Problem whit bringing a girl to climax.

[TwitchMacabre]

All,
I have no problems with getting a girl to climax by going down on her, but when we have normal penetration sex, fucking if you will, I can not get her to climax. I can control when I cum, so I can hold it until she does, my girth is not a problem, but my technique is lacking something to get her to orgasm. Suggestions?

 

[MR.GGG]

Probably 80% of women have a major problem or simply can NOT cum from regular intercourse. It's not unusual or weird or because your equipment or technique or angle is "wrong" . Anatomically she is wrong. The clit is positioned just a little too high to be rubbed properly during sex. Simple as that. All it means is that you cum that way and then she gets a good tongue lashing or you attack her Gspot. You shouldn't have a problem with that and neither should she.

 

[Lust Engine]

Try different positions. Both of your equipment may be right but just not being as efficient as it could be. Foreplay, foreplay & more foreplay could also help. And if not, have her rub her clit as you're doing your thing too. That can be a pretty saucy scenario too but don't take it personally if you can't get her off just yet. It just means you still have some more exploration to do... not a bad deal I'd say!

 

[bunny bondage]

Probably 80% of women have a major problem or simply can NOT cum from regular intercourse. It's not unusual or weird or because your equipment or technique or angle is "wrong" . Anatomically she is wrong. The clit is positioned just a little too high to be rubbed properly during sex. Simple as that. All it means is that you cum that way and then she gets a good tongue lashing or you attack her Gspot. You shouldn't have a problem with that and neither should she.

what? ok, i'm not sure where you think the clit is, but the only time mine is rubbed during sex is when it is rubbed for me, and i have no problems cumming during sex. could you elaborate or perhaps clarify?

 

[ridddder]

As said before many women cannot cum during intercourse but can cum other ways. The problem isn't with you but your gf. One of my friends who is a girl had the same concern and I found a site with some good advise.

Basically they suggested that you find a way she can cum, and is comfortable. Then you go in steps, like with her as she cums. Then being in her, as she play with herself and cums, and so on. All working up to the moment where she is used to the sensation of sex, and can orgasm in a way that is totally different than a clitorial orgasm. Unfornuately most guys dont' want to tak the time to help a girl or woman to get to that point. She has to be comfortable enought with you to experience this, and in my experience it helps if she knows what makes herself orgasm alone. This way she knows what stimulates her, and what she need to get to that point. Should be fun learning.....good luck

 

[Meat&Potatos]

Personal experience has shown that like anything else, women are wonderfully different. Some are easy to get to climax and will do so over and over again. Then, others are seemingly impossible. One woman would go with nibbling her ear and neck. A lot like their breasts sucked (so I've seen) and it puts them over the edge. Some are clitoral, some are vaginal. By far I'm no expert but if you want a well written book, there's one by a lady on Sex & The City. Actually, her and her husband wrote it. So you get both perspectives. Illustrated and detailed instructions. Give it whirl. But like someone said...explore explore explore....

 

[lilpriss]

If you take her from behind, you will possibly stimulate her
g-spot, a small area just inside and on the front wall of her vagina... sorry to sound clinical... but... Mr GGG has a great thread with detailed instructions on G-spot stuff... I think it's called "Try this and report back". AND you can reach around and rub her clit at the same time... this is a sure fire recipe for me... not sure about anyone else... and If he'd rather yank my hair or grab my breasts then I am not at all shy about touching myself...

Sounds like you just need to explore more, WHAT FUN!

 

[Guest]

I'm one of those. I find it difficult to orgasm just by penetration. #1. She needs to be thoroughly aroused, lots of foreplay, perhaps a video. Her clit needs to be swollen and lust filled.

#2. Penetrate her when she is close to climaxing.

#3. Perhaps stimulate her anus, while only gently tapping her clit periodically. She'll tell you when she wants more, but it give you room to tease.

#4. Maybe talk to her, arouse her mind. Tell her how warm and wet she is around your hard cock. How you can't get enough of her. Make her feel vital and sooo important and feel her mind with erotic thoughts.

 

[bunny bondage]

#4. Maybe talk to her, arouse her mind. Tell her how warm and wet she is around your hard cock. How you can't get enough of her. Make her feel vital and sooo important and feel her mind with erotic thoughts.

yes. god yes. do this. and be very graphic. tell her how good her wet little pussy feels around your cock, make her feel naughty and sexy.

 

[Quimmy]

what? ok, i'm not sure where you think the clit is, but the only time mine is rubbed during sex is when it is rubbed for me, and i have no problems cumming during sex. could you elaborate or perhaps clarify?

The clitoris runs under the skin and along the top of the vagina, and is stimulated during sex, if the two people's anatomies mesh well. It's easier to directly arouse from the outside of course.

TwitchMacabre, you probably just need to explore more. I don't know if you and your partner would be into "hot talk" or anal play, but you could bring it up. A safe bet is slowly doing your intercourse and stimulating her clitoris with your finger in timing of your thrusts. I only say slow down, because I usually lose balance trying to do both things at once...