Playing the Dumb Card

[JazzManJim]

JMJ I love your AV.

Thanks. I feel Eeyorish today.

I wanted to jump on what Kitte said, but broaden it a little. I've heard the "no one likes a know-it-all" line pretty much my whole life. I've since interpreted that in my adulthood to mean that no one likes a smartass, which is a different thing.

But when I was a kid, I interpreted that to mean that no one liked a peson smarter than the average. That really did affect the way I acted an awful lot. More often than not what I wanted to do was just to fit in, far more than I wanted to be intelligent. I'm still like that at times now. I often think I'd trade 20 IQ points for a good hunk of popularity. I don't know if that's a bad thing, though, or not.

 

[Feelin' Naughty]

I've not played dumb, but I admit to playing the 'helpless female' role a time or two. For instance when I'm wearing dress clothes and have a flat on my car.

 

[RawHumor]

I think that it's important to note the distinction between intelligence and intellectualism. I'd consider myself intelligent, but I can talk to just about anyone without them feeling as though I am talking down to them or talking over their heads.

Many people who see themselves as intelligent like to throw big words at people who they know won't understand them just to make themselves feel superior. Intellectual bullying, if you will.

I think that can lead to people disliking "smart" people.

 

[Lancecastor]

Learn to Speak Coy!

Women are highly competitive in The Game of Love.

Speaking the Coy Dialect is one of those old, standard-issue feminine wiles devices used to lure a man.

And it can work on any guy at any time...for a while.

Properly managed, a Coy woman can be a prize, but it's hard work and the maintenace costs tend to be higher than average.

Most mature adult males learn to recognize Coy when they hear it, though it sounds a lot like English.

Coy, when spoken by women for a nefarious purpose like finding out enough to hurt or own a man as Sunstruck says she does, can permanently Pussy-Whip a man, turning the woman into a Harpy in the bargain.

Nobody wins when Coy is used for insincere purposes, you see.

Ishmael made a good point; a woman speaking Coy often gets what she unfortunately deserves...a life of being ridden hard and put away wet. Destination: Cougarville.

I have a Coy speaking friend who is also a putative relative ; she's 36 and can't find a man.

She's very attractive and ultra feminine, so she makes great company for me at the various functions I am called upon to attend. The boys gather round simply to be near her and watch her smile, bat her eyes, perhaps catch a glimpse down her blouse, which is usually unbuttoned that extra distance. She dates a guy long enough for him to realize she's been speaking Coy, because she really just wants a guy with lots of cash who will house her and let her go shopping for the rest of her days. But she never tells them that up front.

I also have several women business acquaintance/friends who would love to have married, and still wear big frilly hair and low cut this, short skirt that...not because they like it, but to attract men...and their eyes still get big and dewy, their voice softer, when they see a suit they'd like to marry.

But a woman who speaks too much Coy eventually loses her appeal, as does the man who speaks Snake long enough.

It's not an uncommon story.

I think that most grown-up men prefer a woman who speaks her mind in balance with possessing the right amount of feminine qualities, just as most grown up women prefer a man who can listen and show his feelings in concert with the right quantity of masculine qualities.

But, when the moon is full and the lights are low and She walks in the room, her perfume preceding her by moments sublime...I too long to hear a little Coy in my ear.

I am a man after all.

Have you witnessed women playing the dumb card before? You know where they dumb themselves down to deal with a man?

I hate it.
It annoys me.
It drives me fucking batty!

Discuss.

 

[perks]

yerp, what he said.

 

[BgMma]

Re: Learn to Speak Coy!

Women are highly competitive in The Game of Love.

Speaking the Coy Dialect is one of those old, standard-issue feminine wiles devices used to lure a man.

And it can work on any guy at any time...for a while.

Properly managed, a Coy woman can be a prize, but it's hard work and the maintenace costs tend to be higher than average.

Most mature adult males learn to recognize Coy when they hear it, though it sounds a lot like English.

Coy, when spoken by women for a nefarious purpose like finding out enough to hurt or own a man as Sunstruck says she does, can permanently Pussy-Whip a man, turning the woman into a Harpy in the bargain.

Nobody wins when Coy is used for insincere purposes, you see.

Ishmael made a good point; a woman speaking Coy often gets what she unfortunately deserves...a life of being ridden hard and put away wet. Destination: Cougarville.

I have a Coy speaking friend who is also a putative relative ; she's 36 and can't find a man.

