questions from a new girl

[kiltlifter]

what is SRP?
what is topping or top and bottom? or topping from the bottom?

also, in fifty shades of grey they used silver balls that were connected on a string. anyone know where to find those? all i find are ben wah balls.

thanks!

 

[kiltlifter]

also, in this world what does cuckhold mean? i have looked up the dictionary definition but see it used otherwise here.

 

[CuriousCouple24]

I'm not sure about SRP, but being a top or topping means you are the party doing the actions while the bottom is the receiver. The beads on a string you refer to are more than likely anal beads and you should be able to find them at your local adult products store or any online adult products retailer.

Hope this helps!

 

[Stella_Omega]

SRP probably stands for Sexual Role Play, there's a forum here for that


Cuckold is a fetish some men have, where they want their wives to fuck another guy, who in their fantasy, is younger, bigger-dicked, and scornful of the husband. Some guys want to be "forced" to give the guy oral, or be anally fucked by the "bull" as well.

Topping, as CuriousCouple24 said, is being the active party in a sexual or BDSM situation.
Bottoming is being the receiver.

"topping from the bottom" s a situation where the receiving person is directing the active one-- either flat out, which is okay, or by stealth and manipulation, which is frowned upon and hurtful to a partner's ego.

 

[Scotsman69]

A cuckold doesn't neccessarily want the other man to have a bigger cock. He just knows his partner's needs, and wants them fulfilled. For her. Because he loves her.

 

[kiltlifter]

thank you for explaining that and not being condescending about it as i was shy to ask! google was not much help to me! LOL

 

[Stella_Omega]

A cuckold doesn't neccessarily want the other man to have a bigger cock. He just knows his partner's needs, and wants them fulfilled. For her. Because he loves her.

I would call that an "open marriage."

 

[Goldeniangel]

I think the balls in 50 Shades that you're referring to are the ones that she has in her vagina while she's being spanked? I think they're ben-wa balls on a string.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

CUCKOLD – old English (1250 CE) meaning is synonymous with a husband whose wife cheats, but has evolved in modern usage in swinger Lifestyle to very broadly suggest a husband whose wife has sex without his direct participation. In some instances it means a husband (frequently clothed) who watches his wife engage in sex with other(s), or is forced to watch without any sexual release inciting an evolutionary sperm-competition response in the male.​

-- Swinger Definitions...Knowing the Lifestyle

Cuckold historically referred to a man with an adulterous wife. It has largely fallen out of use in modern English with the decline of marital infidelity in pop culture literature. In modern English it generally refers to the sexual fetish of the same name in which a male gains sexual gratification from his partner's having sex with other males.​

-- Wikipedia article (Much more included in the article.)

I'm rather surprised that you said "google was not much help," since those two definitions came up in the top five results when I entered the word "cuckold" into Google search. You can click either of those links for more information.

 

[no_naysayer]

An open relationship, yes

Where his love for her trancends jealousy. As mine has.

I would call that an "open marriage."

 

[kiltlifter]

I think the balls in 50 Shades that you're referring to are the ones that she has in her vagina while she's being spanked? I think they're ben-wa balls on a string.

thank you, yes. cant find em anywhere

 

[CutieMouse]

thank you, yes. cant find em anywhere

Umm... a Google search of "ben wah balls string" = 556,000 results in .33 seconds.

Luna Beads, weighted silicone love balls, vaginal beads, etc...

 

[graceanne]

what is SRP?
what is topping or top and bottom? or topping from the bottom?

also, in fifty shades of grey they used silver balls that were connected on a string. anyone know where to find those? all i find are ben wah balls.

thanks!

Roleplay

labels

defintions including the definition of topping and topping from the bottom.

toys

 

[kiltlifter]

Umm... a Google search of "ben wah balls string" = 556,000 results in .33 seconds.

Luna Beads, weighted silicone love balls, vaginal beads, etc...

all i had found are traditional ben wah balls. still have yet to see the ones described in the book, two silver balls with a string connecting them.

 

[Ellafun]

Try searching anal beads instead.

Also...please hang around and read the forums here for what BDSM is "about." Please DO NOT use 50 Shades of Grey as your reference.

