Preference for sluts

[bill3901]

I love names, I just love talking nasty during and before sex

 

[Redhill123]

I love telling, asking or begging for them to fuck me. I'm also a big fan of talking and expressing what I want and how. I often beg to be called names, it only makes me want to do naughty and nastier things with them.

Well you a re a woman who knoes her own mind and what she likes. Stick and stones .....and wrods are words....and some of them excite me!

 

[johnnieblue44]

I exclusively associate with "sluts" nowadays.

It's takes all the guesswork out of the equation.

 

[heatsink]

I'm sexually "liberated", too. I've had more partners than I can easily count, and I suspect I have stronger urges and more desire for sex than most men. I love to fuck and I love to suck cock.

But I hate the word "slut". You can twist the meaning of it any way you care to, I don't like it. It indicates a disrespect for women and it puts me off completely.

You will only be called a slut if you think and behave like one-your liberated choice

 

[Yachtsman69]

Every once in a while I will call the woman I am with a slut, and to me it is a term of endearment. It is admittedly a bit risky. But when my cock is in her ass, and she is saying "fuck me", I figure my behavior is appropriate

 

[johnnieblue44]

I'm sexually "liberated", too. I've had more partners than I can easily count, and I suspect I have stronger urges and more desire for sex than most men. I love to fuck and I love to suck cock.

But I hate the word "slut". You can twist the meaning of it any way you care to, I don't like it. It indicates a disrespect for women and it puts me off completely.

In all due respect, your first paragraph and the second paragraph are a bit, um, contradictory.

As the poster says above, I use the word as a term of endearment, not disprespect. I find that most (admittedly, not all) women warm up to the phrase, and even get off on it.

It's also a little ironic that you refer to yourself as a MILF, but "slut" is a no-no.

Oh, well, it's only a word.

 

[HoldYouDown]

I don't have a preference for sluts, quite the opposite. To each his own though, we're all different.

 

[xrxomcyd]

Words and meanings

In all due respect, your first paragraph and the second paragraph are a bit, um, contradictory.

As the poster says above, I use the word as a term of endearment, not disprespect. I find that most (admittedly, not all) women warm up to the phrase, and even get off on it.

It's also a little ironic that you refer to yourself as a MILF, but "slut" is a no-no.

Oh, well, it's only a word.

I always find this problem interesting. I was trained in math and philosophy, where you could say "In this context, the word "slut1" means "someone who is sexually liberated", while "slut2" means "someone who is carelessly promiscuous"." And from then on, the discussion was clear, and in theory, no personal connotations or emotional responses would intrude upon further uses of those terms. I miss those days.

I have read some persons who want to make the term their own, proudly rallying behind the banner of "ethical sluthood". Yet in stories here I have also found it very common for "slut" to be used in an attempt to degrade a girl/women in a non-consent story. "Sexually Liberated Person" is cumbersome; would SLiP be better? Eh, who cares at the end of the day.

To go back to the original question, I have only had monogamous relationships heretofore, though I have recently opened up to my girlfriend of several years about my desire to try non-monogamy or at least some form of open relationship, sex friends or friends with benefits. She is less than thrilled, as she is monogamous through and through it seems. But it has made me wonder whether I would want to be with someone who did have other (current) partners. I would not mind a sexually experienced woman, provided she had been safe and not acquired diseases (which, will not a deal-breaker, do complicate things); I just hope she would not count my own limited experience against me. I have never really had the opportunity to discover whether I am the jealous or frubbly/"compersive". I hope I would be the latter.

 

[vibes]

I'm sure your thinking a lot currently!

You are, huh, babygirl

 

[MissProvocateur]

I think we should be proud of our slutiness!

 

[johnnieblue44]

I think we should be proud of our slutiness!

Exactly. If more women took this insightful outlook, the world would be a lot less tense!

 

[policywank]

Slut

To me the word slut has always meant someone - female or male - who regularly has sex with multiple people. The fact that I have multiple partners does not change the fact that I want to be with those that treat me well and to whom I am attracted.

I have no idea where the notion comes from that a slut will fuck anyone. We don't assume that of a sexually promiscuous male. Nor do we assume that he is riddled with diseases.

These random connotations of the word "slut" are the mechanism by which society has sought to shame any woman who dares make unaccepted sexual choices. By avoiding the word we accept this definition and give those who would denigrate us the power to do so.

I am a slut. I am disease free and attractive. My pussy is not sloppy or cavernous or covered in boils. The only thing different that you might notice about me is that I dress to kill every day, I am less easily offended than most women, I am a good sexual partner and I don't burden every sexual experience with sky high expectations.

I may be more liberal than some women in my choices because I am not interviewing for a life partner, but more so than most women I have zero tolerance for any kind of coercion. I am in control - you aren't going to talk your way into my pants.

 

[policywank]

Slut

Gee that sounded kind of strident didn't it - sorry about that

By the way, when I say a man is not going to talk his way into my pants I don't mean to say I am unavailable - quite the opposite obviously. However, I like to be engaged in respectful conversation and given credit for the ability to make my own choices. Pretending to play hard to get then letting a man "talk you into it" makes women look like dumb bimbos. I'd rather be seen as a slut.

Besides being true to myself, this is a better way to filter prospective partners. The ability to accept a sexually confident woman is a very attractive characteristics in a man.

 

[Daniel_Hart]

I think we should be proud of our slutiness!

Absolutely. I have never considered it a derogatory term...more one of appreciation.

 

[twister947]

Men make the mistake of marrying "nice" girls, and then trying to get them to act slutty. In most cases, this is contrary to their nature, and doomed from the start. If a man truly wants a hot wife, he should marry one.

