Question about threads, if you will indulge me

[KillerMuffin]

Do you think that the thread starter somehow "owns" a thread?

That the threadstarter somehow has a right to determine where it goes?

Can people "host" threads? As in using the thread as some sort of "home" and act as a "host or hostess" to thread visitors?

Do threadstarters have a good reason to get angry and attack/insult/display passive~aggressive behavior to thread hijackers?

 

[QuickDuck]

*duck bump*

 

[bozinka]

Do you think that the thread starter somehow "owns" a thread?

That the threadstarter somehow has a right to determine where it goes?

Can people "host" threads? As in using the thread as some sort of "home" and act as a "host or hostess" to thread visitors?

Do threadstarters have a good reason to get angry and attack/insult/display passive~aggressive behavior to thread hijackers?

I think it depends on the thread, and the starter. I personally think that most threads won't digress from their original intent, and are harder to hijack, if the starter posts frequently there, probably acting like a "host" or whatnot. I know on the threads I have started... the ones I care about where they go (my pic thread for example) I view it as MINE.... I love to have other people post of course, even other pics sometimes. And don't mind conversing and chatting quite a bit in it... but if someone were to be hostile or something, I'd probably say something, and I also have been known to vent in my thread.

I have started other threads for everyone else to use... to post or whatever... and those I don't feel I own. They are just threads I started, and where ever they go, that's fine with me.

I don't think anyone needs to be p/a and definately not angry/attacking/insulting to another specific poster. I think it's very bad form to point out a certain person and attack. I have been known to vent, but try to not let people know who I am venting at. But, some people have threads they want very specifically kept to the theme, and they say that's the case.

Your best bet is to read a bit of the thread and see what the starter and people on the thread seem to be doing, and where they are going with it, and stick to that theme.

Just my thoughts....

 

[MissTaken]

I don't think a thread starter necessarily has ownership.

However, a good thread starter will visit it frequently, encourage diversity in responses and if they so desire, guide the thread back to the original topic.

When done with a certain amount of finesse, a thread starter can , in a sense, moderate a thread.

I do get annoyed if a thread that has some serious content involved is hijacked by flirtation. It is easy enough to go in and make a joke about getting a room or whatever seems appropriate and light at the time.

That usually works.

Then, I have started threads on the Playground and they take on a life of their own. Generally these threads are intended to be open to anything.

 

[bozinka]

Yeah, I think to clarify - the only thread I really think of as MINE is my picture thread - but that's a bit different than the threads on here. I have very personal things on that thread... lots invested in it.

 

[~Dream~]

in my opinion

regardless of the thread or topic.. people NEVER have an inerrant RIGHT to be *rude* to the thread starter , threads ARE indeed public , however show some respect , if we are TRULY all ADULTS here ? altho for SOME I do realize thats harder than others .. ROFLMFAO ..

 

[1sexylady]

I don't think a thread starter necessarily has ownership.

However, a good thread starter will visit it frequently, encourage diversity in responses and if they so desire, guide the thread back to the original topic.

When done with a certain amount of finesse, a thread starter can , in a sense, moderate a thread.

I do get annoyed if a thread that has some serious content involved is hijacked by flirtation. It is easy enough to go in and make a joke about getting a room or whatever seems appropriate and light at the time.

That usually works.

Then, I have started threads on the Playground and they take on a life of their own. Generally these threads are intended to be open to anything.

I quoted Miss Taken because she started a thread and basically I do most of the talking in it with other friends. I love that thread and it is alot of fun and I wrote her thanking her and wanted to make sure she didn't mind me being in so much and joking around. Nobody owns anything around here but they do own the right to be respected as the person that started the thread or asked the question.

 

[HomerPindar]

Do you think that the thread starter somehow "owns" a thread?

That the threadstarter somehow has a right to determine where it goes?

Can people "host" threads? As in using the thread as some sort of "home" and act as a "host or hostess" to thread visitors?

Do threadstarters have a good reason to get angry and attack/insult/display passive~aggressive behavior to thread hijackers?

I was wondering about that, how some folks seem to think there's an obligation, even compitition to how well a thread is doing.

Then again, there are folks who think getting onto a new topic is bad... but folks do that all the time. It's call conversation. Note how one at a party, or among friends, drifts from topic to topic. BFD, it happens... someone steps into a convo and off it goes. Course, being rude about it sucks.

