Question about changes

[OutsideObserver]

In the spirit of becoming a more welcoming place, I thought I would pose this question to the forum. If you could change one or two things about this forum to make it a better, more welcoming place, what would they be? I have seen several good suggestions recently, one being to possibly sub-divide the forum. It did not meet with much approval, but it might just have been the suggested way of sub-dividing. There are other ways of doing that like possibly different categories, etc. So what are your suggestions?

~=(O)--(O)=~

 

[WriterDom]

In the spirit of becoming a more welcoming place, I thought I would pose this question to the forum. If you could change one or two things about this forum to make it a better, more welcoming place, what would they be?

OutsideObserver to be drawn and quartered, and what is left over to be keel hauled and sent back to cymtalk in a McDonalds bag.


Or more pics of bondage bunny.

edited to add that wasn't a threat, just a wish.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I'd like to see some Change

The biggest change I would like to see is that the starter of this thread would grab a book and learn something about BDSM so that "she" could post on topic.

That goes for you too UCE. And while you are at it, edit your posts to a more non-monumental length.

**Newsflash**...The Odyssey and Iliad have already been written.

Don't bother to flame me, cause you non- BDSM posting "folks" are on ignore. ( You too Dream, see ya "sweety")

Ebonyfiredup

 

[bunny bondage]

*blush*

 

[~Dream~]

hey outside??

ya quivering in your boots yet?? Roflmfao nice to meet ya .. looks like we may have ALOT in common .welcome to my nightmare aka > BDSM forum good luck !!

 

[OutsideObserver]

Re: hey outside??

Originally posted by ~Dream~
ya quivering in your boots yet?? Roflmfao nice to meet ya .. looks like we may have ALOT in common .welcome to my nightmare aka > BDSM forum good luck !!

We have nothing in common. You are a woman in need of some extensive counceling and medicinal help.

Be well.

~=(O)--(O)=~

 

[lark sparrow]

Re: Re: hey outside??

We have nothing in common. You are a woman in need of some extensive counceling and medicinal help.

Be well.

~=(O)--(O)=~

Ah, sweet, sweet irony.

 

[zipman]

Re: Re: hey outside??

We have nothing in common. You are a woman in need of some extensive counceling and medicinal help.

Be well.

~=(O)--(O)=~

I may not agree with your methods or your comments most of the time, but I just have to say...


LMFAO!


I guess you won't be called sis OO anytime soon!

 

[OutsideObserver]

Re: Re: Re: hey outside??

Originally posted by lark sparrow
Ah, sweet, sweet irony.

Yes it would appear so. I am glad you had a good laugh, lark sparrow.

Got any good ideas, or should I expect more of the same nonsense from you?

I have a question for you. Would you be interested in a sub-section of the BDSM forum that was dedicated to Homosexuality and BDSM? It would be a section dedicated to discussing situations and problems that are unique to homosexuals that practice BDSM.

What about a sub-section that was dedicated to discussing women's issues in BDSM?

What about a sub-section dedicate to BDSM Poetry?

Any thoughts on those topics?

As always, be well.

~=(O)--(O)=~

 

[WriterDom]

Re: Re: Re: Re: hey outside??

What about a sub-section

I'd vote for a sub-section that puts your lame ass on ignore.

 

[OutsideObserver]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: hey outside??

I'd vote for a sub-section that puts your lame ass on ignore.

You are welcome to do so WriterDom, no sub-section needed. I actually have to credit you with the sub-section idea. I was sorry to see that your suggestion was met with such disapproval. I wonder if that was mostly because the suggestion came from you.

Be well.

~=(O)--(O)=~

 

[lark sparrow]

Re: Re: Re: Re: hey outside??

Yes it would appear so. I am glad you had a good laugh, lark sparrow.

Got any good ideas, or should I expect more of the same nonsense from you?

I have a question for you. Would you be interested in a sub-section of the BDSM forum that was dedicated to Homosexuality and BDSM? It would be a section dedicated to discussing situations and problems that are unique to homosexuals that practice BDSM.

What about a sub-section that was dedicated to discussing women's issues in BDSM?

What about a sub-section dedicate to BDSM Poetry?

