question: should you be open and up-front right away??

[luvpats4unme]

All my life I have been very open, honest, up-front and straight-up right away in communicating with women. Even in my first contact with a woman who I may be interested in communicating with further (or vice-versa) I have stated my spanking interests and goals and even have given out my phone number since I am not the least bit interested in just an on-line association. I have been rejected alot and been heavily criticized for this approach. However this does represent me as who I am and also I don't want to waste the other person's time nor mine if the feelings and interests aren't mutual. However women have told me
I should wait and not bring up my fetish right away. I disagree. How about if I wait 1 or 2 months or so and then bring it up and find out that the woman has no interest in what I like or am trying to find as far as a relationship goes?? Not only have
I wasted two months and a possible emotional attachment but
I have wasted the other person's time too and hurt feelings would definitely set in and not just mine but hers too. I would also feel I would be hiding something and she would probably want to know what else I have been hiding and talk about frustration. I would rather find out right away if the other person is interested or not in my interests and feelings.

Does anyone else feel this way or has had an experience in which they waited and then regretted not disclosing their interests sooner??

 

[PlushPetals]

All my life I have been very open, honest, up-front and straight-up right away in communicating with women. Even in my first contact with a woman who I may be interested in communicating with further (or vice-versa) I have stated my spanking interests and goals and even have given out my phone number since I am not the least bit interested in just an on-line association. I have been rejected alot and been heavily criticized for this approach. However this does represent me as who I am and also I don't want to waste the other person's time nor mine if the feelings and interests aren't mutual. However women have told me
I should wait and not bring up my fetish right away. I disagree. How about if I wait 1 or 2 months or so and then bring it up and find out that the woman has no interest in what I like or am trying to find as far as a relationship goes?? Not only have
I wasted two months and a possible emotional attachment but
I have wasted the other person's time too and hurt feelings would definitely set in and not just mine but hers too. I would also feel I would be hiding something and she would probably want to know what else I have been hiding and talk about frustration. I would rather find out right away if the other person is interested or not in my interests and feelings.

Does anyone else feel this way or has had an experience in which they waited and then regretted not disclosing their interests sooner??

Definitely be upfront hon.... for the reasons you just stated

 

[PrettyKitty427]

hey i even included the fact that i like to be spanked in my profile? why hide what's just going to come out alter anyway ?

Kat

 

[Bisquick]

the ONLY way to get what you want is to be open and up-front...saves time energy and aggravation later.

 

[ricsmis]

i agree. be upfront. sounds like you just need to find the RIGHT kind of person.

 

[bamagirl]

I think honesty,and being upfront is the best way.that way there is no misunderstanding

 

[92StangMan]

I had a relationship where I wasn't upfront until later on and everything went to Hell. Be up front!