Question For Masturbators

[nerk]

Mechanically, masturbating is pretty hard to beat. I know exactly what to do to please me from moment to moment, because I am in my own head. On the other hand, I seem to recall enjoying sex with other people, because really, the mechanical side is just the physical pleasure.

 

[rycat25]

but it never compares to having a partner help me with it. I come sooooo much harder!

I agree with this! Having said that I do cum hard from masturbation also.

"Wearing my heart on my sleeve"....where else would you wear it?

 

[gvive]

For me, masturbation is less pleasurable than with a partner. It's always over quickly and the climax is disappointing. It's great if I'm short on time and need a quick, small release, but not so great when I'm super charged with nowhere else to turn.

 

[JackJillUT]

I won't say BETTER orgasms, I will say EASIER orgasms. When you are in tune with your lover, they have a good sense of what will please you, but by yourself, you know exactly how fast to go, where you want the pressure, when to pause to delay, things like this. You can manipulate your own body easier than someone else can manipulate it for you.

That doesn't mean masturbation is better than sex. For us, they have become very separate events that don't affect each other very much.

 

[y=mx+b]

I just like orgasms.

 

[JuanVato]

nope...

When the orgasm hits it just feels more intense.

Sorry, not for me. Having a special woman there kicks it up many, many notches.

 

[wolzard1]

i'd need to try it with other pair of hands helping to give you a verdict on that one

 

[jasminesc]

Masturbation

I always achieve a more intense orgasm going solo. I know exactly which spots to touch and how to touch them. But I enjoy sex with my man. He has an amazing way w/ his tongue and fingers. He brings me to the brink, but I always end up bringing it home so to speak. He totally understands this and is cool with it. It turns him on to see me bring myself to orgasm.

 

[kimuk]

no performance anxiety, done at your own pace with your own source of arousal, yes my orgasms are better from masterbation.

 

[Bulldog97]

Do you feel like you can give yourself a better and more intense orgasm from masturbation? I have been a lifelong mastubator and I think I can. I can edge my myself better and make the pleasure last longer. When the orgasm hits it just feels more intense. Not to say I don't still enjoy intercourse and oral sex but masturbation is just complete bliss. Of course, there is no communication with a partner and no giving of pleasure to another person and that is a drawback. Just looking for a response from those of us who masturbate, male and female, which I presume is the greater percentage of visitors to Lit.

If you can't get it with someone else, get it with yourself. It's all good.
Solo masturbation is different from masturbation/sex with a partner, different sensations, different thoughts. I love them both.

 

[Nataliefun41]

I've done them both and I do them both. Better? How about "different". Both are incredible but I just don't believe I like one better. I need both

 

[MilkFountain]

No, absolutely not . . . !

Do you feel like you can give yourself a better and more intense orgasm from masturbation?

Just as you learn how to hold back, ride the building wave and finally give into the climax that comes while masturbating, you can do the same inside someone else. Perhaps twice in my life I've "piggybacked" climaxes (inside someone else) . . . having a really good climax, then feeling the need to continue, and within seconds having a mind-shattering, body-turned-inside-out second climax, with just as much semen shooting out as the first time. Once, I had a third climax immediately after withdrawing from the second inside her; I finished against her belly, and still produced thick, white semen. (You can't do that masturbating; the inspiration just isn't there.)

 

[Jamesricho]

Sometimes its just that you dont need to second guess someone elses needs

but its very hard to surprise yourself!

 

[cordite]

Do you feel like you can give yourself a better and more intense orgasm from masturbation?

Depends on what you mean by "better". Technically it's better. However, it's predictable... It's like the difference between technical and artistic merit. I can work on the latter but it would never be the same without the input of another person.

I'd just say it's different. It's not like I can replace everything with masturbation.

 

[ghostgurrl13]

For me the two are simply different. Sometimes maturbation can be great, sometimes intercourse is what I want more. It just depends onmy mood I guess.

 

[jezbel]

Sex. Definitely.

It used to be masturbation, but the last 6 months my sex-life with my partner has hit the roof. I used to only be able to come through masturbation, but recently he has given me orgasms that are a hell of a lot deeper and more intense than I could give myself (with or without a rampant rabbit)... We are long distance, so I only see him about every 3 weeks, and I am so desperate. I've tried to satisfy myself, but I just can't do it the way he can.

