question about sex.

[ghengisvan]

alright i noticed other people have asked a simular question but mine is rather unique. i did not have sex til i was 22, and the problem is that, while i can please my girl VERY well with my hands and tongue, and she is very beautiful but i cant seem to keep a erection, and when she gives me head i can watch her but i wont feel a thing, i have to tell her to use her teeth just so i can feel something. when i get hard enough to put it inside her and go for a while i still cant feel anything, i mean she is really tight to a painful extent, but as far as once im inside her i cant feel anything... i dont know why its like my dick isnt sensitive at all... i personally dont mind not having much sex because i get more enjoyment in getting her off, but she feels really bad about it. any tips?

 

[sunandshadow]

More info needed. Does masturbating work for you? What's your technique, does it involve squeezing really tight or friction that could have created callouses? Also, are you circumcised, and if not is your foreskin tight?

 

[Jagged]

Sounds like your masturbating to much...well just ease off and enjoy it with her. All new sensations that you can be welcome to as time progresses.

 

[arielsgoddess]

I have run into this....

If you have never had sensation there, you may have had an early injury that caused nerve damage. You said that when she squeezes you with her teeth, you can feel it--not too painful, and might get you off? If that is the case you need to 1) Increase pressure and 2) Increase sensation during sex. There's a few ways to do that. For increasing pressure, cockrings can be found at any adult store and are inexpensive. (Viagra works primarily on your circulation, BTW, so the cockring may mean that's what you eventually go for).

Next, to explore your sensation needs, if the GF is willing to give you a BJ, I have posted various methods, including heated liquids or chocolate, and stronger sensations such as poprocks and altoids, to experiment with. If you find that altoids is your best trigger, there is a method for intercourse. You can get those 'breathstrips'/'mouthwash strips', and wrap them around your shaft from the base to just under the cap of the head (DO NOT PUT THEM ON TIP OR THEY COULD GO IN YOUR URETHRA--if that happens, pee like an MF! and you'll feel better, lol). You might need to slightly moisten to get them to stick while you roll the condom over your shaft, over the strips, to hold them in place. The natural moisture you generate should do the rest as you screw GF's brains out. Remember: you should already have the cockring on the erect penis first.

It could also have to do with your prostate. If your GF knows how to do prostate massage in the sweetspot behind your balls, have her do it OFTEN. (If you can't find the info, I will post it). If you notice this makes a significant difference--or if NOTHING makes any diff, GO SEE A GOOD DR--you could have some serious trouble with your prostate (ie something you could die from, like cancer). Otherwise, if this makes your prob go away, it could be that your prostate was getting blocked-up, and this will kill sex drive, sensation, and lead to cancer. There was a study done by the Italian version of the surgeon general consulate a few years ago, and they proved men that ejaculate--by any means--atleast 27 times per month, do not get prostate cancer. Sex CAN save your life, lol. (In case you need an alibi )

Good luck, and PM me if you need further advice.

 

[ghengisvan]

well, she was my first time, i know im attracted to her, cuz things like foreplay and kissing, the passionate stuff gets me going but the actual act of sex just kills my erection. as far as masterbating i do use odd technique i guess, i roll my fingers over the tip because thats where i get my sensation from, i dont get much from stroking i just rub the tip alot and thats what makes me cum by myself. il try the not masterbating at all and see if that helps maybe doing that will force my body to seek pleasure from her...

 

[fire_breeze]

Have you discussed this issue with your doctor or health care professional? I'd suggest that you make an appointment to rule out any possible underlying physiological problems first.

Good luck.