Posting pictures of yourself, a discussion

[KillerMuffin]

After reading Draco's rather aggravated raving about that Bigg moron, I thought about this for a bit.

Do you post pictures of yourself? Do you post naked pictures of yourself or pictures of yourself that expose generally considered "private" areas of your body?

What do you think of yourself when you do that? What do you think that others that know you as a person think of you when you do that? What do you think that others who don't know you at all think of you when you do that? What do you think that others who don't know you and only skim porn sites like Lit for pornography think of you when you do that? Do you think that these people have that right to assume those things about you? Or do you just not care what they think?

If you haven't posted pictures of yourself, naked, sexy, or otherwise, do you have any particular thoughts on the general practice of posting pictures of yourself?

Does anyone think the board one chooses to post pictures of themselves makes a difference? Say, Motherhood. com versus Literotica.com.

How culpable is our own personal behavior in the way it affects how others think of us? If some moron like Mr. Bigg the Dickhead sees a naked or semi-naked picture of a woman on a bulletin board at a site dedicated to pornography, how right or wrong is his thinking that this woman wants men to get their rocks off on her picture? Why do you think that way?

Are there any consequences to posting pictures of yourself on a board? Good or bad? Do you think about those consequences or do you never give them a thought?

DISCLAIMER: I have posted pictures of a certain area of my body on this board before. Though only for moments at a time. I intend to never do so again. I have also gone a step farther than the majority of poster here, I have erotic audio where people can listen to me tell a dirty story. This opens me up to a world of freakjobs who think that I naturally want to extend this kind of erotic audio into the personal realm.

Please try to be non-judgemental and not defensive in your responses. We're not trying to decide if it's wrong, but merely what people think about it.

 

[The Nitelight]

I have posted non-nekkid pictures of myself on another site.
I have yet to be crudely propositioned.










WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE??????????

 

[JennyOmanHill]

KillerMuffin:

First of all, I don't care what others think about what I post word-wise or picture-wise. I have learned a lot from posting here, and it has allowed me the opportunities to discuss things as they come to the surface. I do post with my lover in mind, as he reads what I write, and at times it can trigger off a very interesting discussion topic when we are chatting together.

I have posted various "harmless" body parts in photos, again for his benefit more than for other peoples' reactions. I have no intention of revealing my naked self in a pictorial way, but feel open enough to express my honest feelings in my posts.

There is a certain about of admiration I have for those who feel totally free to expose more intimate pictures, and while I do enjoy associating a user to a "face", I'm not yet sure if I would feel comfortable enough to do so myself.

I have been fortunate not to receive many unwelcomed pm's, most likely because I seem to be constantly declaring my love for someone exclusively. I am thrilled though that I have made many Lit "buddies"!

 

[seXieleXie]

i've posted a couple pictures of myself in the form of avitars and a couple more when relevant to the thread, and sometimes just for fun. mostly they have been pictures of my face, though for christmas i had an av of my clevage.

i haven't spent much time thinking about what others will think of me for posting these pictures. i really don't care. if someone thinks i'm attractive, i'm flattered. if someone would like to see more pictures of me, again, i'm flattered. however that doesn't mean i'm going to show them more pictures.

i think posting your picture on a porn board does send a certain message. i think that for the most part it says you want people to look at these pictures and fund them sexy, but that's about as far as i would read into them.

i don't assume that those who post pictures or stories want to share with me on a one-on-one level. that is much more intimate that posting to the board in general.

i don't agree with draco. *shrug* but then i've never been a jealous or posessive person. i'm sorry that SC felt violated by this guy's PMs and e-mails. i would have used the ignore and delete features. that's just me though. i don't think anyone has serious harmed anyone in this whole debacle, and i don't see what the big fuss is about.

 

[LadyDarkFire]

Do you post pictures of yourself? Do you post naked pictures of yourself or pictures of yourself that expose generally considered "private" areas of your body?