There's nothing that turns me on more than a sweaty man ontop of me, and it's got to the point now where, even when I masturbate with him there, I usually ask him to lie ontop of me while I do it so it feels more like real sex.

He has unleashed something in me that I cannot control! I have to wait another 2 weeks to get laid, and I simply can't handle it!

 

[MilkFountain]

Sex. Definitely.


There's nothing that turns me on more than a sweaty man ontop of me, and it's got to the point now where, even when I masturbate with him there, I usually ask him to lie ontop of me while I do it so it feels more like real sex.

Wow, not only inspiring, but great information for us men . . . Once, returning from a long run, I unexpectedly found my girlfriend waiting for me at my apartment. She practically ripped off my clothes and pulled me on top of her, sweat and all. (I too, even when masturbating when with her, hold her close on top of me, squeezing her hard against me as I come.)

 

[subwannabe]

I'm not going to read your long list of responses. All I can say is that, in order to get to a higher level of sex, you have to first be able to understand what pleases you best. I have a hard time believing that someone can say that another person can please them better than they can please themselves, masturbation wise anyway. Of course this doesn't take into account that another person may have better tools than you can come up with yourself but as far as understanding your own pleasure goes, I think you know yourself best. Now, in order to get to a higher level of sex, you must also realize not only that other forms of sex can be far more rewarding than masturbation but you must also get rid of the selfishness and learn your partner's likes and dislikes. It is also important to realize that maybe at the moment masturbation gives you your most pleasure, intercourse can give you your most pleasure, etc, etc. Variety can be the true spice of life.

 

[MilkFountain]

Get Over Yourself!

I'm not going to read your long list of responses. All I can say is that,

You're so full of yourself, so full of shit, you really didn't have to come here to spout obvious nonsense.

 

[wildehafer]

I can have a more intense orgasm doing it solo, but the post effect doesn't last as long as when I have sex with my partner.

I think the cumulative effect of intimate contact, skin on skin, kissing, touching, sight and smell of partner sex add up to a more satisfying longer term experience, even if the orgasm itself wasn't "earth shattering".

I like both ways for what they are, different, but nice.

 

[Texguy84]

For me it's a little weird, I can get off faster and more reliably by myself (as in, matter of minutes or less), but I've got the hardest time getting off while having sex. That said, when I climax during sex, I go all brain-melty happy place, which is VERY hard for me to do solo.

 

[subwannabe]

Milk,

I must confess to being totally shocked by your hostility toward me. I really don't know where it's coming from unless you felt I was being cocky in saying that I wasn't going to read the long list of replies to the original post. I'm sorry but I have limited time and wanted to respond to the post but didn't have the time to read the 70 responses already made to it. I was merely making a statement that my response could be identical to some others already made so I would not get some cocky jerk asshole posting to me that that has already been said 10 times. Other than that, I really don't see the merit in your accusations. I was merely responding to a post like everyone else did.

 

[Britman2294]

I have erectile dysfunction so I usually have to masturbate over my wife's vagina or breasts as a substitute for intercourse. I find my orgasms much more pleasurable when I do that than when I masturbate alone.

In fact, masturbating alone, I have to watch porn videos to even come close to orgasm.

 

[jenni7]

I can have a more intense orgasm doing it solo, but the post effect doesn't last as long as when I have sex with my partner.

I think the cumulative effect of intimate contact, skin on skin, kissing, touching, sight and smell of partner sex add up to a more satisfying longer term experience, even if the orgasm itself wasn't "earth shattering".

I like both ways for what they are, different, but nice.

I totally agree. My orgasm's are much more intense and last longer when solo, can also multiple which I can't complain about. But there is alot to be said for the skin to skin contact, feeling someone else's pleasure as well as looking into your partners eyes as they cum. I wouldnt give that up for anything.

 

[MidwestMark]

I totally agree. My orgasm's are much more intense and last longer when solo, can also multiple which I can't complain about. But there is alot to be said for the skin to skin cont act, feeling someone else's pleasure as well as looking into your partners eyes as they cum. I wouldnt give that up for anything.

so lets just say for example, u got off on the phone with a guy,would it be more or less satisfying than in person....