Any thoughts on those topics?

As always, be well.

~=(O)--(O)=~

Keep posting. I think I am getting a pretty good line on who you are Expect more of the same, dear. I have a question for you. Did you feel you would not be listened to or respected enough to voice your concerns in the other name you use?

 

[WriterDom]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: hey outside??

You are welcome to do so WriterDom, no sub-section needed. I actually have to credit you with the sub-section idea. I was sorry to see that your suggestion was met with such disapproval. I wonder if that was mostly because the suggestion came from you.

Be well.

~=(O)--(O)=~

I don't think it was met with any disapproval. It's just not possible. But putting you on ignore is.

 

[zipman]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: hey outside??

You are welcome to do so WriterDom, no sub-section needed. I actually have to credit you with the sub-section idea. I was sorry to see that your suggestion was met with such disapproval. I wonder if that was mostly because the suggestion came from you.

Be well.

~=(O)--(O)=~

Or perhaps the rest of us don't feel it would be a good idea, and it has nothing to do with the fact that WD asked it.

These type of comments are what cause people to react to you negatively. That and the fact that you don't seem able to say this without hiding behind the OO alias.

Perhaps you would stimulate more conversation and cause more improvement in the forum if you did post as your regular identity. That is your objective, isn't it?

 

[OutsideObserver]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: hey outside??

Keep posting. I think I am getting a pretty good line on who you are Expect more of the same, dear. I have a question for you. Did you feel you would not be listened to or respected enough to voice your concerns in the other name you use, so decided to mimic the trolls of the GB?

Good for you, dear little lark sparrow. I welcome you to start naming names and defaming other people. I am more than sure they will like you all the better for it. As for you question, I will point you to the recent suggestion made by WriterDom. I see several good suggestions made in this forum and they are usually met with ridicule by the popular posters. Not only is the suggestion met with ridicule, but so is the person that had the impudence to ever suggest changing such a "perfect" place.

~=(O)--(O)=~

 

[lark sparrow]

I won't need to name names. But, it is two-faced nonsense like this which would make it hard to have a forum of integrity, divided or not.

 

[OutsideObserver]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: hey outside??

I don't think it was met with any disapproval. It's just not possible. But putting you on ignore is.

Anything is possible. It is your decision to put me on ignore.

Be well.

~=(O)--(O)=~

 

[OutsideObserver]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: hey outside??

Or perhaps the rest of us don't feel it would be a good idea, and it has nothing to do with the fact that WD asked it.

These type of comments are what cause people to react to you negatively. That and the fact that you don't seem able to say this without hiding behind the OO alias.

Perhaps you would stimulate more conversation and cause more improvement in the forum if you did post as your regular identity. That is your objective, isn't it?

I am sorry you feel a need to react to me negatively, zipman7. Since I am not going to abandon this persona, I suggest you will have to put me on ignore since you cannot just read my words and not be concerned about who I am.

Be well.

~=(O)--(O)=~

 

[OutsideObserver]

I won't need to name names. But, it is two-faced nonsense like this which would make it hard to have a forum of integrity, divided or not.

A "forum of integrity"? That is like saying lawyers are trustworthy. Sorry for the joke and no disrespect to the lawyers in the forum. I think the concept of integrity in an online forum is laughable.

Be well.

~=(O)--(O)=~

 

[zipman]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: hey outside??

I am sorry you feel a need to react to me negatively, zipman7. Since I am not going to abandon this persona, I suggest you will have to put me on ignore since you cannot just read my words and not be concerned about who I am.

Be well.

~=(O)--(O)=~

But that's exactly my point. Your methods and tone instantly minimize exactly what you are attempting to do. How many others also discount some or all of what you are saying because of your choice to remain anonymous?

You have set yourself up as a judge of those who post here and then profess that you do this for the betterment of the forum. As the "Outside Observer" name and position that you have chosen, you cause the negative reaction as opposed to posting under your original identity. Do you not see how this appears to the rest of us? Can you not recognize how this does the opposite of what you intend? Your choice causes a higher level of defensiveness, and therefore, less productivity.

