Polyamory

[IwantU99]

Hello fellow Lit friends,
I was just wondering how many of you are in a polyamorous relationship? If you have considered it in the past? How many of you identify with the concept?

Would love to read your thoughts.

Good day to you all.

 

[Elmyra]

in a relationship that is open to that but, we haven't found anyone we mesh with so far

 

[IwantU99]

Thank you for sharing. What I find most appealing about it is all the honesty it involves.

 

[Elmyra]

Thank you for sharing. What I find most appealing about it is all the honesty it involves.

it really does or else it just blows up

 

[hulmule]

Being in a sexless marriage, would like to try this. Trying to find the way to get this opened subject to my wife. We cant even talk much about sex let alone my needs to find someone as a partner. Then if she did say yes i think it would be very difficult to find another person to fill your needs. IMO

 

[IwantU99]

Yes, hello lady_rush,
I was reading about it and researching and found out exactly that poly is very diverse.
It can be 3 ppl together as a trouple, triad, or it can be just having diferent partners, without having to fully commit to one person.
The base of all of it is respect and honesty, there is an understanding amonst the ppl involved and there is no deceiving and sneaking around behind someone's back.
Thanks for sharing. Do you identify with the concept?

 

[Elmyra]

Poly also comes in many many flavors. It is usually portrayed as a triad, but it’s also very common for partners to just have other partners.

true, its hard to find someone that is interested in just one of us if we are honest about being in a committed relationship that will not end no matter what happens with the new person. my language was just imprecise.

 

[cubbyfire04]

Poly also comes in many many flavors. It is usually portrayed as a triad, but it’s also very common for partners to just have other partners.

This... Never really labeled it as such, but I guess my previous marriage and current engagement are much the same. My marriage was open to anyone we wanted to be with as long as honesty was there. She knew I was bisexual and even played with men together but it wasn't a part of the "relationship". My current fiance is ok with me seeing men (we've recently found, not so much women), but only if emotional connections remain plutonic. Our love is reserved for one another. Our bodies... Not so much.

 

[IwantU99]

From my understanding I think it's more about having several romantic relationships, not necessarilly sexual, during the same period of time, with the knowledge of everyone involved.

 

[IwantU99]

I’m not poly, but have a number of friends who are. The ‘format’ is also more than just having sex with other people. It’s even more than triads vs partners having multiple partners. There’s also hierarchy vs non-hierarchy. It’s pretty complicated and diverse.

Thank you for sharing your knowledge on this subject I may identify in part, but it is more complex then it might appear at first.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I've been polyamorous since I was 22. One summer I met 2 men. I fell for both, but in different ways.
One, I ended up marrying for 25 years.
The other, I was infatuated with for 25 years.

The husband knew fully I had feelings for the other.
It was a unique experience.

 

[readinggp]

We’ve talked about a male house keeper (I guess roommate could work too) that would be available to service us both. Hot idea, not sure how real life would work. We’re open to it, but how to find the right guy is the challenge.

 

[ericalauren]

I'm polyamorous. I could never be in a monogamous relationship. I'm asexual and never having sex, which I know a lot of people don't understand. Still, I cannot see myself being happy in a monogamous relationship.

 

[MidwestMeg79]

Hello everyone! Polyamorous bbw here. I prefer solo poly, meaning I live alone but have multiple "boyfriends". It works great for me as I do not like to share my space. I currently have 2 partners, one local and one not. Always open to chat so if you have questions about poly feel free to reach out!

 

[joepiko]

I’ve been in a Monogamous Triad with a married couple for the last 10 years. She is multi-orgasmic, it’s quite thrilling to be going down on her as much as she will let me. Her husband came out to her as gay in the early 90s, but they remain a stable couple because she recruited me to help him satisfy his desires. We play weekly, always are completely satisfied, and immensely happy. We trust each other not to stray from the triad and truly there is zero reason to do so. He is quite well endowed, so, that makes me very happy. We mostly play together, but occasionally we pair off for an evening. There is never any jealousy or trouble because we are honest about our desires.
We started this experience many years ago, after she recruited me, we would play on holidays. Otherwise, She would come to my house and we would have oral only. That was the rule during her childbearing years. They actually broke up with me for a period of a few years. He thought that my finding satisfaction with them would cause me to miss out on romance with someone else. He’s a very thoughtful guy. I did meet someone, fell in love and married for a total of ten years altogether. Didn’t work out…. once we divorced, my current triad member contacted me and after some negotiations (this included getting tested for stds) we resumed our “triad”.
She had tried for a few years to recruit other men for them, but things didn’t work out. I personally think it is because I seriously love being with her. Her touch and kisses are what I crave, her orgasms endless. It is always a thrill to be with them. She knows I have lustful thoughts for a couple of other women, but she keeps me drained of that desire. I don’t even have a desire to wander though. I think we have a successful poly experience. So far, SO good !!

