Polyamory

[Willow_starr]

My partner and I are beginning to explore polyamory. We're very excited and feel very like this is the right path for us.

is anyone on this board involved in polyamory and have some tips, advise, or anecdotes to share?

Thanks!

 

[Monazwx]

Polyamory = Open relationship?

 

[Roy Kay]

There is already another thread

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=85619&highlight=Polyamory

on this. I have a few posts there. You can also IM me if you wish.

 

[deliciously_naughty]

A word of caution

Polyamory is not to be confused with sex with other people. Poly couples have more than one serious committed relationship at a time. It is *not* an excuse to go out and screw other people to make your sex life more interesting. It is difficult, and I will not try to make it sound easy.

I've been in several poly relationships and have witnessed many more. My suggestion is that there are clear *days* that belong to person A and person B. Otherwise, jealousy quickly gets in the way. Also, your original partner should be your primary g/f or b/f. All other relationships must understand that your primary is the one who comes first...otherwise much pyschodrama will ensue.

Also, it is healthiest if both of you have secondary relationships. If only one does, things get cranky. Also be aware that your primary may dump you for their secondary and end up in a monogamous relationship with the "other" person, leaving you single or only with your secondary relationship. I've seen it happen a lot.

However, the poly lifestyle does have its rewards. In relationships where both people honestly feel that you can be in love with more than one person and are not possessive (be honest with yourself about it) it can work.