionally, but it will never be anything more than sex.

I had never done anything like that before. I considered it rather shocking behaviour and didn't know I was capable of such a thing. Though I don't regret it, I sincerely doubt I will ever do anything like it again.

 

[Thumper]

Damnit Jade!!!!

Why'd ya go and rat me out???

J/K...I couldn't resist!

I guess you all know my answer....of course it has never happened and never will...but if the lady was attractive and healthy and had a decent personality...

Yeah right....Ok...only requirement is female...

 

[naudiz]

Would I consider it? Hell yeah. I'm considering it right now and I haven't even gotten the indecent proposal!

Would I do it? Hell no.

Not only because I'm happily engaged, but also because I am a colossal coward. In fact, I'm pretty sure if I explained the situation to my fiance, he'd mind it a lot less than I would. Well, at least one of us isn't twitchy.

I think a cautious approach to unusually friendly strangers is healthy, though sometimes they have good candy...

 

[Free]

As of right now I broke up with my boyfriend and met this guy online a year ago. We have spent TONS of time together online and I finally gave in and let him call me. Now I know his phone #'s at home and where he works. We speak on the phone at least a couple times a week (yes phone sex is involved). Never did I think I would consider meeting someone I met online. Like ya all say it's a scary world ! After all this time and all we've shared with each other Im DYING to meet him IRL and Fuck his everloving brains out! I have fallen in Love with a stranger, I know men say anything to get what they want but he expresses his love for me daily.
I still have doubts about the safety of meeting with him IRL. Not that I dont trust him it's myself Im more worried about. Will he really like me after we've met? Will he go on home and never speak with me again? Am I throwing away my chance at having his respect or my own self-respect living out what Ive fantasized about for so long. Suppose that when it comes down to him being in town and asking me to a restaraunt I'll see what Im truely made of.

 

[Roll-One]

FREE

wow...free, have alittle confidence in yourself, if he doesn't like you after he meets you, damn, thats his loss.

 

[ElaineWest]

Nope...

...never.