Question For Masturbators

[Jamison]

For me, it depends. If I'm just screwing some chick I happened to meet who bought my lines I'd say sex isn't much better than masturbation, if at all. I have to worry about whether or not she gets her cookies, it requires a lot of effort on my part, and then there's the month of BS afterwards where she calls and I worry about pregnancy and so on and so forth. At best, I get a few hours of pleasure and hundreds of hours of misery. I'd take my hand and few good pics over that any day. I'm a guy - biologically programmed to inseminate as many females as possible. All I have to do is release gametes on a regular basis and I can get back to whatever it was I was doing before.

However, no kind of masturbation can ever equal the feeling you get when you're on the verge of climax, staring into a woman's eyes, when both of you know that this is what you want....forever. You breathe it to each other, and at that exact moment when a part of your body becomes a part of hers, a part of the soul reflected in those eyes becomes yours, any you are one; then and forever after. It's a feeling that lasts long after the fact, one that makes your heart skip a beat every time you see those eyes.

At least, that's my opinion.

 

[red111a]

I think this whether you do or don't comes down to control. I find i cum harder and more intensely with my partner. For me its because she controls when i cum as much as me. Different positions or acts has control switching from one of us to the other or a mix. She feels the same with her orgasms too.
By myself I can draw it out alot longer but this only really results in a larger load rather than a better orgasm.

 

[silvertongu3]

sex is far more gratifying than masturbation. sure I can have a nice orgasm during masturbation, but there's so much more available during sex. I love having my wife sit on my face or the sounds she makes while she's on top of me, her scent, her taste. None of that is there when I'm by myself, usually reading Literotica stories. I would take sex with my wife any day of the week over pleasuring myself.

 

[mikeybobart]

Sex feels better in my opinion.

 

[Guest]

Interesting thread...

From experience I find that it really depends on where your head is at. (the one of your shoulders). If there is something that you want and your partner just isn't hitting it or doing a poor job of it I find I just can't climax. And for years I found this frustrating which made me a tad resentful at times when I was younger. Now I just don't give a shit if I have an orgasm or not. I'm focused 100% on bringing off my partner again and again, and do EXACTLY what she wants, I love directions

So for me it's masturbation sadly enough. Have I had amazing orgasms from sex? Hell yes! But they are few and far between when compared to masturbation.

 

[Tony_Stark]

Interesting question because I have questioned this myself in the past. It's kind of apples and oranges if you ask me... I have great orgasms either way, but it's like 'they' say, 'who knows you better than you?'

There is a little less pressure and distraction when you are alone, but the feeling of a warm, wet pussy is no match for a hand or toy. I guess I'm on the fence here.

 

[silverwhisper]

i have to say, if you're getting off better through jerking off, i really have to wonder about the kinds of people with whom you're having sex. and yes, i'm betting that the average masturbation rate for lit readers is 100%, too. :>

ed

 

[x_wired_x]

Absolutely not. I've never had a better orgasm masturbating than with my partner, for several reasons.

One: The feeling of being 'filled' during vaginal penetration is more stimulating than clitoral stimulation alone. I've tried replicating this with toys and find it's a poor substitute.

Two: He's natural rather than cut so his foreskin rolls back during intercourse to make a 'ridge' on his penis that's very stimulating to my g-spot.

Three: Visually, my partner is very good-looking and seeing him naked is extremely arousing. Porn won't replicate the feelings of closeness and intimacy I have with him, either.

Four: His pleasure from sex in turns heightens my enjoyment, making my orgasm better.


Really, I'd rather have sex with him than masturbate, it's so much better.

Gees, now I need to go masturbate

 

[NippleMuncher]

i have to say, if you're getting off better through jerking off, i really have to wonder about the kinds of people with whom you're having sex. and yes, i'm betting that the average masturbation rate for lit readers is 100%, too. :>

ed

You know what they say, if you can't join 'em, beat it!

 

[lizzyqte]

I masturbate at least once a day and it never really feels the same as when someone touches you and makes you come. It just not the same but I will continue pleasing myself because it just feels good and, well I am just addicted.

 

[shark968]

My orgasms on my own can be better due to edging and stuff.

However, I enjoy the time I spend with a girl a lot more than I do solo. Solo = short, with a partner = long.

 

[fletcherhook]

i think it depends on the person it depends on your mood

 

[BallonBob]

My wife's attitude about sex sucks so for her it's always got to be sterile, vanilla, hurry up get it over with kind--In that case yes, by myself is better. By myself I can take my time, use lube and go whatever way I want. I prefer it that way usually but masturbating doesn't fulfill the desire for intimacy in the relationship.

 

[SallyIsHere]

I love

to masturbate. It is my time with my body and my fantasies. I need that time alone and the orgasms are fantastic. However, if I am masturbating and someone is watching me my orgasm is incredible. I need both.

Sal

 

[laurenann]

I like to control my orgasm, I know how hard how fast etc, so in that sense masterbation is better. That said I prefer sex the whole experience is better and and complete. Masterbation leaves me feeling empty when its over,

 

[Mz_Scarlett]

I have never had an orgasm from penetration, it's always clitoral stimulation for me. I can have a good orgasm all on my lonesome, but it never compares to having a partner help me with it. I come sooooo much harder!

 

[revchev]

Sex is better with a partner for me, provided I know them and we are making a connection. Random sex with someone who doesn't know, or care, how to touch or satisify me is worse than taking care of things myself.

 

[Balfour]

Sex with my wifr is wonderful, but I can not come except for actual vaginal penetration. I have asthma so this is often not possible. Still he talking to me and kissing my body, help me to get off when I masturbate and still share the experiance.

 

[MyPetal]

To the OP:

I know what you mean, the deftness of control and what one can do to one's self is amazing. But I have to say, even at the most intense, it's nowhere near as euphoric as when a woman does it for me. A whole different kind of pleasure, almost.

 

[prop69]

Do you feel like you can give yourself a better and more intense orgasm from masturbation?

Sometimes, yes and I don't have to be nice to myself and make myself a nice dinner to get it, either.

Funny.

 

[TenCentPistol]

I only prefer sex over masturbation with one person, and they actually know my body: all my turn ons, all my sensitivities, exactly what I want. But hey, it's not so bad being my own self's second best lover

 

[Naughty_Misty]

Self service orgasms certainly "feel" different than the ones that a partner can give me. I don't know that I would say they are better or worse, just deifferent. I can get myself off very fast... however, I think one of the reasons I like partner induced orgasms is that a real person adds in that extra element of the "unknown".

On my own, I have no restraint. I want that orgasm dammit. A partner though, will change up the pace or back off and move on to another area just as I am about to climax. Sometimes tehy will deliberately tease just to prolong it the experience - but the point is WHEN my climax happens is almost always a surprise. Just when I think the feeling is fading all of the sudden WHAMMO! I love that feeling.

 

[Honeyjar]

I enjoy both. Masturbation is great for controlling the timing, intensity etc of your own orgasm and I have certainly had yummy ones. NOTHING is better than cumming while loving my husband.

 

[Holly1990]

I probably get a better orgasm by myself sometimes, but that's not really the whole point of sex is it? I like the hours of touching and kissing and undressing, foreplay, positions, trying new things with another person, it's not all concentrated on the few seconds of climax

 

[mrgrimmnir]

I would have to say yes, I can cum alot harder and better through masturbation. On the other hand it's even better if I have a partner there to help me out with it. I cum the hardest when my wife licks my balls when I jack off.