Prostate massage: Doing it better?

[Kim_Burly]

Keep experimenting..You'll know when you've hit the sweet spot!

For the first time, it took a lot of awkward thrusting, but I finally I finally got the rhythym down. It's not as easy as they make it sound on the Feeldoe website. I think a traditional strap-on would be easier to use, but I commited to the Feeldoe. All of that thrusting is a lot of work, you guys make it look so easy . I hope that at some point I can climax along with him, but right now the goal is solely to please him. It is super rewarding to get him to reach an orgasm just by me making love to him with the Feeldoe, it's an experience that I never dreamed I would have. Last time we did it he was on top, which is easier for him to get the right alignment with his prostate. It's also a lot less work for me, but in addition to the continuous stream of pre-cum with thicker semen mixed in dripping on my tummy I get hit in the face and hair with his semen tsunami . So far my biggest complaint about him is his copious ejaculations, all this for a woman who, shall we say, is not a cum lover. Enough of my complaining he is very, very happy and looks forward to me practicing my Feeldoe technique. The good thing is that there is no doubt that he is in charge at all times,so I am getting accustomed to this new activity. One thing about Mr. G, he is very spontaneous and I never know what is coming from his devious mind . Oh, one more complaint, what's with this European thing of eating dinner so late? Oh well, he's worth the wait. I'm thinking I'll be getting my face splattered about five hours from now .

 

[just4friends]

fyi...

There's a new feeldoe out that's realistic both in looks and in hardness. They have apparently fallen in love with them at strapless dildo dot com. Bar none the best feeldoe/realdoe site out there (right now)

 

[2ServeWoman]

It also has negatives. .

Where it doesn't stay in place & even falls out on some!

There's a new feeldoe out that's realistic both in looks and in hardness. They have apparently fallen in love with them at strapless dildo dot com. Bar none the best feeldoe/realdoe site out there (right now)

 

[Kim_Burly]

Where it doesn't stay in place & even falls out on some!

My experience as the owner and operator of a Feeldoe is that it takes some patience and practice. I have been Kegel freak for over two years now, I can crush a walnut with my lady parts . So even though I am very wet when engaged in servicing my Dom, I have a firm grip on what I call the saddle horn. I know they call it something different. The other is to control your stroke, you have to keep the tip embedded, or that thing is headed who knows where. Take it slow, don't pull out too far and start a regimen of Kegels and you'll be banging away just like a man in no time!

 

[2ServeWoman]

Still

It doesn't work for everyone! And its also kinda small as well!

It may work just fine for you but, not everyone has your success and have had the patience with it but, it just doesn't work for em!

My experience as the owner and operator of a Feeldoe is that it takes some patience and practice. I have been Kegel freak for over two years now, I can crush a walnut with my lady parts . So even though I am very wet when engaged in servicing my Dom, I have a firm grip on what I call the saddle horn. I know they call it something different. The other is to control your stroke, you have to keep the tip embedded, or that thing is headed who knows where. Take it slow, don't pull out too far and start a regimen of Kegels and you'll be banging away just like a man in no time!

 

[Kim_Burly]

It doesn't work for everyone! And its also kinda small as well!

It may work just fine for you but, not everyone has your success and have had the patience with it but, it just doesn't work for em!

I'm sorry it's not working out for you. Is there any reason she can't wear a harness? Is that a deal breaker? I have very little experience using any dildo as a real phallus. He selected the Feeldoe stout for me because it is the right size for him. He wanted one as fat as he is, but 1.75" is the largest diameter they have . I don't think that it needs to be very long, our goal is just to get the head to pass over and stimulate his prostate and the stout does that perfectly.

Have you tried it with you on top? That way you can control the stimulation and she can reach underneath herself and help keep it in. And that way you can shoot cum all over her, like you guys love so much Good luck .

 

[just4friends]

agreed...

It doesn't work for everyone! And its also kinda small as well!

It may work just fine for you but, not everyone has your success and have had the patience with it but, it just doesn't work for em!

