prostate massage

[emptynester]

OK - i can't even believe i am doing this, but here goes. My husband and I have recently discovered there are benefits to having the children gone. We have never enjoyed sex more. We have been trying things i never dreamed we would and are really enjoying the "anything goes" philosophy. He has truely learned to satisfy me now instead of it all being about him. My problem is, I want to do more for him. I can not figure out how to massage his prostate. Either my fingers are too short or I just don't know where it is. I have read about everything on the internet. There are so many different thoughts. Some say it is no more than a couple of inches in. Others say 3 - 4. We start out with a lot of foreplay so I don't think not being sexually aroused is the problem. I have tried diiferent sex toys but have to admit I don't think we have found the right one. Can anyone help?

 

[Exciteher]

...There are so many different thoughts. Some say it is no more than a couple of inches in. Others say 3 - 4. We start out with a lot of foreplay so I don't think not being sexually aroused is the problem. I have tried diiferent sex toys but have to admit I don't think we have found the right one. Can anyone help?

Can he find it himself? It think it will be best if he found it for himself first, that way he could guide you and tell you when you are close or have have touched it...and then how to massage it to best effect.

Another thought... since this particular thing is new to you both, it may help if he were not that aroused to start with, because that way it may be easier for him to feel when you have found his prostate. Not being use to it, it may be harder for him to differentiate what it feels like when he is too aroused, that might swamp his kinesthetic feelings out. Perhaps all the new feelings of you being in him to begin with also make it hard to "sort" which feeling is the one associated with the prostate.

I suppose it is possable your finger could be too short, but it seems to me that if you were all the way in, you would have some part of your finger over his prostate, or be very very close to it... you might try a toy like the Aneros Prostate Stimulator. But I am of the opinion that should be a last resort in the case your finger is too short and his prostate is very high in him, since a toy will not give you as much control.

Yeah, in most men the prostate is in from 2 to 3 1/2 inches.
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[emptynester]

Thanks for the info. Like I said I have never been part of anything like this but I really appreciated your response. I was surprised that you were the only one but also realize there are a lot of diiferent topics being discussed.

Again, thanks for the help. I think we are on the right track now!

 

[Exciteher]

Thanks for the info. Like I said I have never been part of anything like this but I really appreciated your response. I was surprised that you were the only one but also realize there are a lot of diiferent topics being discussed.

Again, thanks for the help. I think we are on the right track now!

Thanks for the thanks! If you have any other questions, ask away! Also there is the so called "blank" manual, you might want to check that out, it has a ton of tips about everything you can think of, and maybe some you never would have..lol! It might be a place to get fun ideas!
It's here:
The Blank Manual
I think things were just a bit quiet here for some reason, I thought there would be a lot more responses too. Also, this is the "HT Cafe" area, which is not so much about "How To" as it is a place for "HT" regulars and fans to hangout and shoot the breeze. Your question may have got more responses in the main "HT" area.

I think everyone here "have never been part of anything like this" at one time!
But we ended up part of this anyway! It is a friendly, helpful and supportive (and often funny) crew! Hope to see you here more!

 

[Indagoskink]

New to the board and this is my first post.

I didn't see a introduction site here so I'll just pop in for a bit of an intro. I am 52, totally married to my beautiful wife for 15 years. We both work hard as we are business contractors but in our off time enjoy sexually oriented contents. Over the last few years, because of the summer heat, we have started wearing less clothing and have found it very pleasurable.
At this point I would probably say we are casual nudists. Working, cooking and having fun around the house in the nude. It’s very freeing and exhilarating. When at the computer reading sites like this or checking out porn pictures I enjoy fondling myself. Quite often when my wife sees me she will join in and we will masturbate eachother. We have no children but find myself fanaticizing and enjoying readings about couples, CFNM and incest. You all my consider me odd but I will enjoy reading your stories and checking out the pictures.

 

[phoenix1224]

Here's something an ex of mine did that worked...

Stick your middle finger in his ass. Then, place your thumb on the piece of skin between his balls and asshole. Then, gently "roll" your finger and thumb together.

Trust me, if you do it just right, he'll be in nirvana.