Question?????? - Lasting longer
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SweetErika
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Editing, a variety of drugs, boredom, distraction, having come a bunch beforehand...take your pick.
You can extend your time by getting off before sex or going for multiple rounds, distracting yourself, changing positions and activities, developing your pc muscle (google 'male kegels') and using condoms.
Is your wife orgasming as many times as she wants before you ever get to intercourse, or are you relying on intercourse as the main event?
You can extend your time by getting off before sex or going for multiple rounds, distracting yourself, changing positions and activities, developing your pc muscle (google 'male kegels') and using condoms.
Is your wife orgasming as many times as she wants before you ever get to intercourse, or are you relying on intercourse as the main event?
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As for porn, they often cheat. Most pornos aren't shot at once. If the guy cums inside her, it's also considered a waste.
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You can also try gently pulling your balls backward when you feel you are about to orgasm. With some practice to determine the best time for this, you can stop yourself from coming and thus last a lot longer.
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having come a bunch beforehandA la "There's Something About Mary' when he jacks off in the bathroom before their date.
Orgasm and ejaculation are essentially two different things that normally occur closely together, but not simultaneously. If you practice kegels, as well as deep breathing and relaxation (meditation is an enormous aid), you can learn to experience the sensations of orgasm without ejaculating.
I've experienced multiple orgasms (in other words, orgasmic sensations such as muscle contractions, increased heartbeat and exhiliration, etc., with partial or no ejaculation) this way. It's easier than you may imagine, and opens up incredible new dimensions in your sex life. You never lose the ability to ejaculate, and indeed I often allow myself to do so because I enjoy it
I've experienced multiple orgasms (in other words, orgasmic sensations such as muscle contractions, increased heartbeat and exhiliration, etc., with partial or no ejaculation) this way. It's easier than you may imagine, and opens up incredible new dimensions in your sex life. You never lose the ability to ejaculate, and indeed I often allow myself to do so because I enjoy it
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Some Guys just can fuck for a long time, even into middle age and beyond.
(Lucky bastards!)
As for me it varies with how horny I am, how long since I've had some and how many times along with alcohol consumption and food intake.
And how hot the woman is!
I had a girlfriend get mad one time (long ago)because I had to stop at 4:00 AM during round five.
Video is great because one can make three medium sessions look like one marathon romp by super stud.
I've known a few females who orgasm a couple of times super fast and have had enough!
(what a waste.)
People are different, don't worry about it.
(Lucky bastards!)
As for me it varies with how horny I am, how long since I've had some and how many times along with alcohol consumption and food intake.
And how hot the woman is!
I had a girlfriend get mad one time (long ago)because I had to stop at 4:00 AM during round five.
Video is great because one can make three medium sessions look like one marathon romp by super stud.
I've known a few females who orgasm a couple of times super fast and have had enough!
(what a waste.)
People are different, don't worry about it.
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I've mentioned cockrings in a previous thread, and I love them, as does my partner. I'm not completely convinced that they make me last longer, but sometimes I feel like it does, and sometimes I don't. I too wish I could last longer, but realize that pornography isn't usually what it looks like, so don't set that as your standard.
If you are really desperate, you can use a benzocaine cream, or a condom with benzocaine in it. Some people are more sensitive to it than others, just make sure not to get it on your partner or its game over! Although many people suggest to stay away from this, I'm a big proponent of Durex Performax condoms, and use them everyonce in a while myself. It doesn't completely numb me and it still feels great, and I get tons of pleasure out of being able to go in ways I can't normally go, and do in ways I can't normally do. Also it is a huge confidence booster when you can focus on having a blast, and not have to worry about...having a "blast," and the confidence in knowing that you can do what you want when you want is a huge relief on the male psyche. Every once in a while, I want to fuck like pornstar (and when I can, my girl thanks me), and this helps me fill that fantasy.
Also, practice makes perfect, so just keep working on it!
If you are really desperate, you can use a benzocaine cream, or a condom with benzocaine in it. Some people are more sensitive to it than others, just make sure not to get it on your partner or its game over! Although many people suggest to stay away from this, I'm a big proponent of Durex Performax condoms, and use them everyonce in a while myself. It doesn't completely numb me and it still feels great, and I get tons of pleasure out of being able to go in ways I can't normally go, and do in ways I can't normally do. Also it is a huge confidence booster when you can focus on having a blast, and not have to worry about...having a "blast," and the confidence in knowing that you can do what you want when you want is a huge relief on the male psyche. Every once in a while, I want to fuck like pornstar (and when I can, my girl thanks me), and this helps me fill that fantasy.
