Question, could use advice

[Raynorbt2]

My fiancee has confided in me a desire to be with another woman. We have the kind of relatonship where we are very open sexually with one another and we try to help make each others desires come true. So now I am faced with finding a woman my fiancee can be with who doesn't mind the fact that my fiancee is engaged and enjoys the company of men as well.

To be perfectly honest I have no idea how to go about doing this. And being a frequent reader of the bulletin boards here I figuredt his would be a good place to begin my quest.

I appreciate any help in this. Thank you for your time.

 

[SexyChele]

My fiancee has confided in me a desire to be with another woman. We have the kind of relatonship where we are very open sexually with one another and we try to help make each others desires come true. So now I am faced with finding a woman my fiancee can be with who doesn't mind the fact that my fiancee is engaged and enjoys the company of men as well.

To be perfectly honest I have no idea how to go about doing this. And being a frequent reader of the bulletin boards here I figuredt his would be a good place to begin my quest.

I appreciate any help in this. Thank you for your time.

I'm assuming you are male? Sorry, a little difficult to see that in your post.

The first question that comes to mind is: why do you need to satisfy this desire for her? The second question is: would you also be involved in the encounter?

There are several places online to look: adultfriendfinder.com is probably the most commonly used one - and it is where I met the first woman I was with. Another would be SexyAds.net. There are others as well. Just do a google search on singles ads or swing ads - I'm sure hundreds will pop up.

I can tell you the most difficult thing is going to be a man looking for another woman for his girlfriend. When my ad was active, I got this all the time. Sometimes the man would want to be involved, other times not. I always refused. I was never certain if the woman was truly into it, or if the man was trying to force a situation. Plus, for me, I didn't want another woman's man involved. (Watching ONLY was negotiable, but only after ground rules had been sorted out ahead of time)

Your best bet is going to be letting your fiance do the talking and the walking. She will need to approach other women if you do this online. Most women online seeking other women are either bi or bi-curious or just like to play with other women. A lot will not play if men are present. But, the important thing is to let your girlfriend do the approaching. A male approaching a woman saying he wants another woman for his S/O is not something that goes over well.

If you do this as a couple, it is very, very important that you be upfront with the other woman. Ground rules need to be discussed before hand. If seeking a woman for couple activity, be certain you look at women specifically asking for this. (hard to find, btw)

But then, your fiance could always approach one of her girlfriends she is attracted to. Who knows what might happen?

 

[Linedrive]

Speaking from personel experience...Chele is exactly right. In our situation and other people I know in similar situations, the best stories have come out of the ladies that connect to another lady themselves. Most women are going to look at being asked by a man to join in with them, as something HE wants and not her.

 

[Raynorbt2]

Thank you for the replies. Many of the things you mention I already have a good hold on, but to be honest the considerations arising from a man broaching this subject never occured to me.

To be honest this is for her. I don't care if I am involved in any way, I don't even have to watch. I just want to do everything I can to make her happy. Mind you that doesn't mean I would say no if offered, I am still male.

As for being upfront. Absolutely, I would never do anything without being totally up front and honest and considerate, that's just not right.

Thank you once again, I truly appreciate the help.