Question for the Ladies....

[RastaPope]

So I was watching an episode of Buffy today, and it was about two fo the central characters getting married. Got me thinking.


How many of you married Lit Ladies took your husbands surname? How many didn't? Why and why not? And you single broads, I'd be interested in your thoughts as well.

 

[MsAngel]

Although I would hate to depart from my last name I would take my husbands name. Yes I am single so I can say that now. But there are some cases where I can see the woman keeping her name. Especially if she is a nurse or a doctor. I work with a doctor whom kept her last name and I could fully understand why.

So there is my two cents worth...

 

[MsAngel]

oopss forgot to say I watch Buffy too.

 

[Monazwx]

I wouldn't.
Too much hassle changing all of my documents.
He doesn't have to change his name, why should I?

 

[christophe]

the mrs took my last name...why not?! she took everything else!

 

[His_kitty]

I'm an old fashioned girl at heart so I took my husbands last name. I'm looking forward to taking back mine now.





Psst I don't get Buffy anymore, who is getting married?

 

[RastaPope]

I'm an old fashioned girl at heart so I took my husbands last name. I'm looking forward to taking back mine now.





Psst I don't get Buffy anymore, who is getting married?

Oh, this was last season, Xander and Anya.

 

[His_kitty]

Oh, this was last season, Xander and Anya.

Damn my cable!!!

 

[RastaPope]

Damn my cable!!!

hop over to my Buffy thread...I've explained danm near everything that's ever happened in the entire series beginning till now.

 

[Guest]

 

[roxanne69]

I have a really long, really ugly last name and since I was a little girl I dreamt of getting married and getting rid of it. The province I live in changed the laws about 15 yrs ago. Now you can't take your husbands name unless you hyphenate . I am engaged to a man with a great last name and plan to marry in and live in the US so all of my dreams will come true lol

 

[Temptress_1960]

I took my husband's last name.

I didn't like my maiden name, so I didn't consider keeping it.

I would have loved to use both, but it sounded really stupid when I put them together.

Now, after almost 21 years of using his name, I can't imagine going back to my maiden name.

 

[Nora]

I took on my husband's name, although in retrospect I sort of miss my maiden name. It's kind of a weird feeling to suddenly be someone else when you've been yourself for so many years.

 

[roxanne69]

I took on my husband's name, although in retrospect I sort of miss my maiden name. It's kind of a weird feeling to suddenly be someone else when you've been yourself for so many years.

lol that is because you liked your maiden name I have been published under a pen name because mine is so uncommon and icky that I couldn't bear using it. I really don't feel like it's me.

(hi nora what was in the second box?)

 

[Aphrodisiac]

And you single broads, I'd be interested in your thoughts as well.

If I were ever to marry I am not going to be taking my future husband's name. For some reason I don't feel the need to drop my last name and adopt his simply because we are married. My last name to me represents so many things, it identifies a part of me that is simply mine, it has family history tied to it, and simply I will not part with it.

Maybe I will marry a man with the same last name as mine... what are the odds of that happening....

 

[soileddove]

I am single but involved. If we were to get married I would keep my name because his name is worse than mine. Our poor children would have a hard time learning to spell his name but they have no choice. I do and will not go through the hassle.

 

[Minkey Boodle]

Of course I took my husband's name.

I gave it back, though.

 

[Cheyenne]

I don't know. I like my maiden name, and I guess it would depend on what the married name would be. That would influence if I wanted to change or not.

 

[Ham Murabi]

I can't speak for any women, other than my bride. She didn't drop her maiden name, and it has been a stroke of good fortune.
I've owned an adult toys store for a number of years, but it never made more than a minimal profit. Sometimes it was tough keeping the doors open when it came time to pay all the bills.
Then I met Hilda Toyz, and it was love at first sight. After our marriage, I was so taken by her I used her name — and mine — for the business, and suddenly business was booming. I made her a co-owner.
I can only credit my lovely wife for our success.
Sincerely,
Heinrich Fortwaghts
Co-owner of Toyz Fortwaghts

 

[Nora]

lol that is because you liked your maiden name I have been published under a pen name because mine is so uncommon and icky that I couldn't bear using it. I really don't feel like it's me.

(hi nora what was in the second box?)

Actually, I always thought I *hated* my maiden name. It's not euphonic, it's just 5 little letters and I always had to BOTH spell it and gives a "rhymes with.."

I just miss it. lol

Oh Rox...it was the world's ugliest granny-lookin' bathrobe. Ugh! In powder-blue, no less! Kill me. lol

 

[Mona Lisa]

I kept my maiden name. I promised to spend the rest of my life with him, not to become a different person. Why would I need a different name? Besides, I changed last names when my stepfather adopted me, so I think my name-change quota has been met for this lifetime.

 

[superlittlegirl]

I used to have really strong feelings about this topic, but I've mellowed on it considerably in the past couple of years. There's part of me that thinks that the name change is all about goods and property, and there's another part of me that thinks it's all about love and mush and stuff.

What it comes down to with me is this: If I ever get married, and his name sounds better than mine does when it's tacked onto the end of my first name, I'll be glad to take it. If it's stupid and horrible though, I'll keep my own. Like, I would not want to be named Freya Whitehead or Freya Schidtz or anything like that. (No offense intended to the Whiteheads and Schidtzs' out there-- those names are simply not for me.)

I think the best way to figure it all out is to do just like 6th grade girls do. Get out some notebook paper, and a purple pen, and write your name with his last name in your prettiest cursive letters. If it works, get married! If not, either keep your own name, or move along.

 

[Raina]

My boyfriend and I talked about this just the other night. (Not that we're planning a wedding or anything...something just brought it up) I really don't have any attachment to my maiden name, other than the annoyance of changing it....Or possibly ending up like my mother who has been married 4 times.

We did joke around about making up a name out a combination of both last names. We got some pretty funny combinations! What a way to torture your kids.

 

[RainbowBright]

So I was watching an episode of Buffy today, and it was about two fo the central characters getting married. Got me thinking.


How many of you married Lit Ladies took your husbands surname? How many didn't? Why and why not? And you single broads, I'd be interested in your thoughts as well.

Im' Knaot mariedy et, buett Mrs. Poop haax ac ertan rink two it.

 

[Shadowann2]

When I first got married I didn't take his last name. He bugged me for 2 years about it and said it showed a lack of commitment to the marriage. I finally gave in and changed it but I wish I hadn't. My brother is the only person in our family to carry on our last name and I wanted to keep it, even though my kids have his last name. I liked my maiden name, even if I did get teased about it in school!