Psychological Masochism

[Laeiryn]

Hi. I'm a lil new around here, but this is something I've always been curious about, so let me ramble, and please answer.

Masochism is when you are aroused, or feel pleasure from, pain (Right? Perhaps not a literal definition, but relatively accurate). Now, I'm kind of a masochist, but only to a degree. I can scratch myself, and it feels -good-, but the thought of being whipped, of feeling serious pain, it's not the kind of turn on as superficial pain. Does that make me not really a masochist?

For me a lot of it's psychological. I have fantasies of being spanked, fisted, all sorts of things that would indeed cause pain. Is there a line of tolerable pain? Is that normal?

In relation, my masochism extends to minor bloodplay. By this I mean that I can take a knife and slice a long, shallow cut along my leg. My breath will quicken, my pupils dilate, I start to get hard and wet. The blood that wells forth is something beautiful, pristine, and yes, it hurts, but it's so, so good. I cannot, however, cut myself deeply; I've tried, but it just doesn't work. I suppose that is confirmation that I'm merely perverted and not suicidal. I get off on doing that to myself, on the cold kiss of steel, but the thought of a cat o' nine, of being -beaten-... it does nothing for me. What's with that? Got any shrinks in here?

 

[AngelicAssassin]

No, but we've got a library under one of the stickies you might want to try.

 

[Laeiryn]

I'm not as far as the Ms yet.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

I'm not as far as the Ms yet.

Keep working, you'll get there sooner than you think.

 

[Laeiryn]

Huh.

One of those threads seems to answer a couple of my questions... but there are still more. And hey, another thread for the Masochism entry, ne?

 

[AngelicAssassin]

... but there are still more. And hey, another thread for the Masochism entry, ne?

Probably, and feel free to comment/question anything you find in those threads. The librarian will help if not some other samaritan in the forum.

Best of luck.

 

[Justina123]

I consider myself fairly masochisitic...a good flogging, perhaps accompanied by some well placed clips or clamps, etc. can send me flying.

However, I get absolutely NOTHING out of self-inflicted pain. Those same clips and clamps, placed by me when I am alone, just hurt and bring zero pleasure. I can't even imagine cutting myself.

Also, not every flogging/play time is all that pleasurable. A whole heck of a lot of it is psychological...if I am in the right mindset, it can be very pleasurable. If not, it can be just painful and not fun. I've learned that it's to my best interest to try to push aside thoughts or concerns or any mood that tries to interfere, because it's much better for both me and Sir to have it be pleaurable and fun! Sometimes I succeed, sometimes not.

Anyway, for me, a good deal of masochism is a state of mind.

-justina

 

[Laeiryn]

Hhmmmm, thanks, you've really given me some perspective.

Anybody else?

 

[Kajira Callista]

Hi. I'm a lil new around here, but this is something I've always been curious about, so let me ramble, and please answer.

Masochism is when you are aroused, or feel pleasure from, pain (Right? Perhaps not a literal definition, but relatively accurate). Now, I'm kind of a masochist, but only to a degree. I can scratch myself, and it feels -good-, but the thought of being whipped, of feeling serious pain, it's not the kind of turn on as superficial pain. Does that make me not really a masochist?

For me a lot of it's psychological. I have fantasies of being spanked, fisted, all sorts of things that would indeed cause pain. Is there a line of tolerable pain? Is that normal?

In relation, my masochism extends to minor bloodplay. By this I mean that I can take a knife and slice a long, shallow cut along my leg. My breath will quicken, my pupils dilate, I start to get hard and wet. The blood that wells forth is something beautiful, pristine, and yes, it hurts, but it's so, so good. I cannot, however, cut myself deeply; I've tried, but it just doesn't work. I suppose that is confirmation that I'm merely perverted and not suicidal. I get off on doing that to myself, on the cold kiss of steel, but the thought of a cat o' nine, of being -beaten-... it does nothing for me. What's with that? Got any shrinks in here?

Its called self injuring or cutting... i dont think it really has anything to do with being a masochist though. I have a site that is sorta a self help site but explains things, it might help. http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html

 

[keikotied]

Hi

I am new here too (just writing my first story!)

I was intrigued by the post title, as I definately consider myself an emotional and psychological masochist.

I get a weird rush from being humiliated, for example. But not in ways that many other people do (being called "Slut" or "Whore" for example).

I am more intrigued by things that hurt my feelings or make me feel extremely self-conscious. Such vulnerability.

I am curious if anyone else has those kinds of cravings?

Keiko

 

[Laeiryn]

Re: Re: Psychological Masochism

Its called self injuring or cutting... i dont think it really has anything to do with being a masochist though. I have a site that is sorta a self help site but explains things, it might help. http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html

I was under the impression that cutting was done out of self-loathing and depression. Me, I just get off on blood.

 

[s'lara]

Welcome to the board Laeiryn and keikotied.

Here are some helpful links that may shed some light on your (Laeiryn) questions:

Pain and Sensation

Psychology

In response to the questions from L, i don't think it is necessary to neatly define your masochism. Based on the information you've given, it seems that the idea of pain is appealing whereas actually experiencing it (aside from your self cutting) does not arouse you. It could simply be that you like to control the kind of pain you receive and there isn't anything wrong with that. Sensation play is just one aspect of being a masochist. Masochism isn't just about pain. As mentioned by K, there is emotional/psychological masochism as well.

Are you a masochist? i've no clue. i don't know you and the information you provided seems say that you are a self-cutter who finds some relief or satisfaction when you cut yourself, but find the thought of someone else hurting you to be unappealing. In my view, that doesn't make one masochistic, rather it is sends out the message that you have internal pressures that only cutting can relieve. i could be wrong, but that is what i see after reading your words.

lara

 

[s'lara]

Hi

I am new here too (just writing my first story!)

I was intrigued by the post title, as I definately consider myself an emotional and psychological masochist.

I get a weird rush from being humiliated, for example. But not in ways that many other people do (being called "Slut" or "Whore" for example).

I am more intrigued by things that hurt my feelings or make me feel extremely self-conscious. Such vulnerability.

I am curious if anyone else has those kinds of cravings?

Keiko

You're not alone in your feelings. Please see some of the following threads that touch on your cravings:

Humiliation and Degradation

Verbal Humiliation

Humiliation Ideas

lara

 

[keikotied]

Thanks!

More yummy things to read

Keiko