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[bigerik7]

My wife and I used to swing, then we had an open relationship. I actually used that more than she did, but I found out that last year she cheated on me with a couple guys and had a adult friend finder account... now I've fucked other women, and she knew. I'm upset and have lost trust in her. Am i totally crazy for getting pissed? Sometimes I feel that if I go fuck a new girl, it will make me feel better and make things even. I'm on here, so I'm not an angel either. What should I do, any advice????

 

[KerrBear85]

Wait, are you just pissed because she didn't tell you or that she was having sex with other people?

Did you inform her of all the ladies you slept with? Maybe to her "open relationship" means something different than what it does to you. Have you confronted her on this at all?

When my husband (the boyfriend) cheated on me with my roommate, I went out and fucked a vast array of guys. I was even out seeking a suitable replacement for him, but ended up forgiving him and sticking around. Did sleeping with a bunch of other guys make me feel better about the situation? Hell no. I was still pissed off at him for many months and several casual encounters later. Was it fun to casually meet guys? Sure, but it didn't make me forget or get over the pain any quicker.

 

[bigerik7]

Wait, are you just pissed because she didn't tell you or that she was having sex with other people?

Did you inform her of all the ladies you slept with? Maybe to her "open relationship" means something different than what it does to you. Have you confronted her on this at all?

When my husband (the boyfriend) cheated on me with my roommate, I went out and fucked a vast array of guys. I was even out seeking a suitable replacement for him, but ended up forgiving him and sticking around. Did sleeping with a bunch of other guys make me feel better about the situation? Hell no. I was still pissed off at him for many months and several casual encounters later. Was it fun to casually meet guys? Sure, but it didn't make me forget or get over the pain any quicker.

I'm mad because she went behind my back. I told her about the women I fucked, and at that time, it was an understanding. I think perhaps she got off on the sneaking around... to each their own... I just hope that in the future if either of us want to explore outside the marriage, we can be open and honest about it, I truly believe that it makes it THAT much better, I'm not having to be sneaky and missing out on the fun prt of meeting new partners.
Thanks for your advice!!

 

[imnauti]

My wife and I used to swing, then we had an open relationship. I actually used that more than she did, but I found out that last year she cheated on me with a couple guys and had a adult friend finder account... now I've fucked other women, and she knew. I'm upset and have lost trust in her. Am i totally crazy for getting pissed? Sometimes I feel that if I go fuck a new girl, it will make me feel better and make things even. I'm on here, so I'm not an angel either. What should I do, any advice????

Wow! It seems to me that there must have been a big misunderstanding between the two of you about what exactly having an 'open' relationship means. In my mind, it would be hard to say that she was cheating if the agreement was that you were both free to pursue other playmates. I agree with you, that sharing those experiences can bring you closer together as a couple, but unless you specified that neither one of you would be able to play without full disclosure, I don't see how you can be pissed off about it. I think maybe it's time to sit down and review the terms of your agreement.