Pleasure from punishment.

[RoughPlay]

Do you enjoy being punished. What is it that you like about this.
How does it make you feel ?

 

[A Desert Rose]

Okay, I'll bite.

I love being punished

I love it for a myriad of reasons.

It gives me indescribeable feelings.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I don't believe punsihment should be pleasurable in the least, elsewise it is not punishment. Just my less-than-humble opinion.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Though I appreciate the necessity to punish me, we both hate it when he does. From the mildest word of correction to the most painful of physical or emotional punishments, I am far from happy or in pleasure......in fact it usually sends me into an emotional spiral he then feels he has to help pull me out of before it goes too far....so it is pain and hard work for both of us and one I strive to not earn too often.

Catalina

 

[A Desert Rose]

Oh not me.... sometimes I'm bratty just so I can be punished.

LMAO

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Though I appreciate the necessity to punish me, we both hate it when he does. From the mildest word of correction to the most painful of physical or emotional punishments, I am far from happy or in pleasure......in fact it usually sends me into an emotional spiral he then feels he has to help pull me out of before it goes too far....so it is pain and hard work for both of us and one I strive to not earn too often.

Catalina

Exactly our perspective on it...the phrase "this hurts me more than it does you" applies here. I don't want to punish her, but sometimes(rarely) it is necessary. It takes alot out of both of us, mentally and emotionally.

 

[D's mariposa]

Nope, I'm not into punishment. I'm into spanking and flogging and ouching (oh my!) but these never come in as punishment. Unless D is withholding these as punishment. He's never had to punish me for my trangressions, (yet). When I've screwed up so far, it's been an accidental kind of thing. And his policy is that you don't punish for things that your sub does wrong out of ingnorance. However, I know that once something is set up and I know that it's wrong, then I'll get punished. But that hasn't happened yet.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Exactly our perspective on it...the phrase "this hurts me more than it does you" applies here. I don't want to punish her, but sometimes(rarely) it is necessary. It takes alot out of both of us, mentally and emotionally.

Think the psychological aspect is the key. For some, such as myself, pain from the one I love is the greatest pleasure on earth....but only when delivered out of love. When it is a form of punishment, not only am I psychologically and emotionally distraught I have displeased, the pain administered is far beyond a level I can bear even when only delivered with a fraction of force used in play. Is interesting the way the mind can make one so much more vulnerable under different circumstances.

C

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Nope, I'm not into punishment. I'm into spanking and flogging and ouching (oh my!) but these never come in as punishment. Unless D is withholding these as punishment. He's never had to punish me for my trangressions, (yet). When I've screwed up so far, it's been an accidental kind of thing. And his policy is that you don't punish for things that your sub does wrong out of ingnorance. However, I know that once something is set up and I know that it's wrong, then I'll get punished. But that hasn't happened yet.

This is the way I operate...spankings and teh like are play, they are rewards, not punishment. Punishment most often displays itself in a witholding of play, or of attention in general.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I am not into punishment either. Too much work. Work is for subbys not Moi.

However I love discipline, which I do because I can. Yep, My whim is paramount.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Yep, My whim is paramount.

I love how you bring this down to one simple sentence that makes perfect sense.

you make me giggle, ma'am.

 

[catalina_francisco]

Mmmmm...Master's whim is paramount too, but I am not perfect as much as I strive to be...in reality somewhere a transgression is going to happen sooner or later. Not often, but it happens.

Catalina

 

[Ebonyfire]

TO Moi

Punishment = kicking him to the curb.

Next!

If you can't obey, then you are gone today!

 

[A Desert Rose]

TO Moi

Punishment = kicking him to the curb.

Next!

If you can't obey, then you are gone today!

God, I'm glad my Dom never reads at Lit.... this is information he does not need to know.

;-)

 

[Ebonyfire]

God, I'm glad my Dom never reads at Lit.... this is information he does not need to know.

;-)

Remember romantic involvement is not a fundamental element in My D/s relationships. It is necessary to be extremely strict to male subs early in the beginning. No weakness can be shown.

Who knows what may happen in a long term established relationship that is 24/7. I never say never. But I always regret not being ruthless in the beginning if I do not stick to My guns.

 

[catalina_francisco]

TO Moi

Punishment = kicking him to the curb.

Next!

If you can't obey, then you are gone today!

