Polywood!

[Miss Trickery]

Ranting and Raving Warning!

Okiedokie... I just can't contain my excitement - been blabbering on about it so much that I've tired out all the people who'd listen... so now I'm unleashing it here. Well, I'm polyamorous - for those who don't know what that is - it basically means that i'm capable of multiple loves and being in a relationship with them. Along with that, I'm in a D/s relationship... playing subbie to my man.

SO... what's all the raving about? Well, I've been in poly (triad) relationships in the past - one vanilla, one D/s. Both didn't work for their various reasons... mostly interpersonal conflicts, naturally - HOWEVER, when I came home from work, yesterday, and gave my man a little peck on the cheek... he turned to me and said, "I may have a sister sub for you. If that's something you're ok with, then I'll tell you more."

Well, my heart nearly exploded, my mind raced with so many questions. I didn't know if I was going to faint out of fear or excitement. So with the largest nervous grin ever, I asked him who she was... to my utmost surprise... he confidently replied with her name. OMG I thought I was going to orgasm! I was so giddy I think I may have scared him a little. You see, this girl is like a very very good friend of mine and his - and don't get me started on how HOT she is. We're really close to each other, something I haven't shared with the other girls in my past relationships. I have a feeling that this relationship is going to be a winner!

Whew... anyhow, that's that - I'd better stop here before it ends up becoming a novel's worth. So like my man said... "I've got polywood!"

 

[pandoravampire]

I really wish you well with this. Im not poly so cant begin how? But i hope this brings you the sister you long and hope for in your friend.

exciting times indeed.

you've allready got burned twice, but here ya are, raring to go again. Your PYL is fortunate that you are able to trust him sufficiently to know what is right for you both in this decision.

To disregard all previous experience and go anyway along this journey is a thrilling ride indeed.

Personally, ive always come a cropper when ive fucked my friends, but im crap at it and probably incapable in the first place. The fucking mess to sort afterwards and its hard work to regain lost ground in the split. Does D/s make all this stuff go away i wonder? I doubt it somehow. But what would i know?

I wonder how you will cope, if currently you get 100% attention and its about to be halved? Does the increased intensity weigh off against the frequency?

I wish you all the best, be safe, enjoy

pandoravampire

 

[Miss Trickery]

I really wish you well with this. Im not poly so cant begin how? But i hope this brings you the sister you long and hope for in your friend.

exciting times indeed.

you've allready got burned twice, but here ya are, raring to go again. Your PYL is fortunate that you are able to trust him sufficiently to know what is right for you both in this decision.

To disregard all previous experience and go anyway along this journey is a thrilling ride indeed.

Personally, ive always come a cropper when ive fucked my friends, but im crap at it and probably incapable in the first place. The fucking mess to sort afterwards and its hard work to regain lost ground in the split. Does D/s make all this stuff go away i wonder? I doubt it somehow. But what would i know?

I wonder how you will cope, if currently you get 100% attention and its about to be halved? Does the increased intensity weigh off against the frequency?

I wish you all the best, be safe, enjoy

pandoravampire

I've been with my man for nearly 7 years now... he knows pretty much everything there is to know about me, and I, him. So, with that, he always has the better judgement when it comes to my life - and always asks for my take, before making an important decision.

I've never fucked my friends... though it seems like true friendship was needed in past relationships... friends then lovers is what I think makes a good relationship. Perhaps it's the understanding and bond between the two? I find D/s to compliment an already good relationship - right now we're doing things poly-vanilla... and will eventually work our way to poly-D/s.

As for the attention i get being cut in half - not likely. I work so much anyway - and while i'm not around, my man gets company. When i come home - I'll have him and my sis. And if by any chance, I recieve less attention than I had prior, the having my girl will balance it out - this girl, i know, likes me.

Thanks for the support, btw

 

[His_pita]

Good luck Miss Trickery, I hope it all works out the way you are wanting.

 

[CorsetLvr]

I too have had some poly relationships in the past. I'm sure that I am not telling you anything when I say that the key to success is good communication between your lovers. All relationships have stresses and the addition of a third person simply adds to those issues. When you add D/s to the relationship its just one more potential source of stress. I'm certainly not saying that this can't be done. I know of lots of very successful D/s poly relationships. I think the key is to voice any issues immediately and get them out to be discussed before they fester and become a larger issue. While you and your sister sub may feel a desire for each other, passion is not all it takes for a poly relationship to work. I'm sure you understand that from your past experiences and I'm not trying to preach to the choir here.

I think the success of your new relationship is going to depend on how well your Dom handles things. Dicatating household policy is not going to work as a means of resolving issues when they arise, and they will. Rather, being a good mediator and negotiator will help to resolve issues. He will have to fair to both of you and see both sides of any issues without any perceived favoritism. At the same time he will have to make you both feel special and cared for, especially when your self-doubts and any potential jealousies may rise their ugly heads. On top of this all, he is going to have to manage all this while at the same time maintaining his position as head of the household and as both of your Dom. Eventually uou and your sister sub will work out which of you is going to be the "alpha sub." This is to be expected. You may find that you become more alpha in different parts of your household life. For example, one of you may be alpah in the bedroom, whereas the other may be more alpha in domestic matters such as housekeeping or finances. Whether both of you will be able to accept your position is going to be key to the longevity of your relationship.

I hope you found something useful in my speculations and opinions. It always difficult to analyze someone else's relationships from a distance. My observations are simply based on what I have experienced in my own poly relationships and in observing other's. I'm currently writing a story about a developing BDSM poly relationship. If you are interested, read my May/December stories. The poly parts of the story haven't been posted yet, but I am getting there.

 

[Troll Hunter]

Your new submissive is Canadian Cutie, right? *makes icky face*

Oh man. Good luck with that one! Watch your back! lol

 

[Haku_Z]

Your new submissive is Canadian Cutie, right? *makes icky face*

Oh man. Good luck with that one! Watch your back! lol

Wrong! But i'll give you a cookie if you guess it right...