I have posted pictures of myself, but only my facial features and another shot of my eyes, and the last was of my neck. Frankly, I stick to posting what I'm comfortable showing in public, which is not much. My friend dared me to post the one picture of my face here as my av, and since it was my face, I agreed to it. Had it been any other part of me, aside from possibly my hands or neck, I would have refused. My friends know I post here, and even post here themselves, as for people I don't know, I'm going to reserve judgment. I don't know them, I don't know their thought patterns, so, frankly, I'm not going to even wager a guess. Basically, my rule is, if they would see the part of my body in a face to face conversation with me, or walking past me on the street, then I will post it. Other than that, no, I won't post pics. IMHO, where you choose to post a picture really relates to the side of you that you are willing to show in the world. Here, a porn board, there are reasons not to post a picture that will Identify you in a possibly bad situation. With Motherhood.com, you have other things that can occur, so there are concequences of that. Really, it just depends on a person's mind set.

That Being said, the situation with bigg14U was not really about semi naked, or naked, pictures IMHO. The picture of me that he responded to was a simple head shot, showing nothing other than the facial features, and neckline of a conservative black teeshirt. Apperantly he asked others to reveal more of themselves, through email and PMs. Since I don't know the entire story of both ends, all I can say is that the email I recieved took a casual and friendly manor, and that is what bugged me. I did not know this man from Adam, and he was addressing me by a pet name.

In the end, the concequences from posting a picture here, for me at least, have been the same as you would get in real life. Some compliments, some ignores, and one or two fuckwhits. Life goes on, it can bug me, or I can deal with it in one or two posts on a thread specifically about the problem, and move on. Frankly, I'd rather knock my work for my English Prof out of the way rather than let this guy have an effect of more than 5 minutes over me.

 

[alltherage]

When I first came to this sight I posted a few pictures of myself. I am not ashamed of my body and I felt fairly secure in doing it because my face did not appear. I quickly learned that many people responded to me mearly because of what they saw. They made a jump from the picture to a full blown image of me as a person. I think, I was a bit surprised by that. Since then I have not posted a picture of myself and I don't intend too. I have found that my written words have far less impact on this sight than my picture did and I find that unsettling. It makes less and less active on the boards.

I think people run risks any time they post anything to the internet. The possiblity of being used in some way you don't want to be used is constant. Personally, I believe that their is no shame in posting an image of yourself to any sight you find appealing. It is important that anyone who does so understands the risks. Posting to a porn board is going to get a certain response from those who see it. Posting to Moms are us will get another reaction. I suppose it would be foolish to assume that only other mothers would see the pics you post to moms are us.

The biggest risk in being active in internet land is the loss of your privacy. I have met nice people here on lit and some of them I would have no problem eventually meeting. On the other hand, there are many people who people this sight who I would be very very very reluctant to meet. I think posting my picture broke some ice, and it also gave me a good idea who I would not want to get to know.

 

[Guest]

I am very self conscious with low self esteem, but mostly related to my hair loss. I am very comfortable with the rest of my body. That being said, I'm not sure if I'd post here. Not my face, at least. My body?? Possibly. I would definitely send nekked pics of myself to my Lit buddies, though. The thought of them pleasuring themselves while looking at me is a total turn on....... however unlikely that scenario is.....

 

[bluespoke]

I have never, and never will, post photographs of myself nor any part of myself. Apart from any other considerations (like being a pervy voyeur!) the word photogenic was not intended for use in the same sentence as my name!!!!

I think those that do post are incredibly brave and, to a greater or lesser extent, exhibitionist. They must also know that they run the risk of what happened with that 'Big Dick'.

Draco's reaction was perfectly understandable and I suspect may be effective. It was also pleasing to see some ladies just hit the delete button. Ignoring them (as with trolls) may also be an effective way to silence these pricks.

Whilst those that post know the risks, I do not believe that it gives others the right to judge them. If a woman, or a man, posts her/his picture on the board, or indeed 'tell a dirty story', it should only suggest to the viewer that this person has a healthy attitude to sex and their own body.

It does not give the viewer the right to assume anything about their morals, inclinations or their wish to correspond with pond life!

 

[daughter]

Do you post pictures of yourself? Do you post naked pictures of yourself or pictures of yourself that expose generally considered "private" areas of your body?

No, on all fronts.

What do you think that others who don't know you at all think of you when you do that?

As the person who is exposed to this, I'll tell you what I think. I can respect that some folk enjoy exhibitionism. That doesn't bother me provided I have a choice in viewing the pictures. I am annoyed and I find it disrespectful and arrogant to assume I want to see your ass simply because you want to show it.