 

[Unsure2022]

I was in a polyamorous relationship for a few years with a married woman. We would all hang out and do regular things together (go to movies, hiking, road trips), then retire to the bedroom and share her, but a few times a week, it was just she and I, and it was great.

The biggest issue with the polyamory is that she wanted to have us, but not let us have another woman to spend time with when we were apart. That ended up in some resentment for both men toward her, and oddly enough, us hanging out talking about it without her. It eventually ended with she and I breaking up (there were heavier factors that broke us apart, but I don’t care to get into them) and them getting divorced about a year later.

 

[MidwestMeg79]

Solo polyamorous female here. Currently have 2 partners that I do not live with, one is married, one is going through a divorce. I see one often as he is local, the other less so as there's about 2 hours between us. I really enjoy polyamory. It gives me the opportunity to explore different facets of my personality with other people. The sex is varied, which is great. It's not meant for everyone but I'm loving it at 43!

 

[Valendon]

I don't know that I've ever considered what I had as poly. The term itself seems new and trendy to me, but in fact I did have romantic (and sexual) connections with more than one person at the same time. The beginning was with my next-door neighbors, siblings. She and I were the same age, he was a year ahead of us, and nearly two years older. They were both my first. I would have married him except for VietNam. (Long story!)

I continued my relationship with her all our lives until her death--4 decades of deeply connected delight! We never came out past our husbands, and always played very privately. When I married, it was with the understanding that I'd continue my relationship with her. There was an undercurrent of tension with my husband(s) from time to time, but it worked.

Still miss her a lot.

 

[Iwant2havefun]

I’ve been in a Monogamous Triad with a married couple for the last 10 years. She is multi-orgasmic, it’s quite thrilling to be going down on her as much as she will let me. Her husband came out to her as gay in the early 90s, but they remain a stable couple because she recruited me to help him satisfy his desires. We play weekly, always are completely satisfied, and immensely happy. We trust each other not to stray from the triad and truly there is zero reason to do so. He is quite well endowed, so, that makes me very happy. We mostly play together, but occasionally we pair off for an evening. There is never any jealousy or trouble because we are honest about our desires.
We started this experience many years ago, after she recruited me, we would play on holidays. Otherwise, She would come to my house and we would have oral only. That was the rule during her childbearing years. They actually broke up with me for a period of a few years. He thought that my finding satisfaction with them would cause me to miss out on romance with someone else. He’s a very thoughtful guy. I did meet someone, fell in love and married for a total of ten years altogether. Didn’t work out…. once we divorced, my current triad member contacted me and after some negotiations (this included getting tested for stds) we resumed our “triad”.
She had tried for a few years to recruit other men for them, but things didn’t work out. I personally think it is because I seriously love being with her. Her touch and kisses are what I crave, her orgasms endless. It is always a thrill to be with them. She knows I have lustful thoughts for a couple of other women, but she keeps me drained of that desire. I don’t even have a desire to wander though. I think we have a successful poly experience. So far, SO good !!

This is an amazing story, appearing so honest and sincere. You've posted pretty infrequently over 20 years, so I believe all you're saying. Very happy you've been able to find a relationship that works so well for you. A loving woman, a well-endowed man.....enough to satisfy the bi in you, and to keep the Triad happy and in synch. i love when a plan works....

 

[Iwant2havefun]

I don't know that I've ever considered what I had as poly. The term itself seems new and trendy to me, but in fact I did have romantic (and sexual) connections with more than one person at the same time. The beginning was with my next-door neighbors, siblings. She and I were the same age, he was a year ahead of us, and nearly two years older. They were both my first. I would have married him except for VietNam. (Long story!)

I continued my relationship with her all our lives until her death--4 decades of deeply connected delight! We never came out past our husbands, and always played very privately. When I married, it was with the understanding that I'd continue my relationship with her. There was an undercurrent of tension with my husband(s) from time to time, but it worked.

Still miss her a lot.

The love and HONESTY you shared, with both your gf and your husband, is honorable and respected. People loving other people....truthfully, sincerely, and openly....is the way the world is supposed to be. I hope you're happy in the current stage of your life, and i appreciate you sharing your story. Thank you!!

 

[Aavvaa]

I realize that this thread is in the "GLBT" area. While I believe that all of us are naturally on a continuum between-- and pulling these numbers straight from my butt just like the "real professional" statisticians do-- let us say 95% straight to 95% gay, and nobody is 100% anything, so far all three of us have only had heterosexual sexual experiences.

I knew Andrew and his older brother Geoff from school. My older sister is a very feminine gal, but I've always enjoyed playing hard and getting dirty-- as in with real dirt. When Geoff got a 125cc dirt bike, and Andy got Geoff's 80cc, their dad let me try out the 50cc bike Andy just graduated up from. We-- especially I-- had a blast. In some ways I was like a kid sister, always hanging around with them-- but I wasn't "really" their sister...

