Question for BDSM and Fetish experts

[lauracmk]

Hello. I would like to ask you experts on fetishes if there is a 'known' fetish where a woman has a craving for her own vaginal fluids and cum, so much that she digs her pussy frantically during masturbation to scoop out as much pussy cum as she can find. I have been addicted to this particular fetish for several years now but I have always wondered if there were others that shared my fetish. If there isn't such a fetish, what would it be classified under the closest?

As for BDSM, I sometimes imagine this scenario while masturbating, where I am bound and suspended motionless in mid air. My arms would be folded and tied and behind me, legs folded up to my breasts and spread wide apart, I would be suspended at a 45 degrees angle in mid air via a harness and ropes. There would be a vibe taped over my clit and constantly operating throughout the day where I am kept blindfolded, gagged and ear plugged. There would also be small clips that pulls and spreads my pussy lips far apart. If you have read my stories you'd know that I produce an abnormal amount of pussy fluids when aroused, this fantasy of mine is one where I am being bound and kept as a pussy cum milking animal by a mistress who shares my fetish. She'd place a small cup on a high stool right under where I am suspended to collect excess cum that drips. When she has a craving for some pussy cum and she is out of her own she'd come into my room (that is totally empty, quiet and dark) to scoop out some yummy cum from my wide open and dripping cunt, the cum that dripped into the cup will be left alone till it fills up after a day or two where it is then consumed for a real treat.

Does that make me a submissive to have that desire while masturbating?

 

[Kajira Callista]

nope. but it doesnt make you not submissive either.

 

[lauracmk]

Thanks for the reply hun

 

[Eating_Scarlett]

Thanks for the reply hun

You even freaked the BDSM-ers out.

 

[s'lara]

Sounds like you had the fetish part right.

Not everyone likes their own taste (not sure why either), but if you dig it, i say don't worry about whether it makes you anything. Enjoy the fantasy and if it is safe and feasible for you, enjoy making it a reality.

lara

 

[Etoile]

Yes, it is a fetish; it is probably not too terribly uncommon. It's certainly not discussed very much - I have heard much more about guys wanting their own cum than women - but it is definitely heard of. As for whether or not it means you are a submissive - not on its own. One specific fantasy does not a submissive make, and neither does a specific fetish mean you are submissive. Nobody can decide if you are or you're not but yourself, really. But there are certainly more things about yourself to explore before making a decision like this.

 

[timberwolf05]

i'm sorry---but!

i am not trying to horn-in here. really!

but i have 'a' question for experts. if i may please?
seriously!
"I" have not been in play yet.
so if someone wants to put a gag in someone, and the other one wont let em,...ya cant really force em can ya?
if they set their jaw and refuse, there really is not much ya can do about it is there?

thanks
the wolf

 

[Etoile]

i am not trying to horn-in here. really!

but i have 'a' question for experts. if i may please?
seriously!
"I" have not been in play yet.
so if someone wants to put a gag in someone, and the other one wont let em,...ya cant really force em can ya?
if they set their jaw and refuse, there really is not much ya can do about it is there?

thanks
the wolf

The quick answer: Pinching the nose seems to be a good way to get a mouth open (eventually). A slap on the face will probably shock that mouth open long enough to put a gag in.

The longer answer: It depends on the relationship between the two people, what their established agreements are, how they each view their roles, and why the bottom is refusing. If it's a scene between people who are not established play partners (a scene at a club, for instance, or with a professional) then there is probably not much the top can do. For that kind of situation, I would consider such a refusal to be a scene-killer. (Please note that I'm assuming you meant a true refusal and not a sassy "you can't make me!" refusal.) Between established partners, though, things might be different. If a slave refused to allow a gag, I would expect the master to determine what was wrong. Then, using the master's knowledge of the slave's mind and how it works - and perhaps also the threat of serious consequences - the master could use words or actions to coerce the slave into allowing the gag to be placed.

 

[sinfulsimon]

You can't really force someone to do something. If gagging is a limit, respect it. However, if the sub really does want the gag and is only fighting as part of the play, I'd either pinch their nose (or anywhere else, really), talk them into it or threaten to punish them. It would really depend.

And lauracmk... that fantasy is really hot.

 

[Etoile]

You can't really force someone to do something. If gagging is a limit, respect it. However, if the sub really does want the gag and is only fighting as part of the play, I'd either pinch their nose (or anywhere else, really), talk them into it or threaten to punish them. It would really depend.

And lauracmk... that fantasy is really hot.

Oh, I disagree that you can't force someone to do something. Physical prowess comes in mighty handy there.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Does that make me a submissive to have that desire while masturbating?

I'm certainly no "expert"... just an experienced owner/operator.

Your fetish does not make you submissive nor slave, nor Dominant nor Mistress. Fetishes do not define those roles. It is the desire to serve, or to control that defines that part of our spectrum.

Your _fantasy_ on the other hand, would indicate a desire to surrender control, at least in the realm of your sexual play. This would indicate, to me, at least a leaning towards the bottom side of the equation. There is more to explore here, of course.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

You can't really force someone to do something. If gagging is a limit, respect it. However, if the sub really does want the gag and is only fighting as part of the play, I'd either pinch their nose (or anywhere else, really), talk them into it or threaten to punish them. It would really depend.

And lauracmk... that fantasy is really hot.

Actually, I _can_ force someone to do something. 17 years as a cop taught me all kinds of ways to force compliance with my directions. Most people, after all, do NOT want to go to jail and will give some resistance. That force I needed to use might have be nothing more than repeating the command in a more forceful tone of voice, to using takedowns or pressure points, or impact weapons or chemicals to force compliance.

I will not, however force a slave or submissive to do something that I have told them to do. If they refuse to obey, they are not submitting, are they? Why in the world would I put any effort or energy into forcing them to do something when it would be far more efficient of my time and resources to do it myself?

Someone who trys to play "brat" to make me force them to obey will get shown to the door in a hurry. I do not play that way. Submit to my will, obey my commands, or hit the street. SAMs need not apply. My partners know they need to communicate their needs and desires to me directly, and I'll decide how best to meet them. Topping from the bottom doesn't work very well in my world.