Professional Dom and STDs?

[Pericles77]

I will be seeing a professional dominatrix for the first time within the next week. She plans on sitting on my face and sticking things up my ass, among other things. Is this safe in terms of contracting STDs?

Thanks

 

[xScarletx]

Most Pro-Dommes that I know, are well aware of STDs and take the proper precautions..i.e. using condoms dental dams and gloves...


These are things you and She must talk about before you Play...

 

[graceanne]

Most Pro-Doms that I know, are well aware of STDs and take the proper precautions..i.e. using condoms dental dams and gloves...


These are things you and She must talk about before you Play...

If you two haven't talked about things like this, I'd take some more time. As Sir W will say (over and over), communication is VERY VERY important, and if you two haven't even discussed things like STD precautions, then it sounds to me like you haven't been communicating very well. Call her and ask her what she does for STD prevention. And if she's not doing something she should, then use your safe word. No sex is worth AIDS.

 

[FungiUg]

No sex is worth AIDS.

Agreed. Most professional Dommes that I know of play safe, because they also risk contracting something. And because killing off their clientelle isn't a great way of ensuring repeat business.

 

[Mr Blonde]

If she hasn't already done so, then you should broach the topic of "safer" sex as the impending date draws closer. If she is bothered by your questions, then you have been dealing with a semi-professional (shall we say) and you should start a new search for a domina. Professionals will use brand new toys for each client and take other procautions.

 

[Pericles77]

Ok, I contacted her inquiring about her safe sex policies and am awaiting her response. But should she really use a brand new butt plug for every customer? Sounds a little excessive, no? And can one get STDs from face sitting and eating pussy?

 

[FungiUg]

If she wants you to use a toy, then basically she should charge you for the cost of the toy and give it to you at the end of the session. Alternatively, she should use condoms with the toys.

Yes, you can get STDs from licking pussy. That's why they invented dental dams.

 

[Netzach]

She should use a silicone insertable that has been boiled for 2 minutes, covered in a fresh new condom. If you see the jelly shit come out and NO condom on the toy, leave with your money back.

Personally, I don't sit on anyone's face. Unless I have on my latex pants..but those are my boundaries.

 

[s'lara]

Good topic and one that should be explored.

What should one look for when visiting a professional Dom/me? Here's a list of questions from Professional Mistresses of the World:

Q: What is a Professional Dominatrix
A: A Mistress or Lady is usually the title used by a Dominatrix. Pro Domme (for short) is usually female but can include T.V's and Transsexual's. But if a T.V or Transsexual this should be made clear in their advertisements. A Pro Domme is somebody who is properly equipped, enjoys there work and offers a very caring and understanding service. They will listen to you and respect your limits, and will give Health, Safety and Discretion maximum detail, usually within in well equipped rooms within there home or suitably adapted premises. Not all Mistresses have Dungeons but offer a Domestic setting. A Professional Dominatrix is offering a service for which like most services you will be expected to pay for her time.

Q: Are all Mistresses the same

A: NO not at all. You will find many people advertising themselves as Mistresses or Assertive ladies, but be warned so many of these are simply what I refer to as bed and whip girls who are quite simply massage girls charging more to whip you and get you out the door as quickly as possible. A Pro Domme is not like this at all and will take the time to listen to your requirements.

Q: Why are Pro Domme's so expensive

A: A genuine Mistress is well equipped and understands the importance of clean safe equipment, also understands how to use it and will have invested Hundreds if not Thousands of pounds within in her Dungeon. This is reflected in the prices charged by a Professional, the equipment used is very expensive to purchase and maintain also advertising for this field off work is limited and often very expensive. A Pro Domme will only see a limited number of customers daily ensuring plenty of time between Clients and does not work on a production line basis.

Q: What is a reasonable price to pay for the services of a Pro Domme

A: Quality comes at a price and would be any where from £80 to £160 per hour depending on location. Inner London you can expect to pay far more. Any thing less should be considered as a bed and whip girl and not a Pro Domme, except in quieter and remote areas.

Q: What should i expect from a Pro Domme

A: Discretion, Cleanliness and a good understanding nature. All Pro Domme's I have known are very nice, caring people. They have chosen a career that they thoroughly enjoy and will want you to enjoy your time spent with them in hope you will return again at a later date. Study there website to find out more.

Q: I am new to this and don't know where to begin

A: A good start would be to view the discussion boards Novice section, alternatively view a few websites and find a Mistress that you feel suits your requirements, then phone or E-Mail her but explain you are a Novice. Even the best of Mistresses had to start somewhere and will be fully understanding.

Q: What is expected of me

A: Politeness, Respect, Cleanliness and Discretion. If you are phoning or e-mailing a Mistress be polite and always address the lady by her full title and don't just say i want to be Dominated explain exactly what you are looking for, be honest especially if it is your first time, tell her at the beginning. Mistresses have different equipment, and specialities, if a certain Mistress can't help you she may suggest another that can. If you make an appointment but can't make it, let Mistress know in plenty of time Don't just not turn up.

Q: Should I Phone or E-Mail

A: Either is acceptable but if you withhold your phone no. or use Hot mail, Yahoo or any other anonymous source of contact you will probably be ignored or if not you could be requested to pay a deposit to secure an appointment. Most Pro Domme's find this very rude and not a genuine caller, after all you want to know all about them before you arrange a visit, it's only fair they know a little about you. No they will not phone you back at home and speak to the wife this is a security measure only.

Q: Is there something wrong with me

A: This question is asked time after time, No there is nothing wrong with you we all have different fantasies but not all of us act them out. Thanks to the Internet it is offering a wider choice and allowing people to find they are not alone, you will be shown great respect by any genuine Pro Domme for admitting to your fantasies, It doesn't matter whatever it is so long is it is related to what is offered. Check out some off the listed website to see if what your looking for is covered, if your still not sure then phone and ask a Mistress of your choice. Visit or join my new discussion board and find out more.

Q: I've seen films and studied the Internet and want Domination

A: STOP right here, you have watched and studied total fiction. Study some of the listed web sites and only now will you begin to understand what a True Pro Domme has to offer.

Q: I want to visit a Mistress but have heard terrible stories

A: Yes we've heard them all, after having handed over the money some big guy comes at you with a baseball bat and throws you out. The Mistress was nothing like her pictures and advertisements, the place was filthy and she wore dirty jeans. NO this does NOT happen when you visit a Pro Dom but may well happen in the basement flat off a massage girl.

Q: I would like to visit a Pro Dom but don't want to be whipped

A: Whipping and any other related activities are not compulsory, a Pro Domme will use any implements you agree upon with total respect, you will always be given a password to use if your limit is reached. Likewise a Pro Domme will have her limits as to how far things will go and what she will be prepared to do, Please respect these limits NO means NO.

Q: Fitness and Health

A: You must be honest and tell a Mistress about any health problems prior to beginning a session, especially any Heart conditions, Diabetes, Epilepsy. If you are of a very heavy build you may be denied access to some types of lifting equipment as these have Manufacturers weight limits usually to a Maximum of 15 stone. Again please be honest or you could be endangering yourself as well as the Mistress and her expensive equipment.

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Try this site for questions regarding what to expect and your concerns. We have a couple of professional Domme's here at Lit, but that site caters specifically to Femme Domme's and you'd likely find a wealth of information. Of course, the Pro Domme's who post or lurk here at Lit are always welcome to chime in. Good luck.

lara