Quantity vs. Quality?

[@}-}rebecca----]

waits for Miss Shy Slave to chime in ..............

geez....lol

 

[FurryFury]

I've often found that to me, sex is feeling attractive, loved, and close to someone. Therefore, if it's not great, I'd still rather fuck and fuck often. It makes me feel alive and needed. *shrugs* Of course I'd rather have great sex whenever possible. Fortunately it's possible most of the time in my life now, particularly this weekend!

Fury

 

[graceanne]

Sex, for me, is about more than the orgasm. Their's more to good sex than how good my orgasm is, or how much fun I have. It's about the other person, it's about closeness and intimacy, it's about love.

 

[NemoAlia]

I've often found that to me, sex is feeling attractive, loved, and close to someone. Therefore, if it's not great, I'd still rather fuck and fuck often. It makes me feel alive and needed....

Again I find myself in good company!

Maybe you and I are twins, separated at birth?

 

[FurryFury]

Again I find myself in good company!

Maybe you and I are twins, separated at birth?

I've actually had that thought a time or two reading your posts!



Fury

 

[luke4u]

If it's going to be unsatisfying, I'd rather take care of business myself.

i agree better to diy

 

[Mr. Mann]

Poor quality sex is much better than DIY.

I'm pretty good with myself, but nothing... NOTHING... NOTHING... compares to woman.

Even if she doesn't do anything other than lay there while you do your thing.... she's still there, naked, warm, soft... mmmmmm.

I can't even comprehend sex with someone being SO BAD that you'd rather DIY.

 

[chun_gong]

Sex, for me, is about more than the orgasm. Their's more to good sex than how good my orgasm is, or how much fun I have. It's about the other person, it's about closeness and intimacy, it's about love.

Here here!! My sentiments exactly.

And, love is about giving too... *shrugs* So, I have found that if you start with the 'giving', the rest happens easily. (Even with a quickie!!)

 

[Evil_Geoff]

I'd rather have unsatisfying sex than no sex.

Okay.... I give up.

What's unsatisfying sex? I don't think I've ever had any.

 

[Kajira Callista]

Okay.... I give up.

What's unsatisfying sex? I don't think I've ever had any.

on that i would have to agree.
sex is what YOU make of it.

 

[Bandit58]

I can't even comprehend sex with someone being SO BAD that you'd rather DIY.

I guess you never met my ex husband then

I've noticed the most of the men who have replied seem to think any sex, whether good, bad or indifferent, is better than no sex. I'd rather do it myself than put up with advances that quite frankly are a turn off....clumsiness, impatience, bad breath/body odour, selfishness.....ick.

I also have to have some kind of emotional connection to the other person, otherwise it ain't happening. Over the years of my marriage I was emotionally and physically "switched off" and it's only in the last 4 years that things have gotten "switched on" again

 

[FurryFury]

Okay.... I give up.

What's unsatisfying sex? I don't think I've ever had any.

That's when after the sex, you haven't come yet and have this unreleased built up need. That's when you go to handling things yourself. You still know HE is happy though. You can tell cause he made you all messy and now he is snoring. LMAO.

Fury

 

[saw_man1]

Not me

I guess you never met my ex husband then

I've noticed the most of the men who have replied seem to think any sex, whether good, bad or indifferent, is better than no sex. I'd rather do it myself than put up with advances that quite frankly are a turn off....clumsiness, impatience, bad breath/body odour, selfishness.....ick.

I also have to have some kind of emotional connection to the other person, otherwise it ain't happening. Over the years of my marriage I was emotionally and physically "switched off" and it's only in the last 4 years that things have gotten "switched on" again

I am glad you qualified your comment with the word "most" men. Thank you.

 

[chris9]

That's when after the sex, you haven't come yet and have this unreleased built up need. That's when you go to handling things yourself. You still know HE is happy though. You can tell cause he made you all messy and now he is snoring. LMAO.

Fury

That's not always unsatisfying. I find I rather do this than nothing. And if he's too tired to do anything more than lying there, it's still nice, and it's satisfying on a different level. The one gracie labelled 'love'.

 

[FurryFury]

That's not always unsatisfying. I find I rather do this than nothing. And if he's too tired to do anything more than lying there, it's still nice, and it's satisfying on a different level. The one gracie labelled 'love'.

I know what you mean but I WANT MINE!!! LOL! And I WILL GET IT, one way or another.

Fury

 

[jadefirefly]

I know what you mean but I WANT MINE!!! LOL! And I WILL GET IT, one way or another.

Fury

Hear, hear.

 

[Softouch911]

It took me years, and I didn't even know I was trying to learn it, but I've gotten to the point where it is actually more fun to give pleasure than it is to receive it.

No, I don't expect you to believe it, but it's never been so good. I can't much help it that I want to sleep after ejaculation, but I sure as hell can postpone orgasm for a looonnng time. Lotsa fun for all.

ST

 

[Shankara20]

Hear, hear.

turn off you iPod and turn down granny and you'll be able to hear just fine...

 

[jadefirefly]

Roflmao!

 

[Netzach]

Okay.... I give up.

What's unsatisfying sex? I don't think I've ever had any.

Me either.

Is my bar really low?

Am I really brilliant?

Am I just incredibly lucky?

 

[Netzach]

I'd rather do it myself than put up with advances that quite frankly are a turn off....clumsiness, impatience, bad breath/body odour, selfishness.....ick.

Dealbreakers all! I'm not even getting through drinks if that's the issue...

 

[Netzach]

That's not always unsatisfying. I find I rather do this than nothing. And if he's too tired to do anything more than lying there, it's still nice, and it's satisfying on a different level. The one gracie labelled 'love'.

There's love, yes. There's also "wow, masturbating in tandem is really really hot and we're both more likely to get off, whee!"

I don't see that as failed intercourse.

 

[graceanne]

I'd like to say that if all I got was low quality sex I'd get irritated. I deserve at least some effort on his part. But I know that I'm not always the best fuck. Sometimes I feel to crappy to do more than just lay there. That's life. I try not to expect more from him than I'm willing to give.

Beyond that, my idea of quality might differ from other peoples since I'm extreemly easy to get off. If I'm already horny it doesn't take more than a few minutes. *shrugs* I'm pretty much almost always guaranteed an orgasm. Unless I'm sick - then it'd take an act of god to get me off. Their's no point trying, it's not happening.

 

[coolcan]

I am definitely a quality guy, and not quantity. I believe it is quantity for a guy when he is young. I like to have at least 1 or 2 good sessions (as I call them a week), which entails oral for each of us, plenty of foreplay, and at least 2 or 3 positions, and I get off more than once, every blue moon is nice. Totally exhausted and sweating when we are done.

If she says just hurry up and get some, I won't even bother, not interested in a pity fuck.

 

[FurryFury]

Each to thier own but . . .

Maybe she just doesn't want to go all damn night though. Yanno? Maybe she is tired or pressed for time.

Quickies have their place and a fine place it is too.

Likewise "maintenance" sex is glorious in it's own way.

If my husband or I felt we had to do all that every time, we'd rarely have sex. Life is too busy for all that much of the time.

Fury