Personally, I'm not possesive enough to be a thread starter

HomerPindar

 

[MissTaken]

There are times, when what makes a thread good is to watch where it goes.

As with that conversation over coffee, it can wander all over the place and still be returned to topic.

1sexylady???

I pop in to see what is going on over there from time to time. I am glad you hvae had fun with it .

 

[SexyChele]

Do you think that the thread starter somehow "owns" a thread?

That the threadstarter somehow has a right to determine where it goes?

Can people "host" threads? As in using the thread as some sort of "home" and act as a "host or hostess" to thread visitors?

Do threadstarters have a good reason to get angry and attack/insult/display passive~aggressive behavior to thread hijackers?

No, I do not think that anyone "owns" a thread here. If anyone owned anything, it would be Laurel and Manu. However, I think people can feel a certain fondness for the threads that they have started - depending on the topic. But "own"? Sounds sorta weird to me.

I've seen people who start threads get upset when others joing with differing views or with opinions that differ. I believe in the interest of free speech, no one really has the "right" to determine where a thread will go, though they can ask the participants to consider the topic. Well, that is, if it has one.

I think people do "host" threads, but I've only seen it at the Playground. Yes, it can be done.

Threads here at Lit get highjacked all the time. It's a part of human nature and will always exist. As MissTaken said previously, if a thread is serious in nature and two or more posters start treating it like a hotel room, the other participants have the right to ask them to either keep on track or go elsewhere. Might or might not work. But to get angry? Why? It's wasted energy and only makes one look like a fool. If it is something that bothers some one that much, they need to find a new source of entertainment.

 

[alwaysawake]

I agree with Chele...nobody owns anything here and with the diverse melting pot of personalities that visit the boards, you are bound to get an opinion with which you don't agree. Think of what a dull world we'd have if everyone assented with one another. People with opposing opinions broaden my scope of perception, allow me to keep an open mind, and keep learning each day.

As far as rudeness goes, there is no excuse for it...since we can't all be speaking face-to-face...it is impossible to tell via the typewritten word whether someone is truly rude or simply sarcastic (tongue in cheek.) If someone doesn't appreciate what is being said on a thread (whether they originated the thread or not)....if you don't like the weather; MOVE! There are tons of threads and should be something to your liking.

Life is too serious to take seriously and I won't waste my time/energy by getting angry here...I have better uses of my time than that. Off my opinionated soapbox for now... AA

 

[~Dream~]

I agree with Chele...nobody owns anything here and with the diverse melting pot of personalities that visit the boards, you are bound to get an opinion with which you don't agree. Think of what a dull world we'd have if everyone assented with one another. People with opposing opinions broaden my scope of perception, allow me to keep an open mind, and keep learning each day.

As far as rudeness goes, there is no excuse for it...since we can't all be speaking face-to-face...it is impossible to tell via the typewritten word whether someone is truly rude or simply sarcastic (tongue in cheek.) If someone doesn't appreciate what is being said on a thread (whether they originated the thread or not)....if you don't like the weather; MOVE! There are tons of threads and should be something to your liking.

Life is too serious to take seriously and I won't waste my time/energy by getting angry here...I have better uses of my time than that. Off my opinionated soapbox for now... AA

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Hey I totally Agree with ya AAA hun ,too many *a-holes* out there are definately NOT worth Dream's precious valuable time , i'd much rather make love than war , fighting and being rude are for immature assholes and idiots , they need a ((hugg) REAL bad!! lol
I have more Fun right here , I am soo happy w/ My Master for forbidding me to post elsewhere as now I dont have to worry about getting more buckets to catch all the SH** people were givin me !! ROFLMFAo , lookout AA my post total may catch up to ya yet!!

 

[alwaysawake]

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Hey I totally Agree with ya AAA hun ,too many *a-holes* out there are definately NOT worth Dream's precious valuable time , i'd much rather make love than war , fighting and being rude are for immature assholes and idiots , they need a ((hugg) REAL bad!! lol
I have more Fun right here , I am soo happy w/ My Master for forbidding me to post elsewhere as now I dont have to worry about getting more buckets to catch all the SH** people were givin me !! ROFLMFAo , lookout AA my post total may catch up to ya yet!!