Also, practice makes perfect, so just keep working on it!
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For me, these are what works best.
Alcohol makes me last longer. The more I drink, the longer it takes. Unfortunately, the more I drink, (more than 3 beers) the worse lover I am also.
Wanking off in the morning berfore.
Condoms - I can go forever if wearing a condom. But I hate them and haven't used one in 15 years (I'm married, not sleeping around).
Sometimes, if I feel an orgasm coming on, I stop fucking and give it a rest while doing other activities on her. Or occasionally I've faked having a cramp in my leg as an excuse to pull out to keep from cumming. But only a few times have I done that.
Normally, my wife can only go for about 15 minutes before she's ready for me to cum, so cumming to soon isn't really my issue. Usually, it's more of an issue of trying to cum before she's too sore to continue.
Alcohol makes me last longer. The more I drink, the longer it takes. Unfortunately, the more I drink, (more than 3 beers) the worse lover I am also.
Wanking off in the morning berfore.
Condoms - I can go forever if wearing a condom. But I hate them and haven't used one in 15 years (I'm married, not sleeping around).
Sometimes, if I feel an orgasm coming on, I stop fucking and give it a rest while doing other activities on her. Or occasionally I've faked having a cramp in my leg as an excuse to pull out to keep from cumming. But only a few times have I done that.
Normally, my wife can only go for about 15 minutes before she's ready for me to cum, so cumming to soon isn't really my issue. Usually, it's more of an issue of trying to cum before she's too sore to continue.
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The same about alcohol is true for me. A little works great, a lot works horribly!
Also, just a normal condom normally works well for me, unless we are doing something super sexy. If thats the case, when she starts getting there, just watching and listening to here takes me over the edge, so thats when I preffer the help of a de-sensitizing kind-of thing.
I always use a condom anyway. After I cum, I'm so sensitive that sometimes it almost hurts me to be touched. This is a shame because sometimes I still have an erection, and if it can't be touched, it isn't anygood to my partner. Condoms really help me with that, so even if I cum too early, I can still go for as long as my penis will let me.
Also, just a normal condom normally works well for me, unless we are doing something super sexy. If thats the case, when she starts getting there, just watching and listening to here takes me over the edge, so thats when I preffer the help of a de-sensitizing kind-of thing.
I always use a condom anyway. After I cum, I'm so sensitive that sometimes it almost hurts me to be touched. This is a shame because sometimes I still have an erection, and if it can't be touched, it isn't anygood to my partner. Condoms really help me with that, so even if I cum too early, I can still go for as long as my penis will let me.
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i wouldn't worry about trying to perform like a pornstar.
I just find concentration and knowing your own body helps. I know my point of no return and i make sure i keep below that line. Can be tricky as your not fully in control. Also i find mixing it up helps. i try not to have sex like im in a porno ie kiss then oral then oral the intercourse then cum. I make myself last longer by switching between either or and giving myself a chance to come back from the brink.
Just gotta find something that works for you.
I just find concentration and knowing your own body helps. I know my point of no return and i make sure i keep below that line. Can be tricky as your not fully in control. Also i find mixing it up helps. i try not to have sex like im in a porno ie kiss then oral then oral the intercourse then cum. I make myself last longer by switching between either or and giving myself a chance to come back from the brink.
Just gotta find something that works for you.
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I was on oxycodone for a leg injury a while ago. That stuff is like viagra. I would go so long I would actually get tired and just want to stop without cumming. In my opinion, a good jerk in the shower is a great way to go a bit longer during the actual event. I have also heard that various anti depressants can make you go a long time.
I'm not really that into drugs to enhance performance. I'd rather stop and go down on her for a while or use my hands on her while kissing too cool down for a bit.
I like to stay on the brink of orgasm for as long as I can. I think this is the most pleasurable time during sex, other than actually cumming.
I'm not really that into drugs to enhance performance. I'd rather stop and go down on her for a while or use my hands on her while kissing too cool down for a bit.
I like to stay on the brink of orgasm for as long as I can. I think this is the most pleasurable time during sex, other than actually cumming.
Zoloft did that for my ex-husband, turned him from the 60 second man to the 60 minute man....it was AWESOME for a short while. Too bad his ego got in the way and he stopped taking them. Sometimes when the disclaimer reads "sexual side effects"...they aren't always negative
