Problematically high libido support thread

[THROBBS]

uh, on the check-out line?

We should rename this the secret lives of men thread...

Maharat

sure.
why not there?
Why would you be surprised?

 

[Guest]

sure.
why not there?
Why would you be surprised?

Because I imagined that dry orgasms were something a very precious few knew about. That a man would not risk making a mess on a check out line...

Even for women it can be hard, to be wet the entire day afterwards... nothing but a shower wipes the thing off...

Maharat

 

[Guest]

There are things in life that can kill the libido for a while. Too much work for example. Maybe this explains the waves that seems to go with it?

Sure, but I usually see it as a red light. It is the last thing to go before some bad stress related reactions set in...

Maharat

 

[tickledkitty]

Even for women it can be hard, to be wet the entire day afterwards... nothing but a shower wipes the thing off...

Baby wipes. They're good for so many things. I started carrying a handful of them in a plastic bag in my purse when my daughter was a baby and have continued, even though she's six now.

Keeping a container of them in the bedroom is handy, as well.

 

[Guest]

Baby wipes. They're good for so many things. I started carrying a handful of them in a plastic bag in my purse when my daughter was a baby and have continued, even though she's six now.

Keeping a container of them in the bedroom is handy, as well.

I am allergic to them, and to everything

 

[Pure]

questions

hi maharat,

1)i wonder why you say, "problematic"? i think there are men who masturbate 20-30 times a day, and i'm not sure that's considered 'problematic,' or that themselves do.

2) isn't the issue entirely subjective, e.g. suppose a woman feels like masturbating ("has to") just once a day. depending on her upbringing, family, etc. she might find that disturbing.

 

[Belegon]

I would think it is best to be somewhat "matched" in degrees of horniness.

That's a huge mouthful and very, very true.

Some of society seems to view this as shallow or shameful. I myself made the mistake of overlooking it, or rather of listening to people who said it wouldn't matter so much after a while.

Silly. Sex is so basic a part of our beings. There are very few factors as important for a long term romantic involvement. Now if only I could jump back ten years and remind my younger self to listen to the voices inside instead of the ones outside...

 

[Belegon]

Maybe it's more people of like mind recognizing each other? Is that silly?

Not at all... I love that moment of recognition. I agree, it's in the eyes...sometimes the body language.

It's always a delicious moment to feel that spark jump, even when I'm not interested in pursuing it in any way.

 

[Guest]

hi maharat,

1)i wonder why you say, "problematic"? i think there are men who masturbate 20-30 times a day, and i'm not sure that's considered 'problematic,' or that themselves do.

2) isn't the issue entirely subjective, e.g. suppose a woman feels like masturbating ("has to") just once a day. depending on her upbringing, family, etc. she might find that disturbing.

I did not say problematic, throbbs did. For some women, the nagging need of having to masturbate at all, to give in to the urge, could be considered problematic...

When I was young I thought I could conquer it if I were really, really good.


Maharat

 

[THROBBS]

That's a huge mouthful and very, very true.

Some of society seems to view this as shallow or shameful. I myself made the mistake of overlooking it, or rather of listening to people who said it wouldn't matter so much after a while.

Silly. Sex is so basic a part of our beings. There are very few factors as important for a long term romantic involvement. Now if only I could jump back ten years and remind my younger self to listen to the voices inside instead of the ones outside...

Word.

I need a longer jump.

 

[THROBBS]

I did not say problematic, throbbs did. For some women, the nagging need of having to masturbate at all, to give in to the urge, could be considered problematic...

When I was young I thought I could conquer it if I were really, really good.


Maharat

yes, I did.

and I used quotey marks: "problematic"... (intentionally, I used them, I did)

If a guy masturbates 20-30 times a day... (not saying I do)
it's pretty close to problematic (no quotes)...even if he is not admitting it. SOMETHING else is being neglected.

 

[tickledkitty]

Not at all... I love that moment of recognition. I agree, it's in the eyes...sometimes the body language.

It's always a delicious moment to feel that spark jump, even when I'm not interested in pursuing it in any way.

Yes, it is.