Of course your post total will surpass mine...the ladies are always more popular! Hugs--AA

 

[~Dream~]

Of course your post total will surpass mine...the ladies are always more popular! Hugs--AA

____________ awww what a sweety !!

h oh not keepin in thread topic ,lol bad Dream (sue me)!! ROF

 

[STUDDOG]

I agree......

Hey I totally Agree with ya AAA hun ,too many *a-holes* out there are definately NOT worth Dream's precious valuable time , i'd much rather make love than war , fighting and being rude are for immature assholes and idiots , they need a ((hugg) REAL bad!! lol
I have more Fun right here , I am soo happy w/ My Master for forbidding me to post elsewhere as now I dont have to worry about getting more buckets to catch all the SH** people were givin me !! ROFLMFAo , lookout AA my post total may catch up to ya yet!!


Dream...girl you and AA are right on......A friend of mine just recently got her feeling hurt because someone told her she posted in the wrong place...she is new here and as I am also, still trying to be correct in my post...
I don't understand rudeness or people with words that hurt...

Dream ...I find that the love and friendship follow your posts...
always glad to be behind you Daring.

Studdog...... for what it's worth

 

[zipman]

Do you think that the thread starter somehow "owns" a thread?

That the threadstarter somehow has a right to determine where it goes?

Can people "host" threads? As in using the thread as some sort of "home" and act as a "host or hostess" to thread visitors?

Do threadstarters have a good reason to get angry and attack/insult/display passive~aggressive behavior to thread hijackers?

Great question KM.

I don't think the thread starter "owns" the thread. However, where the thread is posted and the topic being discussed do play into the sense of "ownership."

If the the thread is on a particular topic for discussion, such as on the BDSM board, then I can easily see how a thread starter could become upset by flirting and distractions for the topic to be discussed. In that case, I see no problem with a thread starter trying to exert control over the direction of the topic. As long as the thread starter is encouraging discussion of the topic, I see no problem with it. However, if the thread starter is attempting to discourage dissenting opinions, this is not right.

I also think that each of the boards here has a unique purpose and flavor. The BDSM board tends to more serious, the Playground more for friendly flirting and the GB for just about anything. Where you post a thread will definitely impact the type of discussion and comments you receive.

 

[MissTaken]

RE: a**holes

IT seems that sour grapes could take this thread way off topic.

I have started a new thread to discuss netiquette and would welcome everyone to stop in and chit chat about the issues.

I find it interesting that the "a**holes" that are being referred to are also posting here in a responsible and intelligent manner wihtout falling for the bait offered.

So, please, stop in at the netiquette thread....

Open discussion concerning assholes and hurt feelings and how to avoid it!



http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=126999

 

[Arden]

I've started so many threads that I can't remember all of them.

I think in looking at thread "hosting", there is another factor to be considered. Many threads are started by folks like me who didn't fit in well with some of the very clique-ish threads. I do tend to hang out at threads that I've started, and one in particular I would say that I do "host"... the Bohemian Coffee House. I have musicians, artists and writers in and out daily, so I make it a point to thank everyone for their contributions - which keep the thread alive.

I created two oddball threads to help relieve other threads of wanton fucking, which sometimes irks those thread starters when it gets out of hand. In one case, excessive fucking drove the regular posters away from an established thread. So I created the "Fuck- Get A Room" thread, just for screwing around or watching (take your pick) and the "Spank Me" thread, for that purpose. They're fun, and people do actually utilize them. You can do whatever you like there, just bring your own friend.

But other threads, like "Hug A Day" are general purpose, the people that post there make the thread, not me.

There was only one thread that I started that got so far off track that I abandoned it for a while, the "Mind Fuck" thread. Playgrounders didn't seem to get what it was about. When I was enlightened that a mind fuck state was the same thing as 'sub space', I realized why it failed on the playground. People getting off track in their posts did not cause it's failure.

I've seen new people come into threads and be very aggresive and hostile, using foul language and slandering people with certain sex preferences. I lit into one of these persons once. He hit three threads total, and we were keeping him in check at all locations until he apologized. At that point we made an agreement that if he would alter all of his nasty posts, I, and others, would alter all of our posts toward him. It worked perfectly, and all the posts were cleared, as well as the tension in the air. Nastiness just doesn't cut it with me. On the Playground, we should all play nicely and respect others.