Which has some tangible advantages for people who are not fictional characters in a Literotica story...

As I got older-- well, funny thing... we ALL got older... And this is Literotica, and there are rules, so by this I mean over 18...

I didn't really date them... I mean, we just did everything together...

I didn't care for the guys who thought I should wear lipstick instead of chapstick, or smell of strawberries instead of soap with a faint hint of hypoid oil...

They didn't take to those girls who wanted to be on a date where you didn't have to wear shinguards, a chest protector, mask, and a helmet...

Doing everything together became doing everything together.

I couldn't choose Andy over Geoff, or vice versa. It works because we have no secrets from one another. We were great friends, who shared common interests way before we were sexual with one another. We were one another's confidants before we became sexual with one another. Each of us decided that it was better to be in a sexual relationship with a wonderful friend... someone with whom we shared so much... than to segment our lives and have separate people we shared fractional parts of our lives with.

My parents, and the the guys' mom figure we will "outgrow" this. Their dad seems to get that we won't.

Heck, we built a little (670 pound) airplane together-- if that isn't true love I really don't know what is .

How does that 100 year old song go...

"How Ya Gonna Keep 'em Down on the Farm (After They've Seen Paree?)"

 

[Andreinasstud]

Hello fellow Lit friends,
I was just wondering how many of you are in a polyamorous relationship? If you have considered it in the past? How many of you identify with the concept?

Would love to read your thoughts.

Good day to you all.

My husband and I are polyamorous and seeking a wife for us. We have no jealousy between us. He lets me play with other men and women and has even booked vacations for me to do so alone while he stays home and takes care of our daughter. I like to have fmf threesomes, mom threesomes, and an occasional gangbang. I enjoy watching him with another woman too. He is planning a vacation to Thailand, so that I can have fun with some ladyboys there (my biggest fantasy). So you can see that we truly have no hangups.

We would like to meet a woman to be our wife. We had considered a man, but found that men just get too jealous in a throuple relationship, especially, because he is straight and I enjoy trying “exotic cocks”. We had considered another couple who are Haitians that work for my husband’s business. They lived with us for about six months and we swapped and had foursomes from time to time. Ultimately, we decided against making it a permanent arrangement. They moved into their own house that my husband had built for them and we still play together. But, she is not bisexual and I really want a woman to be my wife and be intimate with.

We have had a number of Dominican women join us in the bedroom, but I am really hoping to find an Asian woman, Black woman, Indian woman, or a White woman. I just like being with a woman who looks different than me. I am just concerned that distance and language barriers may make that too hard. I am fluent in English and my husband is passable in Spanish and Creole, but Asian languages would be difficult for us.

I still have hope though. My husband is 20 years older than me and I love it. He is worried that he will eventually pass away and I will be alone, so he wants us to find someone that we can truly love and be with me when he is gone. I tell him not to worry about that, but he still does. He has made sure that, financially, I will be well off even after he passes, but he wants me to find “my wife” before he is gone.

It is much harder to find her than I thought it would be.

 

[Myuniversewithin]

We are 45 (m) and 39(f) in UK. Exploring option of Poly triad relationship so identifying male partner. We found someone online last week and sinfar chat/calls went well. This weekend, meeting the guy so that my wife will make a decision to start poly relationship.

I am encouraging wife to for poly so that she can get love from me and new guy. As poly is defined, it is long term and emotional/physical relationship.

We are new to this and fingers crossed how it goes. Especially how I will handle my emotions.

 

[lil_jenni]

I consider myself polyamorous. I am married to man whom I love, but I also have a romantic and sexual relationship with my girlfriend.

I am 100% committed to my husband as my life partner and as my primary lover. And I would not have sex with another man unless he explicitly agreed to the specific situation. But women are a different story. That is my decision alone.

And while I'm romantically attached to my GF, we have no claim of exclusivity on each other. She can have other lovers (and I hope she does -- I'm her first same sex partner), and I can too. I'm even hoping we can get together with another woman for an all female threesome. I've never done that before.

My Hubby, my GF, and I did have one threesome together, and I would love to have more. My GF is on board, but Hubby is not really polyamorous, and I know he defaults to our sex life just being him and me. Having said that, I also know he enjoyed the threesome but feels guilty for enjoying it. I think if he got past the guilt, he might be okay with just letting my GF in a little.

 

[Rob_Royale]

Forgive me for popping this thread back up. I've read this thread and I'm very curious how this works.
I don't mean sexually. That much is obvious.
I don't question the love. I totally get that.
What makes me curious is how you balance additional opinions and personalities in general.
At work, give me a project and another person, we have a brief discussion and the job gets done with minimal fuss.
When you add a third, or a fourth that's when things get messy. I can't imagine that in the home.
How do you deal with this? Granted I'm speaking of a poly triad or quad that are living in one home. Not a partner who lives separately.