They might need some support at first. At straplessdildo.com they always seem to be under pantihose. Mia (the 'doe's inventor) made them for kegel on kegel... not kegel on sphincter... and even then she suggests that users may need "training wheels" at first.)

There are a few varieties... some direct knockoffs.... but at least when you move one of these it moves YOU directly.

Others swear by vaculock systems with plugin etc (if I got that name right)

Small.... the usee should decide that, but they don't get bigger than the Stout or More. If you want more, there are sheaths you can add.

Me?... the original is quite big enough.

 

[bailadora]

Yes, it's true that he is telling me to do that, but as a woman, I have always been the one penetrated, when I penetrate him, we are reversing the roles. It may be silly, but it messes with my mind, I don't feel comfortable in the masculine role.

As far as the fingers versus the toy, the Feeldoe has a distinct penis shape to it. I am putting a plastic penis into his butt . He does somethings that make it easier for me to feel submissive about the act, but the bottom line is that it is what he wants, he is the boss and I have to get over my discomfort .

From what I've read of your posts, I get the sense that you greatly desire to please your sir. If he wants you to use toys on him, instead of viewing yourself as playing a "masculine" role - could you perhaps focus on the activity from the point of view that it's just one more service you provide for his pleasure? Sometimes the slightest shift in perspective can make a difference in how we view and/or feel about things. It's worth a try, at any rate. Good luck!

 

[Kim_Burly]

From what I've read of your posts, I get the sense that you greatly desire to please your sir. If he wants you to use toys on him, instead of viewing yourself as playing a "masculine" role - could you perhaps focus on the activity from the point of view that it's just one more service you provide for his pleasure? Sometimes the slightest shift in perspective can make a difference in how we view and/or feel about things. It's worth a try, at any rate. Good luck!

Yes Bailadora, I absolutely thrive on pleasing him and the fun thing is that we feed on each other's intensity and it builds to not only awesome sex and the best S&M EVER but it also builds a strong emotional bond. I am working on getting past the gender reversal issue, but the truth is as much as he loves that activity, we don't do it every time. In fact, he never, ever does a routine, its always different things in different settings. I never know what he has planned and the anticipation makes it even better. My old Dom was great and I love him for the places he took me, but it was always slight variations of the same routine and theme, and I'm not complaining it was great, but the variety and new things is even better. Anyhow, even when I am wearing my Feeldoe, there is no doubt who is the sub!

 

[oldkinky]

So I know I am doing right, is there anything else I can do to make it even better? What I am doing is starting out slowly teasing the prostate and gradually increasing the speed and pressure of the massage.

I have trimmed the nails on the two fingers very short, because I am certain I probably gave him small cuts with my nails the first times.

Is it best for a man to have an orgasm just from the massage, or, is it better to be accompanied by being sucked. I asked him and he said he didn't know, we'd just have to keep experimenting. The next time he wants his balls in my mouth (small mouth/big balls ) and the two finger approach again.

The first times I was on my knees in front of him while standing. I think it would proably be easier for me if he lays on his back and I am on my knees between his legs.

Suggestions? Thanks, Kim [/QUOTE]

Sounds like you have found the most important parts. Now you might consider some variety. Here re some suggestions.

1. Try a variety of vibrating dildos. Be sure they are not too large in diameter-less than 1 3/8 inch diameter-although 7 inches long is fine. Use lots and lots of lube. We use Tantus Pro Touch Vibrating anal toy while she gives me a blowjob. My wife says that I produce more cum like this. My orgasms are fantastic. Use lots and lots of lube. We use Wet Original. Other toys that we use are Vixen Creations Vibrating Mistress and Tantus Vibrating Leisure.

2. Get a harness for strap on sex. We have a Bend Over Beginner harness and a Buzz Me Tender Harness, Both have small vibrators for stimulating your clitoris while you do him. Our favorite position is with me on my back with my legs drawn up. She gets between my legs and inserts the dildo in my opening. In this position she can easily reach my lubed dick for a handjob. Usually we cum together. Again don't get a dildo that is too large in diameter.

Have fun and let us know. PM me for more details.