Prepping for a meeting

[SweetDommes]

We've been working towards this for some time now ... meeting with a potential second boy. Now we have one. He's coming up on Saturday, and I'm back to my normal "first date jitters" ... does this kind of thing EVER get easier???

Miss Karen

 

[TNRkitect2b]

We've been working towards this for some time now ... meeting with a potential second boy. Now we have one. He's coming up on Saturday, and I'm back to my normal "first date jitters" ... does this kind of thing EVER get easier???

Miss Karen

Short Answer: Nope!

Long Answer: First arranged meetings are always stressful. What gets easier, is knowing how you react in that situation. Less unknows redices stress, but doesn't mean it's any easier. Good luck!

 

[SweetDommes]

Re: Re: Prepping for a meeting

Short Answer: Nope!

Long Answer: First arranged meetings are always stressful. What gets easier, is knowing how you react in that situation. Less unknows redices stress, but doesn't mean it's any easier. Good luck!

Thanks TNR ... not really reassuring in terms of the butterflies, but at least we aren't alone in this ...

We're really hoping that this boy works out - he was Holly's pick from the time we started talking to him, and he seems to fit with us very well - but of course, we will have to wait and see. We like this one, and hope that he works out as wonderfully as ghosstie did ... He'll be here Saturday afternoon, and I just know that I'm gonna have myself in knots long before then ... *sigh* I'm way too high-strung for my own good.

 

[SweetDommes]

Oh yeah ... and what the heck is that in your av???

 

[TNRkitect2b]

Oh yeah ... and what the heck is that in your av???

It is Mr. Blonde's idea of an earth to be used to celebrate Earth Day (today) I change to one that Vixandra made up tomorrow for Beltane (May Day ; May 1st for the non-pagans)

 

[SweetDommes]

It is Mr. Blonde's idea of an earth to be used to celebrate Earth Day (today) I change to one that Vixandra made up tomorrow for Beltane (May Day ; May 1st for the non-pagans)

Ah ... got it now ...

So ... anyone have any suggestions for getting over my jitters?

 

[TNRkitect2b]

Ah ... got it now ...

So ... anyone have any suggestions for getting over my jitters?

Ummmmm..... Beat the boy?

in all seriousness, do something to distract your mind from the upcoming meeting, something that is engrossing, time consuming and mentally challenging. If you have to concentrate on it, you won't be able to think about the meeting, and therefore will not worrry, and get the jitters.

 

[SweetDommes]

Ummmmm..... Beat the boy?

in all seriousness, do something to distract your mind from the upcoming meeting, something that is engrossing, time consuming and mentally challenging. If you have to concentrate on it, you won't be able to think about the meeting, and therefore will not worrry, and get the jitters.

If the boy were here, I would

I'm working on it ... chatting with friends, working on finding a new job for after graduation *chants to self "3 more days of class ... 3 more days of class ..."*, and some other crafty-type things - but none of it is really working

 

[FungiUg]

does this kind of thing EVER get easier???

My lover and I are meeting a potential threesome partner (vanilla only, sorry) on this weekend. And yeah, we're both pretty ho-hum about it. She's a totally nervous kitten though!

So... I think it does get easier. But takes several years of meeting people to get to that point.

Of course, if we were meeting a potential submissive, that might be an entirely different kettle of fish!

 

[SweetDommes]

Re: Re: Prepping for a meeting

Of course, if we were meeting a potential submissive, that might be an entirely different kettle of fish!

You know, that's the funny thing ... my ex & I never actually went out on a date ... and Holly and I were "dating" long before we were a couple (being best friends for 5 years first will do that) ... so I had never been on a date until the first potential subby that we met with. It was very strange, and I think I'm still working through that ...

 

[MissTaken]

Well then, you just need more practice!

Pick me!

Pick me!



Seriously, first meetings are a great part of the fun. Enjoy wondering and hoping, getting ready and primping and have a good time.

Go into it with NO expectations and you will NEVER be disappointed!

 

[FungiUg]

Ah... well, you're still a dating virgin then!

I think a lot of how scary and nerve-wracking it gets is dependent on hour much emotion you pour into the possibility beforehand. And because a possible D/s partner gets all of that pent-up sexual frustration, it can become a very intense thing even before you meet.

Well, that's my experience anyway.

 

[FungiUg]

Pick me!

Pick me!

Hrumph. And I thought you only loved me...

 

[MissTaken]

Hrumph. And I thought you only loved me...

Why, of course!

Almost.............




It's not you I want, but your butt.

And you just aren't willing.

 

[SweetDommes]

Ah... well, you're still a dating virgin then!

I think a lot of how scary and nerve-wracking it gets is dependent on hour much emotion you pour into the possibility beforehand. And because a possible D/s partner gets all of that pent-up sexual frustration, it can become a very intense thing even before you meet.

Well, that's my experience anyway.