If you haven't posted pictures of yourself, naked, sexy, or otherwise, do you have any particular thoughts on the general practice of posting pictures of yourself?

I don't think I would enjoy flashing pictures for the hell of it. I would like to have some artistic photos and drawings done. I wouldn't have any qualms showing them to my friends who were interested in seeing them. But my sweetie wouldn't want to share. Having them done would be very pleasing and sharing them only with him and maybe a select few(once he could get his mind around it) would be nice, too.

Does anyone think the board one chooses to post pictures of themselves makes a difference? Say, Motherhood. com versus Literotica.com.

Of course there is a difference. The motive and mood is different. Would I mind the difference? No.

How culpable is our own personal behavior in the way it affects how others think of us?

Well, let me be raw and un-pc. If you wear a neon sign on your forehead don't get offended when folks start making unfavorable comments and pointing at it. You do influence how you're perceived. Make up you mind what you to invoke and if you care. I can respect choices and behaviors that don't mirror my own. I don't respect folks crying victimization or demanding that folks embrace their values and attitudes.

However, posing nude and sharing photos doesn't mean "I want you to fuck me". It says the woman is comfortable showing her body. If a viewer wants to fuck because of the photo, he/she should ask why she posted it. I don't know. Seems like a logical, rational train of thought to me.

Conversely, if the woman poses nude and posts it to a site for pornography, she should be prepared for the possibility that someone might assume that she is making a sexual overture.

Are there any consequences to posting pictures of yourself on a board? Good or bad? Do you think about those consequences or do you never give them a thought?

I think not to give this any thought is irrational. Each person hopefully judges beforehand if the consequences are likely to be good and if they aren't, is prepared to handle the consequences.


Indept post.

Peace,

daughter

 

[MidnightAngel]

I have never posted any pics, here or anywhere else. I would like to one day have body parts (non-revealing type) as an AV. I personally wouldn't posted nude pics, only because I don't think my body looks that great. If I looked like some of these ladies, I'd have 'em posted everywhere ...LOL!

I don't think that the pics "say" anything about a person. This is an adult site, and I feel that most of the members here have enough respect for one another to realize that the pics are simply that.....Pictures. They are NOT invitations to be stalked, PM'ed, or whatever. To me, this would be the same conversation one could have about women who wear "provocative" or revealing clothing....it's a personal choice and IMO doesn't say anything specific about the person or their lifestyle, morals, etc.

 

[Calamity Jane]

I have posted a few boob shots, and removed them within 20 minutes. I've used my face as an av, and posted it within other threads.

I receive more PMs regarding my stories than I ever have photos. I fend them off, and don't generally get harassed. I have my email address posted in my profile, so I get random emails too. If someone is being difficult to fend off, I ignore them.

I posted the pics, I post the stories, and while other people's reactions aren't my responsibility, I knew when I joined this site that I was letting people in on certain aspects of myself that I don't generally share. That's fine. I'm willing to take the bad with the good.

 

[april-wine]

I have only once posted my smiling face, fully clothed....As for what people think, I don't really care much....As for posting nekkid pictures...eeekkkkkkkkk I don't wanna scare anyone lol....

The most you folks have to deal with on a daily basis is my lips.....

<<<<<<<<<<<That is about my comfort level........

 

[Tim1]

My belief

Is that probably most people who post pictures of themselves (naked) in some way are looking for approval by whatever sector that is looking.

I also think that there is a certain thrill in knowing that you may be contacted by e-mail etc. about how beautiful you are or the like. I don't really associate posting pictures of a man or woman being morally depraved or wrong. After all this is a Porn board.

I think however also that it is naive to assume that those pictures will not be spread all over the net. They will and they are. If the person feels confortable in knowing that someone they MAY know might see them, (like a family member) and still doesn't care .....well them more power to them.

I don't judge people who decide to post pictures....in fact I've commented on some I've seen on this site. I'm not different than other guys.....I like to look .

Not sure if that addressed all or even most of your questions KM.

Just my thoughts on the subject.

 

[Fly_On_Wall]

I have had my pic in my av. that's about it.

I'm a shy person, I don't like being seen much. and I really dont think i'd show any pics of anything risky.

face is it for me.
what do I think of others that post themself?
They are braver then me. and if they like doing it, good for them.
I alwasys say if it's good for you and your not hurting anyone do it.

