Pushing hard limits

[Desdemona]

Re: Re: good bump ADR

Yes but you see, your hard limits and mine are not entirely the same thing. ;-)

I know it. That's what makes all this discussion interesting. I almost think that in order to really understand the discussion, we kinda need to be on the same page in terms of how we define hard and soft limits.

Doll, I'm sure glad those bruises are fading now.

I should go to work. I'm procrastinating. LOL

 

[A Desert Rose]

Re: Re: Re: good bump ADR

... Doll, I'm sure glad those bruises are fading now.

I wish I were glad...

 

[Desdemona]

Re: Re: Re: Re: good bump ADR

I wish I were glad...

I know darlin'. Some day you will be. Wish I had the extra $$ for a ticket to Vegas. I'd cheer you up!

 

[A Desert Rose]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: good bump ADR

I know darlin'. Some day you will be. Wish I had the extra $$ for a ticket to Vegas. I'd cheer you up!

I you so.

 

[RJMasters]

Sometimes

Many times limits are solely dependant upon a person's reasons they have drawn for themselves.

Some limits have been actually forced upon a person through bad experiences.

Sometimes...the right person can come along and instill enough trust and caring, that they can overcome the objections through patience.

It is possible that some limits are actually baggage from former relationships in disguise, and when the person comes to realize that the person they are with, is not the same as the person who put the limit there, it can be a freeing experience.


Another thing I find interesting in me...is when a former sub in the past had a hard limit and I adjusted and I learned to respect that limit, I find it takes some unlearning of my own when I am currently with a submissive who doesn't have that limit. Especially if that particular thing is a turn on for the current submissive. Take humillation for example, that might have been a hard limit for a past submissive, and my current submissive truly enjoys that. I find it takes a period of time for me to be able to adjust. I use humillation as a neutral example as its not really something I like or am into. Maybe this is just me and other Dom/mes don't have this dilema or hang up.