Question about anal sex

[Bighammerfucker]

I know it's a fairly popular thing, and having experienced it a couple of handfuls of times myself, I do enjoy how utterly dominating it feels... however, one thing I cannot get over is the pain of it. We've tried using lube but it's worse - the problem is I tear, even though he isn't particularly girthy, and the lube then stings even worse than it would without it! The least painful way is to use saliva I've found but it still hurts so much I can't enjoy it!

I'm wondering if anyone knows how to overcome this or if they have any tips in general of how to enjoy it or why they do, because it's one of my guy's top fetishes and if I could somehow at least not make it so painful and uncomfortable, I would be willing to participate more often...

 

[Carnevil9]

There's a FAQ somewhere on this site that goes into all sorts of details about all sorts of sex. I can't recall where it is exactly, but it might have some tips for you.

On the other hand, some people, or pairs of people, just aren't physically compatible for all activities. You might just have to accept that this item is not going to be on your menu.

 

[Algos_Idoni]

Is it painful if he were to use his thumb? Or a smaller girthed finger?

Can't think of anything sexier than a woman lubing up my finger with her mouth, so I can then use it to pick her rosebud open. Or her own juices. Just be sure that he doesn't re insert that finger back into your womanhood.

 

[jsmiam]

@carn, is this the link you meant? Either way, the cartoon is entertaining and helpful too.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1201059

 

[Tomr]

Here is a short tutorial I typed up a while back. It's how *I* learned..

The key to this is to take your time and go slow. You learn how to control your butt and sphincter muscles. You learn how to RELAX THEM and you get used to the feeling of it all.

Anal play for beginners

Disclaimer: I am NOT a doctor and I do NOT play one on TV. This is the way *I* learned how to discover anal play. As usual care needs to be practiced. GO VERY SLOWLY.

First start off with a TRIMMED index finger. You may even want to put on a latex glove first to help make it even smoother. Use KY or the drug store brand of KY and lube the finger well. Place it VERY GENTLY near the anus and lightly circle the hole with the finger. DON'T INSERT YET. Just circle it for a few minutes. After a few minutes without insert, just put the finger over the anus and gently press a bit without entering. Just apply a bit of pressure.
Do this over and over a few times and after a few minutes SLOWLY begin to insert JUST THE FINGER *TIP* in about a quarter of an inch then take it out. Do this a few times then go a LITTLE further in. Repeat this until you have you whole finger in. DO NOT FORCE IT, IF HE OR SHE OR YOU SAYS STOP, STOP!

Within a week or so of trying this the person should be fairly used to the finger and inserting and pumping it in and out should become easy. Also try moving the finger around while inserted, back & forth,etc. Orgasms ARE VERY VERY INTENSE when you leave your finger or butt plug or dildo in.

Soon you will want to try something slightly bigger than your finger. Try your middle finger or graduate to a SMALL butt plug. Same rules apply to the new toy as did with the finger. Start off using the finger as usual then after getting loose begin with the plug.
Plugs have flared bottoms to prevent them from going all the way in. If you graduate to dildos later get ones with a flared base or ones that have the balls at the bottom. This prevents them from slipping all the way in. You don't need a trip to the ER to retrieve it, that would SUCK!
After a while you will become very used to anal play and you won't need much time to prep for your session. You'll loosen up very quickly after you learn how to relax your anal muscles. It takes me less than 5 minutes to go from start to riding a 8 inch silicon dildo like a bucking bronco!
GITTYUP LITTLE DOGGIE!
The key to learning anal play/sex is to TAKE YOUR TIME.