 

[Kandi]

well, obviously

i don't have reservations about posting
my photo, naked
i have been careful to leave my face out
tho, as for myself, seeing faces here
is what i crave most in trying to make
connections in this sensory deprived medium.

i'm a nudist, i'm naked whenever i can be,
wherever i can be, and i don't mean to
offend anyone with it, and i try not to
take offense that others are walking around clothed.

it's curious to me that so many of you refer
to this place, literotica, as a porn board.
i don't see it that way at all.
literotica is such a special place, for those
who truly love erotica, and freedom of
expression. there are a LOT of porn boards
on the internet. if you surf around a bit and
get your fill of how utterly unredeaming
most of them are, you may come back with
more respect for this wonderful home here

well, didn't mean to ramble on, and i certainly
don't want to step on anyone's sensitivities,
just depositing my two pennies

 

[SimplySouthern]

Do you post pictures of yourself? Do you post naked pictures of yourself or pictures of yourself that expose generally considered "private" areas of your body?

Yes, I have posted a few body shots as well as bits and pieces here and there. I don't post my face, as I think it rare that anyone would recognize me from a shot they saw a few times of my ass.

What do you think of yourself when you do that? What do you think that others that know you as a person think of you when you do that? What do you think that others who don't know you at all think of you when you do that? What do you think that others who don't know you and only skim porn sites like Lit for pornography think of you when you do that? Do you think that these people have that right to assume those things about you? Or do you just not care what they think?

I post those of my own free will. Some as dares, others as me being cute. I enjoy the thrill of the exhibition with some form of anonymnity. I've learned a few soild truths in my life. One of those is that you can't conrol what others think about you. Another is that if you let what others think about you control you....you may as well not have a life.

How culpable is our own personal behavior in the way it affects how others think of us? If some moron like Mr. Bigg the Dickhead sees a naked or semi-naked picture of a woman on a bulletin board at a site dedicated to pornography, how right or wrong is his thinking that this woman wants men to get their rocks off on her picture? Why do you think that way?

If you put the pics out there for exposure, you have to assume that not only decent people will see them, but also some freaks. You have to take liability and take the good with the bad.

By the same token -- Just cause I'm carrying a fishing pole doesn't mean I'm going fishing.

 

[Rubyfruit]

I believe that simply posting here will open ones self up to unsolicited emails and PMs. Posting stories will certainly do that and pictures more so.

I don't really care what judgments people will make of me because of what I write or the pictures I post, and furthermore, I don't have any control over that anyway. I don't make judgments about people who post pictures or erotic stories.

If you are going to expose yourself in any manner, you should expect a fair amount of unsolicited email and PMs. I've found that a simple "thank you" to notes about my pictures is sufficient. It doesn't seem to encourage further contact or harassment.

 

[lobito]

I'm not sure I really need to answer this Q, becasue anyone with their av's turned on will know that I DO post my own pic, clothed or unclothed.

I get PM's ranging from "DUDE! YOUR AV ROCKS! I jack off to it 3 times a day" (YUCK), to "UM, Lobito, can I have a full size pic of that azz sent to me?".

 

[Spinaroonie]

I posted my face up a couple of times, taking it down, it was maybe up an hour... and I had to ask people to proposition me! lol

 

[cymbidia]

Do you post pictures of yourself? Do you post naked pictures of yourself or pictures of yourself that expose generally considered "private" areas of your body?

Yes. I have. I probably will again.

What do you think of yourself when you do that? What do you think that others that know you as a person think of you when you do that? What do you think that others who don't know you at all think of you when you do that?

I post only fetish pics, and never with my face or any identifying marks showing. When i'm out in my everyday life, i don't want to be recognized by those i don't know well as someone who posts here.

There are relatively few who do the kinds of sexual things i do to the extent i do them and are willing to be as public and open and "normal" about them as i am. Here, at least. If, via my board posts stories and a few scattered photos, i can bring what so many see as off-putting and bizarre and weird and just plain wrong into more human focus, then i will.

Are there any consequences to posting pictures of yourself on a board? Good or bad? Do you think about those consequences or do you never give them a thought?

I rarely get any kind of response to my pics that isn't supportive.

I've never gotten any unwelcome sexual overtures from anything at all i've posted here, board stuff, stories, or pics.