 

[HoldYouDown]

Men make the mistake of marrying "nice" girls, and then trying to get them to act slutty. In most cases, this is contrary to their nature, and doomed from the start. If a man truly wants a hot wife, he should marry one.

I prefer "nice" girls - behind closed doors anyone can be great in bed. I don't conflate that with the s-word (even if the word gets used during sex).

 

[Leigh81]

Men make the mistake of marrying "nice" girls, and then trying to get them to act slutty. In most cases, this is contrary to their nature, and doomed from the start. If a man truly wants a hot wife, he should marry one.

Not in my case.

L

 

[Blase]

Variations of this topic come up periodically here on Lit. I have to admit, I seem to find the topic endlessly interesting.

I'm in sympathy with those who feel that the word slut is one which can be reclaimed. My personal definition, as I've said elsewhere, is a woman whose sexuality is fully realized and fully owned, to the point where its force is such that it pours out almost without volition, and I have spoken with ladies on Lit, both publicly and in private, who feel just that way and, far from considering the term a pejorative, proudly proclaim their status as sluts.

With that said, one should always remember that the word is strong medicine, even to ladies who own the term... for some of them, the pejorative connotation is part of what makes it so hot. I've learned to avoid the term anytime I detect anything less than strong enthusiasm for it.

But, yeah, I guess you could say I do have something of a preference for sluts...

 

[deskuser]

Some men explicitly prefer sluts. I have heard various reasons but I am curious if any men here feel that way and if so why?

When I say slut I mean someone like me who has sex with multiple partners. That doesn't imply being stupid and careless and spreading my legs for anyone who asks. I am liberated, in control of my own body and conscious of my own safety and well being. I just happen to like having multiple lovers.

It suggests empowerment and control and as long as nobody gets hurt through false promises then good for you. Sex is there to be enjoyed.

 

[policywank]

Not in my case.

L

Thanks - love to here about other hot wives

 

[kcwordsmith]

defining a slut

I'm sexually "liberated", too. I've had more partners than I can easily count, and I suspect I have stronger urges and more desire for sex than most men. I love to fuck and I love to suck cock.

But I hate the word "slut". You can twist the meaning of it any way you care to, I don't like it. It indicates a disrespect for women and it puts me off completely.

Unfortunately the word slut seems to have a negative connotation in many people's eyes and what a shame. If a slut is woman who does what feels good with multiple partners that should not be condemned but rather celebrated. Is it because of some sick sense of possessiveness on the part of a man? Similarly, if it is because a woman is willing to experiment and try new things sexually that should not make her a slut either. I guess the classic definition that a learned in my high school days was a women who, if she liked you, didn't say no to your sexual advances and, in fact, said yes to multiple individuals. I do agree though...to call a woman a slut is not a compliment in our society, although to call a woman a little slutty, meaning she loves to fuck and do all kinds of related things, seems a little more acceptable. I for one wish there was another word to call a woman who loved sex and did it with many different guys...like maybe sexy.

 

[policywank]

I always find this problem interesting. I was trained in math and philosophy, where you could say "In this context, the word "slut1" means "someone who is sexually liberated", while "slut2" means "someone who is carelessly promiscuous"." And from then on, the discussion was clear, and in theory, no personal connotations or emotional responses would intrude upon further uses of those terms. I miss those days.

I have read some persons who want to make the term their own, proudly rallying behind the banner of "ethical sluthood". Yet in stories here I have also found it very common for "slut" to be used in an attempt to degrade a girl/women in a non-consent story. "Sexually Liberated Person" is cumbersome; would SLiP be better? Eh, who cares at the end of the day.

To go back to the original question, I have only had monogamous relationships heretofore, though I have recently opened up to my girlfriend of several years about my desire to try non-monogamy or at least some form of open relationship, sex friends or friends with benefits. She is less than thrilled, as she is monogamous through and through it seems. But it has made me wonder whether I would want to be with someone who did have other (current) partners. I would not mind a sexually experienced woman, provided she had been safe and not acquired diseases (which, will not a deal-breaker, do complicate things); I just hope she would not count my own limited experience against me. I have never really had the opportunity to discover whether I am the jealous or frubbly/"compersive". I hope I would be the latter.

Good point. And the good thing about a mature slut1 is that a sexual encounter isn't loaded with expectation. I am not interviewing for a long-term position or rating performance or measuring the entire package against every other prospective mate as if I must make a single choice imminently - put in a good effort and you'll get your dick sucked happily.

 

[policywank]

Exactly. If more women took this insightful outlook, the world would be a lot less tense!

Great quote from a comedian whose name I can't remember

If cum tasted like chocolate, most of the world's problems would be solved.

…..or something like that

 

[DashDot]

The word "slut" has quite a few meanings depending on it's use and can cause different reactions. If someone yells at me while driving "Get out of the way SLUT" I am going to get very pissed off. If I overhear someone in a nightclub comment about me as I walk by "Now that is a hot SLUT" I will probably get a little tingle run through me and even add a bit to my wiggle as I continue on with a smile. If someone has me bent over the kitchen counter and is pounding enough to make me moan and says "Damn woman, you are wet, you love fucking don't you SLUT" I will probably look back and say "Oh yes, I am a SLUT for cock like yours" as I start to shudder and cum all over him.

It is all in how it is used. Am I SLUT? Not always, but sometimes I like to appear a bit of one and enjoy when people notice and sometimes I am just a wanton cockSLUT.

Proud to be what I am when I am.

 

[HoldYouDown]

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