How about when you see that person periodically after that? Like maybe the pharmacist at the grocery store? You still have no intention of acting on it, but now you have this ongoing thing with this person. It kind of vacillates between being lovely and being slightly uncomfortable. Then one day that person vanshes, and maybe it all becomes a case of missed opportunity, lost chances...

 

[Belegon]

Yes, it is.

How about when you see that person periodically after that? Like maybe the pharmacist at the grocery store? You still have no intention of acting on it, but now you have this ongoing thing with this person. It kind of vacillates between being lovely and being slightly uncomfortable. Then one day that person vanshes, and maybe it all becomes a case of missed opportunity, lost chances...

Yes... I've switched jobs twice in two years. I can easily think of women who fit that description. Fantasy and flirting are powerful. You can change someone's entire day with a little eye contact.

 

[SimpleGifts]

Is it problematic? Hmm...it makes it hard to concentrate sometimes. It makes me feel different. I always wonder if I am keeping my sexually smoldering ember adequately hidden behind my PTA mom exterior. I think so, but I feel like a chameleon.

Gee, if any of the PTA moms I know have that problem, I wish that they would feel more freedom to show that ember now and then! (I'm quite active in the PTA at my kids' school, obviously...)

It really is a shame that it's considered "inappropriate" to show that side of your personality in that context. As a PTA dad, I know better than to drool while looking at someone at a delegates' meeting...but simply doing some sort-of-innocent flirting would make those events MUCH more interesting (and would probably help get more people involved in the PTA, too...).

SG

 

[GentleSub_Ivy]

That's a huge mouthful and very, very true.

Some of society seems to view this as shallow or shameful. I myself made the mistake of overlooking it, or rather of listening to people who said it wouldn't matter so much after a while.

Silly. Sex is so basic a part of our beings. There are very few factors as important for a long term romantic involvement. Now if only I could jump back ten years and remind my younger self to listen to the voices inside instead of the ones outside...

Hindsight is hell isn't it?

 

[GentleSub_Ivy]

Funny, since this thread I am now wondering if I have "smoldering eyes." I think about sex all damn day. Sometimes I do feel like I'm wearing my genitals on my sleeve.

Ewwwwwww, sorry.

 

[Pure]

hi maharat,

i'm puzzled by your statement

"I did not say 'problematic'"

You opened the thread with this:

maharat:
Problematically high libido support thread

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An offshoot for the "women, lost your sex drive thread".

Ever tried to fit masturbating on your endless list of chores?

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responding to:

maharat: For some women, the nagging need of having to masturbate at all, to give in to the urge, could be considered problematic...

When I was young I thought I could conquer it if I were really, really good.

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I think we agree here... from across the gender divide.

I always heard the message from everything i read, and every adult, that masturbation was _an adolescent excess_, that disappeared when people married. Ha! i don't know if you'd agree, but _lifetime mainstay_
is closer to the mark.

 

[Trombonus]

So...I masturbate like ten times a day.

Does that mean I have a problem?

And for once, I'm actually not joking...

Well, maybe just a little.

 

[FallingToFly]

An offshoot for the "women, lost your sex drive thread".

Ever tried to fit masturbating on your endless list of chores?

Your toys aren't doing it for you anymore?

Have you published over 50 smut stories of varying quality?

You might have a problematically high libido

How do you cope?

Maharat

I cry a lot.

 

[Guest]

I always heard the message from everything i read, and every adult, that masturbation was _an adolescent excess_, that disappeared when people married. Ha! i don't know if you'd agree, but _lifetime mainstay_
is closer to the mark.

Yes, what was it that they said? Oh, it would be replaced by mature, loving sex.

Sure, sure

Maharat

 

[THROBBS]

i'm puzzled by your statement

"I did not say 'problematic'"

You opened the thread with this:

maharat:
Problematically high libido support thread

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An offshoot for the "women, lost your sex drive thread".
...

Well...Pure..
Maharat "did" use the word problematic...

I sure did too...
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=557035&page=1
POST#23

Thank you.
I suppose another thread might deal with the reverse... (and address Slick's comment). A woman who's sex drive is "problematically high".

<<< In response to a post by Chantilyvamp.

So...big deal.

 

[Guest]

I cry a lot.