Pushing against things in your writing

[nice90sguy]

The biggest thing, in my mind, is aggression.

This is a bugbear of mine.

I'm staunchly heterosexual (I'm talking about my sexuality, not my opinions), and when I read or see porn where women imitate male dominant behaviour, it does nothing for me.

I write almost exclusively femdom, and the women I write are (of course) the type that turns me on -- they obtain (or maintain) power, through guile, persuasion, intelligence, verbal ability, but primarily by using the typically male weakness of being ruled by our dicks more than our brains.

Use of physical strength and aggression is not exclusively male behaviour, but is, in general, not a successful strategy for women who seek to dominate.

Hence, the female dominants in my writing are generally violence-free (unless the guy begs for it).

My writing is also strapon-free (they're simply penis-envy for women, and a self-deluding gay fantasy for men).

 

[djrip]

My writing is also strapon-free (they're simply penis-envy for women, and a self-deluding gay fantasy for men)

Or like one I read recently, she could make him wear the strap-on, of a cock bigger than his, while his is caged. Then it seems more like SPH.

 

[Euphony]

I've never understood strap-on between man and a woman

Novelty
Power dynamics
Communication (trust building)
Responsibilities shift
Performance issues

Fantasies across the spectrum have a whole lot of similar underpinnings. Others often give the *thing* more power and motivation than what the object/act psychologically unlocks in the two people sharing the experience.

It's kind of like the human body. There are a ton of illnesses but a relatively clustered amount of symptoms/immune responses across a huge variety of ailments.

 

[EmilyMiller]

This is a bugbear of mine.

I'm staunchly heterosexual (I'm talking about my sexuality, not my opinions), and when I read or see porn where women imitate male dominant behaviour, it does nothing for me.

I write almost exclusively femdom, and the women I write are (of course) the type that turns me on -- they obtain (or maintain) power, through guile, persuasion, intelligence, verbal ability, but primarily by using the typically male weakness of being ruled by our dicks more than our brains.

I can kill you with my brain.

Use of physical strength and aggression is not exclusively male behaviour, but is, in general, not a successful strategy for women who seek to dominate.

Kinda depends. There is absolute strength, then there is not giving a fuck about the consequences. The latter strength has undone a few guys in my experience. And yes I’m only vet occasionally a domme.

Hence, the female dominants in my writing are generally violence-free (unless the guy begs for it).

My writing is also strapon-free (they're simply penis-envy for women, and a self-deluding gay fantasy for men).

Nothing wrong with strap-ons. I’ve used them on guys with zero complaints and had them used on me by girls with the same complaint ratio.

As to gay fantasy. I subscribe to it all being a spectrum.

Em

 

[Kumquatqueen]

I can kill you with my brain.

Kinda depends. There is absolute strength, then there is not giving a fuck about the consequences. The latter strength has undone a few guys in my experience. And yes I’m only vet occasionally a domme.

Nothing wrong with strap-ons. I’ve used them on guys with zero complaints and had them used on me by girls with the same complaint ratio.

As to gay fantasy. I subscribe to it all being a spectrum.

Em

Plenty wrong with strap-ons - too many fiddly straps for starters. And my pelvis just doesn't move that way. Similar shaped objects without straps are preferable, IMO.

Plenty of men who like being penetrated - that prostate seems to be well up for it in many cases - but aren't into men, or have a female partner they want to stay monogamous with.

 

[Kumquatqueen]

I never thought bout this before; but it makes sense.

Random Trivia - this is a reason major why the grappling sports organisations (Freestyle, Judo, Greco-Roman) are very resistant to allow trans athletes to compete. They're in a pickle with that one.



This makes a lot of sense. I have been told by a friend that she has been with a lot of guys who have taken up the offer of pegging, but I've never had anyone confess to liking it (understandably)

I'm significantly disabled - I know other women can shift their hips much more than I can!

IME many more men are into getting pegged than into providing anal sex, which you'd never guess from the distribution of visual and written porn. I have no idea what the balance is of the two in real life in general. (see also the thread on activities that are better in fic than reality)

 

[Bramblethorn]

My writing is also strapon-free (they're simply penis-envy for women, and a self-deluding gay fantasy for men).

...or a way for either to achieve a particular physical sensation that some find enjoyable (and some don't).

I do find that some guys writing F-F seem to default to strap-ons, in a way that makes me wonder "are you having difficulty imagining how sex without a penis could work?", but I wouldn't subscribe to your psychoanalysis of everybody who uses them.

 

[alohadave]

I suspect clitoris is not an often used word in F-F written by men.

What else would you call it? Most people don't use the full word, but clit is used a lot.

 

[nice90sguy]

some men would struggle to find it in a dictionary

Still, it's easier than finding it in a vagina