Maybe it's too "bizarre" for the nutcases?

 

[Isabella Thorne]

Every picture tells a story, don't it?

Sweet Muffy ...

if you asked me a few years ago if i thought it possible that i would have erotic pics of moi posted on the net ... i would have said you were out to lunch ...

but ... what can i say darling? ... they are posted in literotica ... and they have been for a while now ...

and yes they show some body parts ... and just a wee bit of my face ...

also from time to time i'll post some new pics in a thread in the general board ... but i usually end up taking it down after a little while ... i just feel posting pics in a thread a little "cheesy" ... lol ... somehow in my mind it is a little "classier" when they are in the amateur pic section ...

soooooo i wish that section was still running .. but i guess not and i am thinking of finding another place to post my pics on the net ... and considering my own site too ...

why do i do it? it gives me confidence, makes me feel sexy, beautiful, and naughty. i love feeling naughty. i have never been so naughty in my life ...

and i am loving it ... am i an exhibitionist? i don't know ... am i?

and i do love to hear from both men and women with comments about either my pics or my stories or both ... <i have only ever received one bad comment about my stories btw ... i think i am very lucky ... and that was that Beatles freak, remember?>

and yes ... i can get pretty turned on by some of the comments i do get ... i do not get offended ...

and as you know i also have an audio poem posted here ... so yea people hear my voice too ...

geeeez i am such a naughty naughty girl ... i really deserve a spanking now ...

 

[daughter]

a porn board--Kandi

I guess it depends on how you feel about the word porn. Some use 'erotic' because it sounds more artistic and not demeaning. I don't think porn is bad.

The advertisment on this site in many ways is overwhelming, over the top. I think porn which denotes explicit sexual messages and images is appropriate.

I do think this place is special. I wouldn't spend the time I do here if I didn't value the folk and the material available here.

Peace,

daughter

 

[ksmybuttons]

Right now, there are more guests on the board then there are members. Many are just checking out what is going on, some are lurking, waiting to join in. Some are creeps. Some are probably really scary creeps. This is not a private site. Membership is not based on the Lit community acceptance, only that you have a computer available to you and you know how to use the web.

I am here because I like a little erotica in my life. This is a much more personal way to interact then one can achieve in real life with such a large, diverse group of people. I relish reading the stories. I like the detail. To me it is soft porn. Not a whole lot different then being in a very large discussion group in a college situation. I like the different opinions and different ideas and, sometimes, it makes me think.

How people that consider themselves members of this board and how others in the greater community view it are different. I know Lit is fairly tame in the world of porn, some members consider it an "Adult" board. I also know that there are many people in my community who think that anything that relates to sex in a public manner is porn and to them porn is WRONG.

I have been around a while, and even though there a couple of million people in the area I live in, I run into people I know all the time in unrelated places. Some of them are people who have no discretion. People who would get a kick out of telling someone that they saw me in a "porn" board. It seems many of the people who live at Lit are discrete and there are many people out in the real world who are not.

If I choose to post a picture of myself, I would be making decisions about the rest of my life and the options I have available to me. If I decided to take a more prominent work position in the future or run for a public office, pictures I post on the board would always be there to haunt me if someone saw them.

If you are a school teacher, a religious leader or anyone that we might entrust our children to, or you have a morals contract in your employment agreement, you could be let go just by virtue that your picture appears on this board next to your postings.

I would not post a picture of anything recognizable about me: my face, my body, my home.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

I have never posted my body parts....

Not ashamed to do so, they're fine - just no real drive to do so.

I have gone beyond - I've posted my real life name.

My avatar is me - just colored and eye shaded with an older less full hair cut - though not that long ago.

As for responding to others who do? Never, every have I "gone nuts and pursued another." I think that's fucking weird. I rarely make comments and if I do - always to the positive. I am not a flirter. I am not really here for hard sex. I am a voyer at most - here for other reason - all to do with my own mental health, the written word and the human thought.

As for others? To each their own.

My hunch of course would be that "in some way it gets them off." I would never discourage them to post.

 

[SilverVeil]

I have. But only my breasts. I would not want my face in one with me naked. I did post one pic for about 30 minutes of me and my hunny fully clothed so people could see the face behind the posts. But I took it down after that.

I am fat, but not ashamed of my body.