problem during sex

[Rangerpunk]

<---- 22 male

I seem to know a decent amount about sex, or at least what feels good and how to do it. (what she been telling me ) However, I have very little experience. This is the first and only woman I have had full blown sexual intercourse with.

Now here's the problem: she can't make me cum. I'm quite capable of doing it on my own, but haven't been able to during sex. I'm thinking that it's due to a lack of friction and/or speed. Due too a size issue, the only position we've been able to do is her on top facing me, which doesn't provide a whole lot of either friction or speed.

Also, during sex or oral, if we go for too long, the head of my penis gets so sensitive that it hurts!

Are there any suggestions out there? I'd really really like to solve this without seeing a doctor.

 

[SweetErika]

I'd suggest talking to her about this, with an emphasis on what a great lover she is, how much you enjoy it, and how this is completely your problem.

At this point, a good part of it's probably mental, so you need to relax and tell yourself it doesn't matter if you cum through sex or not. Also, are you worried about anything such as pregnancy, STDs, or hurting her? "What ifs?" creep into all of our heads, so do whatever you can to put any fears at rest.

If you're getting too sensitive, take a break...relax, and focus on giving her incredible amounts of pleasure. If you need to, take frequent breaks.

While you're working on solving this (a reasonable goal, I assure you), you might want to consider finishing yourself off after she's had her fill of sex too.

There is some great information in these threads you should check out for other techniques and solutions (you might also want to do a search yourself):
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=271590
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=270342
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=267322
https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=260748

Good luck!

 

[Vixandra]

Well, if you're getting over sensative, a condom may help.

Still- check the Blank Manual for tips and tricks.

And relax- are you and your girl having a good time? If so, just let things happen as they will.

Also- what did you mean by size issue?

 

[Rangerpunk]

Thanks for the replies. I browsed thru the Blank Manual after I started this thread.

I'm having fun and I know she is too, but she still feels unhappy that she's not able to return the favor.

As far as size goes, there's a couple of factors. For one, I'm 6'5" and weigh in at 285lbs. She is probably about a foot shorter. I've got a decent sized gut, and I don't particularily like skinny women, so that causes a problem as well. Above all else, I'm the biggest penis she's ever been with, and she's pretty tight. We get the job done, but it takes sometime to get it in.

Anymore information required??

 

[watergirl]

hmm

Guy I used to hook up with was the same way - could cum by himself with no problem, and was always bragging about the distance he could spurt ! <baffled look of "and we care why?>

But with a girl - nope. Nuh-uh, not gonna happen, didn't matter which girl.

I think it was nervousness, nerves, and too much hard whackady whackady whackady by himself. But that's specific to him, sorry I'm not more helpful~

 

[Bobmi357]

The most obvious reason for a problem like this is over masturbating. You have become accustomed to the pressure from your hand, which is far more powerful than vaginal muscles.

Try this, don't masturbate for a week or so, then have sex. I think you'll find yourself pleasantly surprised with the outcome.

 

[Rangerpunk]

The most obvious reason for a problem like this is over masturbating. You have become accustomed to the pressure from your hand, which is far more powerful than vaginal muscles.

Try this, don't masturbate for a week or so, then have sex. I think you'll find yourself pleasantly surprised with the outcome.

I can honestly say, that's gonna be hard, but I'm willing to give it a try.

Thanks for the help everybody.