Please Give Me The Strength

[Avery_Chisholm]

to domme for a nite, when I envision what I'm going to do I keep sinking back into sub mode

 

[psiberzerker]

I'm intrigued. I deduce from your post that you're a regular sub who's venturing into the world at the top. Go ahead, take it for a spin, and see what it's like up here. Who knows? You might find that you like it.
My advice to you, should you accept it, is to plan carefully. Have in mind what you're going to do, and give your playmate some heads up. Save some surprises for them though, it's a lot more fun that way.
It can get rather involved, and complicated. While you may need strength to overcome your intrinsic submissiveness, you will also need serenity to keep you calm throughout. Get too excited, or scared, and something might go wrong. I don't suggest bondage, or other advanced tricks the first time out for this reason.
I look forward to see how it turns out, please keep me posted.

 

[Richard49]

to domme for a nite, when I envision what I'm going to do I keep sinking back into sub mode

I am on a number of BDSM discussion lists
I have read many submissives say they tried
topping/doming
and could not find the pleasure or headspace

I know for me I could never bottum or sub

so.......
enjoy what you are about to do

and remember

you may truly be a submissive

 

[RoughPlay]

Stick to your plan and don't let him deflect you from it.

 

[Sunnflower]

Intrigued as well

Are you going to be a Domme for someone that usually is your Dominant? If it is at their direction that you be Domme, whether be it to them or another, I can surely understand your slipping back into submissive nature with them. They would understand your feelings and thoughts though and give you the encouragement and direction you need. (I would hope at least)

If you are doing it on your own, it's up to you to give yourself the strength and singularity of mind you will need.

Either way, make the time before hand to get into your headspace necessary to take the steps, do you do yoga? Meditation? Sitting calmly and envisioning yourself in your new role, clearing the other thoughts from your mind....think and feel yourself as the one you want to be.

You are you. Submissive, Domme, top, bottom, or anywhere in between or a combination. Embrace who you are, and remember no matter how cliche it sounds.....our lives are a journey, not the destination, we learn as we live.

Best wishes!

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

 

[MissTaken]

Okay...

now give!

What happened?

 

[T.J. Jackson]

Must of been great, way to many smiles for just ok.

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

It was soGREATTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT turns out I didn't have to stress so much bout the whole being a domme for a nite thingy he wasn't having it

 

[Richard49]

It was soGREATTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT turns out I didn't have to stress so much bout the whole being a domme for a nite thingy he wasn't having it

He wasn't having it?

You lost me

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

he changed his mind when he got there that's what I mean by he wasn't having it so he was his regular domme