Thank the goddess you have a stable then as everyone is human (unless you did not confess all to us and you have a Martian subbie or two..lol)....no one person is perfect so they are going to make a mistake sooner or later and then you are going to eject them and replace them with next in line? You are a cruel woman...this should bring a new flood of responses to your search..all those subbies dreaming of a mean Domme to guide their ways

 

[BrightFlower]

I hate being punished. My punishment is always being ignored, and not being able to be with Him. He knows this is the only way he can get to me, and he uses it well, when he needs to.

 

[A Desert Rose]

I hate being punished. My punishment is always being ignored, and not being able to be with Him. He knows this is the only way he can get to me, and he uses it well, when he needs to.

This post reminded me of the last stanza from The Stranger by Walt Whitman, one of my favorite poems:

I am not to speak to you, I am to think of you
when I sit alone or wake at night, alone
I am to wait, I do not doubt I am to meet you again
I am to see to it that I do not lose you.

 

[RoughPlay]

Thanks everyone for your thoughts. In light of your comments I guess I really
meant mock punishment that is intended to be enjoyed overall even though it
might look like real punishment to someone who doesn't know better. I didn't
mean genuine punishment with an intent to truly hurt someone.

A Desert Rose, I would be interested in hearing more about what sort
of (mock) punishments you love, the reasons why and the feelings it gives
you.

 

[A Desert Rose]

A Desert Rose, I would be interested in hearing more about what sort
of (mock) punishments you love, the reasons why and the feelings it gives
you.

You know that saying... any attention is good attention?

I will be bad, if it gets me attention. I am not above fishing for it. Sometimes I like to tease and yank his chain. Attention means I am cared for, to me, at least. (Showing indifference and ambivelence are the worst things that one can do to me.)

I love a spanking... by a hand. I love having my hair pulled.

I will be dreadfully serious here.... sex is fun to me. I love to laugh, smile, giggle. I try to keep it like that. I don't want conflict and seriousness. I want fun and I want to provide fun. I want to be the little shiny place he wants and desires to come to. I want to be the little refuge from all the shit in his life.

If it's not fun and relaxing for him to be with me, he won't come back now, will he? And he will be looking for someone who will provide that for him.

 

[catalina_francisco]

You know that saying... any attention is good attention?

I will be bad, if it gets me attention. I am not above fishing for it. Sometimes I like to tease and yank his chain. Attention means I am cared for, to me, at least. (Showing indifference and ambivelence are the worst things that one can do to me.)

I love a spanking... by a hand. I love having my hair pulled.

I will be dreadfully serious here.... sex is fun to me. I love to laugh, smile, giggle. I try to keep it like that. I don't want conflict and seriousness. I want fun and I want to provide fun. I want to be the little shiny place he wants and desires to come to. I want to be the little refuge from all the shit in his life.

If it's not fun and relaxing for him to be with me, he won't come back now, will he? And he will be looking for someone who will provide that for him.

I think of that more as play than punishment even in the loosest of terminology. That being said though, I will tease playfully, but never be bad to manipulate him into play or punishment....that would never work but to get me a serious punishment. Guess I am lucky in being 24/7, and with the one I am with, that attention is never something either of us feel shortchanged on from each other. As for fun, it plays a large part in our lives.

C

 

[Desdemona]

I hate to be punished. It takes a toll on both of us as others have said.

I love being spanked, having my hair pulled, being flogged etc. He does that at His whim. I can ask for it, but that doesn't mean I'll get it. Its part of how we play.

 

[RoughPlay]

I love being spanked, having my hair pulled, being flogged etc.

How hard does he flog you, does it leave angry red welts on your skin or worse ?

If the same flogging was by someone else in a non sexual context would it hurt, would you still enjoy it ?

 

[dragonlace]

I love being spanked and flogged and paddled and we both enjoy it but when it comes to being punished it is not an enjoyable thing....just knowing i have done something to displease Him makes it unbareable. The same paddling i might take during play which i would love hurts so much (not only physically but mentally) if done for punishment because of the mental state in which we are both in. It is in no way pleasurable when i know i have done something wrong and am being punished for it.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Thank the goddess you have a stable then as everyone is human (unless you did not confess all to us and you have a Martian subbie or two..lol)....no one person is perfect so they are going to make a mistake sooner or later and then you are going to eject them and replace them with next in line? You are a cruel woman...this should bring a new flood of responses to your search..all those subbies dreaming of a mean Domme to guide their ways

I believe you have misinterpreted what I said with your own paradigm.

Did I mention perfection? Did I mention any details? NO. YOu read into what I said what you think I meant.

If you want to know what I mean, please ask Me without insulting Me with a statement about perfection. AND I find it offensive for you to mention the word "stable".

I am different from you, but that gives you no cause to judge Me.