 

[CutieMouse]

all i had found are traditional ben wah balls. still have yet to see the ones described in the book, two silver balls with a string connecting them.

And if you click through the websites listed on the link I provided, you would find multiple styles of Ben Wah balls, connected by a string. Do any of them meet the *exact* description of something you read in a piece if fiction? Maybe not; then again, I wasn't interested enough to specify "SILVER Ben Wah ball string" when doing a Google search for you.

 

[Stella_Omega]

The "silver balls on a string" can easily be the author's notion. Shades of Grey is fiction.

In fiction, people make shit up. And boy howdy, James made shit up.

Also I'm betting she got the phrase from this:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_MLBfwblps8

 

[kiltlifter]

And if you click through the websites listed on the link I provided, you would find multiple styles of Ben Wah balls, connected by a string. Do any of them meet the *exact* description of something you read in a piece if fiction? Maybe not; then again, I wasn't interested enough to specify "SILVER Ben Wah ball string" when doing a Google search for you.

if you are as irritated as you come across, feel free to not reply.



thanks to those who are kind in your reply to a newbie. it's a whole new world out there and meeting helpful people is lovely. so thank you!

 

[Stella_Omega]

if you are as irritated as you come across, feel free to not reply.



thanks to those who are kind in your reply to a newbie. it's a whole new world out there and meeting helpful people is lovely. so thank you!

Did you click through to any of her links? They ought to have been very helpful to you. And she took the time to find them and bring them to you.

Nobody gets spoon-fed. And I, for one, run out of patience with entitlement.

 

[NomadLady]

if you are as irritated as you come across, feel free to not reply.


Considering you are a "newbie" as you self-described, you shouldn't be rude to people that are being kind in their replies to you. If you don't know how to do a simple google search for "weighted, stringed silver balls for sexual pleasure" just keep searching until you do.

and like Stella said, "50 Shades" is fiction.

Rolling your eyes here as a newbie is behavior that will you get you flogged!!!

 

[kiltlifter]

being new doesn't mean i need to accept what sure seems like condescension.

obviously sarcastic words are ok but 'Roll Eyes (Sarcastic)' is not?

done here on this thread.


i'm in good spirits here. thanks again for the help.

 

[Stella_Omega]

being new doesn't mean i need to accept what sure seems like condescension.

obviously sarcastic words are ok but 'Roll Eyes (Sarcastic)' is not?

done here on this thread.


i'm in good spirits here. thanks again for the help.

So, did you click on the links? Because if you didn't, people are going to condescend all over your ass.

Just saying.

 

[NomadLady]

being new doesn't mean i need to accept what sure seems like condescension.

obviously sarcastic words are ok but 'Roll Eyes (Sarcastic)' is not?

done here on this thread.


i'm in good spirits here. thanks again for the help.

I don't think anyone was being condescending....and I wasn't either.

Since you are new, I was trying for funny AND helpful.

 

[njlauren]

Ben wa balls can be made of any kind of material, I have seen them heavy plastic, ceramic and even metal. Look on e-bay, you probably would find just what you want. I have seen the kind they talk about in the book, that isn't made up, I have seen stainless steel ones over the years.

Cuckold has many meanings depending on the people, or at least the way it is played out. It usually refers to a husband who in one way or the other is excited at the thought of his wife having sex with other men, that can play out in many ways. Some men encourage their wives to go out dressed sexy to a club or bar and then enjoy hearing about what happens, usually with some sort of erotic release on his part. Others do it where they watch the wife having sex with other men and get themselves off watching it and/or it contributes to the sex life of the couple. Others get off on a more extreme scenario, where the hubby is humiliated in the process, where the wife has 'bulls' who are reputedly better equipped then the hubby and they both humiliate the husband, who gets off on that (personally that scenario is the opposite of erotic, but what the heck)..in some cases, the husband is forced to eat their wife out after the bull has fucked the wife and/or interact with the bull,and it goes downhill from there....

I don't consider open relationships to be cuckold relationships or where they do MMF threesomes, that is very different since IMO the husband isn't getting off on the wife 'cheating' on him, he is either okay with his wife experiencing other men without getting off on it (other then knowing his wife is happy) and with the MMF is a participant (and that is just my opinion).