Would I ask someone to leave one of my threads for screwing around if it were not a thread designed for that? I haven't yet, but that doesn't really bother me. I think playfullness is part of the fun you would expect on a "Playground." But there are some serious threads where it might not be appropriate.

Just my 2 cents. Thanks for the opportunity to ramble on a bit here, this is an interesting discussion.

 

[Jewelz]

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[zipman]

Re: RE: a**holes

IT seems that sour grapes could take this thread way off topic.

I have started a new thread to discuss netiquette and would welcome everyone to stop in and chit chat about the issues.

I find it interesting that the "a**holes" that are being referred to are also posting here in a responsible and intelligent manner wihtout falling for the bait offered.

So, please, stop in at the netiquette thread....

Open discussion concerning assholes and hurt feelings and how to avoid it!



http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=126999

Great post MissT! As always, you see through to the heart of the matter.

Zip

 

[~Dream~]

Re: I agree......

Hey I totally Agree with ya AAA hun ,too many *a-holes* out there are definately NOT worth Dream's precious valuable time , i'd much rather make love than war , fighting and being rude are for immature assholes and idiots , they need a ((hugg) REAL bad!! lol
I have more Fun right here , I am soo happy w/ My Master for forbidding me to post elsewhere as now I dont have to worry about getting more buckets to catch all the SH** people were givin me !! ROFLMFAo , lookout AA my post total may catch up to ya yet!!


Dream...girl you and AA are right on......A friend of mine just recently got her feeling hurt because someone told her she posted in the wrong place...she is new here and as I am also, still trying to be correct in my post...
I don't understand rudeness or people with words that hurt...

Dream ...I find that the love and friendship follow your posts...
always glad to be behind you Daring.

Studdog...... for what it's worth

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studdog babe , I truly appreciate your post ....

Miss T , point taken ,but then again Sour Grapes can just be Squashed as they need to be , correct?? My intent was to CLEARLY and CONCISELY give my Honest opinion , and I did ty

 

[~Dream~]

Re: RE: a**holes

IT seems that sour grapes could take this thread way off topic.

I have started a new thread to discuss netiquette and would welcome everyone to stop in and chit chat about the issues.

I find it interesting that the "a**holes" that are being referred to are also posting here in a responsible and intelligent manner wihtout falling for the bait offered.

So, please, stop in at the netiquette thread....

Open discussion concerning assholes and hurt feelings and how to avoid it!



http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=126999

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lmao @ Miss T , ya know what? to me the use of the word A-holes" while in itself was prob wrong by me and being the gracious and kind fun-loving person I AM i will apologize for that term ,however its funny as He* to Me personally ,THAT You yourself would pin that name which is a *general* term on a *select few* lmfao .made my day , perhaps i'll pay the thread a visit later but Master has me WAY too busy planning My move..

I guess posting reasonable & intelligent REALLY IS all in the *eye of the beholder*

 

[The Plunger]

Dream. You laugh too much. You laugh at everything in lue of offering an intellegent response. I can just picture you there, laughing your ass off at everything. Are you sheltered or deprived to the point that anything entertains and amuses you, regardless of how un-funny it really is?

If I did stand up, I'd love to have an audience full of people so easily amused.

 

[~Dream~]

Dream. You laugh too much. You laugh at everything in lue of offering an intellegent response. I can just picture you there, laughing your ass off at everything. Are you sheltered or deprived to the point that anything entertains and amuses you, regardless of how un-funny it really is?

If I did stand up, I'd love to have an audience full of people so easily amused.

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awww I am soo sorry that you feel Laughter is a BAD thing Plunger ... gee it must be SAD to have that mentality , to each their own tho ... lmao .. My responses are as intelligent as anyone's and after all just because YOU or anyone else may Not think that they are , Does NOT make it so ... Your opinion only and for THAT reason alone I respect it , but dont happen to agree. LMFAO

 

[The Plunger]

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awww I am soo sorry that you feel Laughter is a BAD thing Plunger ... gee it must be SAD to have that mentality , to each their own tho ... lmao .. My responses are as intelligent as anyone's and after all just because YOU or anyone else may Not think that they are , Does NOT make it so ... Your opinion only and for THAT reason alone I respect it , but dont happen to agree. LMFAO

Your sympathy is unnecessary, your continous laughter at everything, including things that are not even remotely funny, is nothing more than a mild irritation.

Other than that, you appear to be doing fine.