I can seperate your words from your identity. But I find your choice to be a disavowment of your own accountability for your words. The conversation could be and would be better if you rethought your approach.

 

[lark sparrow]

A "forum of integrity"? That is like saying lawyers are trustworthy. Sorry for the joke and no disrespect to the lawyers in the forum. I think the concept of integrity in an online forum is laughable.

Be well.

~=(O)--(O)=~

That's utterly obvious with your behavior - no mystery opinion expressed there, sweets.

 

[NemoAlia]

I, for one, support an integrated forum rather than a divided one. I like being exposed to things that I wouldn't consider myself invested in. Things like, for example, BDSM poetry or issues of homosexuality and BDSM. If we subdivide our forum, we run the risk of creating little exclusive groups that spin ever-inward. I would prefer to keep our current diverse community and just to make sure that we're labeling our threads helpfully. Thread labels should be all that we really need in order to navigate this forum.

 

[bunny bondage]

blah blah blah blah BLAH. jesus TAP DANCING christ.

nemo's up there is the only post that's still on track. so i will put mine there too.

i think that the idea of simply labling threads clearly eliminates the idea completly for seperate forums. you can disect and seperate a group of people for any reason. eventually, you will end up with as many groups as there are people as everyone is ultimatly unique. so c'mon, can't we all just get along? change is unecessary, and through elitist mentality (i.e. the cool kids table), would eventually bring down the forum entirely.

 

[pierced_boy]

alright Roland

Ive got the OO my the sights let's carve it up

Fuck off!Fuck off!Fuck off!Fuck off!Fuck off!Fuck off!Fuck off!Fuck off!Fuck off!Fuck off!~~~Fuck off!Fuck off!Fuck off!Fuck off!~~~Fuck off!Fuck off!Fuck off!Fuck off!Fuck off!Fuck off!Fuck off!Fuck off!



oh fuck its got away behind a big pile of dead wombats

Roland let rip with the ~~ see if you can get it before it slinks away

 

[Hecate]

Changes....

I wished the board were still the little island of clichee happiness it was before early summer this year. I found it more inspiering and worth reading, and subsequently felt more drawn to respond. (possibly because new people would go through the effort of searching for stuff before asking the same question over and over again just because the thread is no longer on page 1)

Maybe it was a close knitt elitist community, but at least I could assume who got up the guts to post there knew what it was about (it was "us" perverts against "them" 'nillas if you like, now we are so securely established that there is no longer a "us" but everyone is all of a sudden "them"). I did not need to phrase my words carefully to be politically correct - I could be the bitch I am. The topics were BDSM and the board was not a psycho-couch but a bunch of kinkster spewing their opinionated minds. Fun!

Obviously we have already become more "welcoming" - nice to meet new people, and definitely I approve of any chance the BDSM community gets to clear up some prejudices about us. It seems as well that BDSM has become some kind of "kink chic", cool stuff, yeah!

Alas, I am not on a mission to educate the world on CBT, servitude or bondage technique. And I am no councellor for "Who am I - how can I free my submissiv self?" I am just me with my own perception of the world to share, and to keep my private life exactly that - private.

Are we making our expertice too readily available perhaps? Make it too easily consumable so that we take away all pressur to put in some effort on their own for those who come exploring?

To me BDSM is important - but so are fast cars, my job, good aged red wine and medium to well done cooked prime Angus filet steak. I take the liberty to get bored with it at times - to question its manifestation in my life and the world in general and I to make fun about it and have a good laugh on who and what I am in this context.

As for change: I can't get "the good old times" back (probably they are much better in retrospect anyway), and I am not having any preference as to what this board should be like, as I take the liberty to contribute to it as I see fit. A lot, a little, or nothing at all, and if I don't like it here I'll find greener pastures - none of those though are likely to change themselves just to accomodate my imagination of a perfect BDSM discussion board. Just like I wandered into Lit at some stage I might wander out of it - just as I change job, cars and other vital aspects of my life my preferences and interests in BDSM too will fluctuate... and it has nothing to do with the board itself or the people there, it is all about ME and what I want, need and seek and if what is offered still matches my needs.

Be well and may the festive season bring you peace and happiness

Regards
Hecate