Punishment........

[Gentle Baron]

Was wondering about this today and how I handled when to punish.........I tell you......To reflect on My years and how I administered punishments.........

Did I punish just for the sake of it or was it all calculated?.....

I am aware I can only speak for Myself and that I punished when it was calculated......Could even be down to once a month if I had to......Reasons are , that W/we are not perfect and do make errors in life.......

Any thoughts?.........Are punishments performed out of anger or care & understanding?........

 

[catalina_francisco]

We are personally not supporters of punishment while angry. While anger can be an issue, it is best to leave the punishment until the anger has passed IMO, then deal with the issue rather than the emotions.


Catalina

 

[DustyWolfe]

I have a philosophy about punishment that encompasses all areas of anger and all types whether it be child, submissive, slave, employee, etc...

This is something that should NEVER NEVER NEVER be done when angry. I think this really applies in a BDSM sense. You are more likely to go over the edge into abuse if you punish when you are angry.

I've been in trouble a few times and Mistress just walked away from me and told me she would deal with me later. I knew I was wrong, anytime I commit an act or deed against myself I know I will be punished. But I know that she will wait till she cools off to deal with me because she says "I will NEVER hit in anger, you have had enough abuse in your life and it will never come from me. "

Just my 2 cents for what it's worth.

You could start out by having your submissive write an essay while you cool off. That kind of immediate punishment is okay.

 

[SierraMoon]

i agree with what's been said so far... my Sir would never hit me out of anger.. He won't even talk to me if He's angry, because He's afraid of saying something He may regret...

So, even tho it's frustrating for me at times, when He just backs away from me during a disagreement or such, it's really in my best interest that He do so.

i respect Him so much for His views on this matter

 

[Gentle Baron]

This is wonderful........

But I am hoping Y/you don't get Me wrong........I am against anger at all costs........

 

[DustyWolfe]

This is wonderful........

But I am hoping Y/you don't get Me wrong........I am against anger at all costs........

Nah, I knew it was a possibility but I wasn't going to jump to conclusions. I was just answering the question the best I knew how

 

[Quint]

This is wonderful........

But I am hoping Y/you don't get Me wrong........I am against anger at all costs........

Really? Anger is a genuine feeling. It's produced as honestly as any other emotion. Now, I can understand if you said "I am against expressing anger in X fashion at all costs," but to deny that you feel what you feel...well, that way leads to therapy.

 

[Netzach]

that's like being against taking a shit....

It's going to happen....

It's what you do with it that really turns out critically important. I too, believe in flushing when through, generally.

 

[Quint]

And to answer the question, T and I differentiate between acting while angry and acting while so angry that he is out of control. The first is legitimate and truthful to the natural cause-and-effect way life has of being, the second is dangerous.

Example: I'm disrespectful. T slaps me. I pissed him off and I got what that earns me. Don't see anything alarming, unusual, or wrong with that.

 

[AvaAdore]

I have a philosophy about punishment that encompasses all areas of anger and all types whether it be child, submissive, slave, employee, etc...

This is something that should NEVER NEVER NEVER be done when angry. I think this really applies in a BDSM sense. You are more likely to go over the edge into abuse if you punish when you are angry.

I've been in trouble a few times and Mistress just walked away from me and told me she would deal with me later. I knew I was wrong, anytime I commit an act or deed against myself I know I will be punished. But I know that she will wait till she cools off to deal with me because she says "I will NEVER hit in anger, you have had enough abuse in your life and it will never come from me. "

Just my 2 cents for what it's worth.

You could start out by having your submissive write an essay while you cool off. That kind of immediate punishment is okay.

my bf has had it pretty rough for most of his life, and i have had requests from him for pain. when it clearly wasn't sexual, i refused to do it.

i slapped him once out of anger, but it had nothing to do with BDSM, and he really deserved it.