I try very hard not to get my hopes up, but we have been chatting with this one off & on for quite a while now ... it's difficult to not get attached. That's most of my problem - I'm trying to keep from getting my hopes up, and am failing miserably, while at the same time, I know that I could be horribly disappointed after the meeting ...

 

[SweetDommes]

Well then, you just need more practice!

Pick me!

Pick me!



Seriously, first meetings are a great part of the fun. Enjoy wondering and hoping, getting ready and primping and have a good time.

Go into it with NO expectations and you will NEVER be disappointed!

Practice at what, exactly ... and why am I picking you?

I know it's a great part of the fun ... and with how things have been going, I wouldn't be surprised if he ends up spending the night here (sleeping, people. minds out of the gutter ... first meetings are non-sexual ... we haven't broken that rule yet & we aren't going to now either ).

I just can't handle the anticipation. The first boy that we played with (we had met him before at a munch) was planning to come down on a weekend, and I was working myself up over that ... then he got the night off of work & came up on the Wed before - was the best thing that could have happened for my nerves ...

 

[FungiUg]

first meetings are non-sexual ... we haven't broken that rule yet & we aren't going to now either

It's a damned good rule! Do stick to that one. It reduces the "consequence" and potential of an initial meeting... makes it easier to relax and just concentrate on getting to know someone, rather than constantly thinking "now, what am I going to do to him/her when I get them in my evil clutches".

 

[SweetDommes]

It's a damned good rule! Do stick to that one. It reduces the "consequence" and potential of an initial meeting... makes it easier to relax and just concentrate on getting to know someone, rather than constantly thinking "now, what am I going to do to him/her when I get them in my evil clutches".

Evil??? I'm not evil ... *tries to look innocent* LOL

Yeah, we know ... and we are clear about that with all of our potentials (which has let us know which ones were serious about it being a lifestyle thing for them, as some of them just stopped talking to us when we told them that). And that is basically the whole reason why we have the rule - we have to make sure that we can get along with the D/s out of the picture before we will bring the D/s into the picture.

 

[Bandit58]

We are trying to find another lady for me to explore with. Master has had to be a bit firm with me because I'm so nervous and shy. So many of them seem too "out there" for an inexperienced subbie.....I'd like someone who hasn't had a lot of experience herself so we can explore together. And I can imagine myself being extremely nervous at the first meeting even if it's just for coffee!

And even though Master and I were very comfortable with each other online, he did say that when I was walking down the ramp from the airport He could tell how nervous I was (but the second I was in His arms it all vanished)

 

[SweetDommes]

We are trying to find another lady for me to explore with. Master has had to be a bit firm with me because I'm so nervous and shy. So many of them seem too "out there" for an inexperienced subbie.....I'd like someone who hasn't had a lot of experience herself so we can explore together. And I can imagine myself being extremely nervous at the first meeting even if it's just for coffee!

And even though Master and I were very comfortable with each other online, he did say that when I was walking down the ramp from the airport He could tell how nervous I was (but the second I was in His arms it all vanished)

Sounds like fun ... Honestly, as comfortable as I have always been with Holly, the first time we were together sexually was very, very stressful for me. It was a totally new thing for me (and her), as it is for you ... but once we got started, everything was fine.

I'm sure that you were nervous, and I bet that he was too, even though I'm also sure that he would never admit it

 

[Bandit58]

Sounds like fun ... Honestly, as comfortable as I have always been with Holly, the first time we were together sexually was very, very stressful for me. It was a totally new thing for me (and her), as it is for you ... but once we got started, everything was fine.

I'm sure that you were nervous, and I bet that he was too, even though I'm also sure that he would never admit it

Thank you Miss Karen
*smile* He does a lot of things that He says would probably get Him kicked out of the "Real Master" club if it became known

 

[SweetDommes]

Thank you Miss Karen
*smile* He does a lot of things that He says would probably get Him kicked out of the "Real Master" club if it became known

LOL, I've noticed that most members of the "Real Master" club weren't worthy of the title ... and that the people who were 'thrown out' were far better Masters/Mistresses than the members ...

 

[cellis]

We have had a couple of other partners and I have always been anxious about meeting them...

I mean we can only talk on line and on the phone and send emails for so long before we need to meet them.

We too are exploring a third again!... This time Himself has taken a different tack and is looking for a Domme or at least a switch for us. We have been talking with someone for weeks and now we are ready to meet... It makes me very nervous to think about this... I always worry will she like me... will i be what she wants... but I felt that way about Himself when I met Him too...

 

[soapstar]

It's a damned good rule! Do stick to that one. It reduces the "consequence" and potential of an initial meeting... makes it easier to relax and just concentrate on getting to know someone, rather than constantly thinking "now, what am I going to do to him/her when I get them in my evil clutches".

Oh really?

 

[FungiUg]

Oh really?

*chuckle* There are always exceptions to every rule.