She's very attractive and ultra feminine, so she makes great company for me at the various functions I am called upon to attend. The boys gather round simply to be near her and watch her smile, bat her eyes, perhaps catch a glimpse down her blouse, which is usually unbuttoned that extra distance. She dates a guy long enough for him to realize she's been speaking Coy, because she really just wants a guy with lots of cash who will house her and let her go shopping for the rest of her days. But she never tells them that up front.

I also have several women business acquaintance/friends who would love to have married, and still wear big frilly hair and low cut this, short skirt that...not because they like it, but to attract men...and their eyes still get big and dewy, their voice softer, when they see a suit they'd like to marry.

But a woman who speaks too much Coy eventually loses her appeal, as does the man who speaks Snake long enough.

It's not an uncommon story.

I think that most grown-up men prefer a woman who speaks her mind in balance with possessing the right amount of feminine qualities, just as most grown up women prefer a man who can listen and show his feelings in concert with the right quantity of masculine qualities.

But, when the moon is full and the lights are low and She walks in the room, her perfume preceding her by moments sublime...I too long to hear a little Coy in my ear.

I am a man after all.

Long winded, but very astute. Just kidding! I am sincere when I say that you made a very good point.

 

[Guest]

 

[perks]

So.... THAT's what I've been doing wrong.....

<grin> not sooooooooo wrong.

 

[Guest]

 

[perks]

....and I was hoping this French beret would make me look more intellegent.

if it were warm, would you wear much more?

okay. I'm not hijacking this thread any longer.

 

[LukkyKnight]

if it were warm, would you wear much more?

okay. I'm not hijacking this thread any longer.

You need a rasberry feather...

 

[AngelBoy]

I agree with Cheyenne - "dumbing down" oneself sometimes makes conversation easier (or less confrontational), and it often provides entertainment... I find that people are more relaxed and willing to share their knowledge and viewpoints when they don't feel as if they are speaking with someone much smarter than them or more knowledgeable in a particular subject.

I also agree that this is usually not a good practice for relationships - serious ones, anyway...

 

[Rambrat]

I like intelligent woman...I'm hoping it will rub off.

 

[Freya]

I think Lance pegged it about the best. I have girlfriends who do that helpless twit female thing at times, and it drives me totally batshit. Partly because guys fall for it so easily at times, but partly because I feel it just demeans her to no end. Flirting is one thing - on here, or in person - but to make yourself seem like s simpering fool just to attract a man is incomprehensible to me. Personally I'd rather have a man who is man enough to accept and enjoy a woman with brains, who speaks her mind. I don't want a guy that wants a bimbo with fluttering eyelashes and downturned eyes.



Of course, that might be why I'm still single - since I've never been able to perfect the helpless female persona. I think it's easier for smaller women to do that. At almost 6 ft tall and a bit of a bigger woman in general, I think the helpless female act doesn't fly as well.

 

[zipman]

Personally I hate when women play the dumb card. It turns me off instantly as I want and am attracted to intelligent women.

The funny thing is, the women who play the card, then complain about the kind of men that are attracted to them because they are stupid and shallow. These are the usually the guys who fuck them over, cheat on them and treat them like crap.

What do you think you are going to attract if you play the dumb card anyway. Some intelligent guy who wants a dumb girlfriend?

Stupid is, as stupid does, and that's what stupid attracts.

 

[Siren]

 

[Guest]

 

[RawHumor]

I just dont get this thread at all.

Could some big strong smart man help me understand?

I need a really sexy and intelligent man to connect the dots for lil ole' me.

If the conversation isnt about men, and sucking or fucking men.........
I just get sooooo confused and all I can think of is cock, and sucking cock and being fucked by cock.

Could some man help me with this deep thread and help me focus on something other than sucking cock?

Don't try to understand it. It will only make your head hurt. And speaking of your head, could you rest it on my lap for a while?

 

[Wiggles]

I've never dumbed myself down for a man, but I have done it at work.

It must be something about all that hick slang I hear all day. I feel like if I speak the way I usually do it'll seem like I'm trying to be better than them, even though that wouldn't be my intention. After awhile the lingo just sort of kicks in even when I'm not thinking about it.

Y'all know what I'm saying here?

 

[Siren]

 

[RawHumor]

oh you are so kind.
and I know you only have my best interest at heart.

Of course. Now don't talk dear, I don't want you to wear yourself out. Besides, I'm sure we can come up with some better users for that mouth and tongue of yours.

 

[Siren]

 

[RawHumor]

I am so confused.

How about I just lay here and open my mouth, but not speak?

Damn. Suddenly I'm starting to see the appeal.

 

[Siren]

 

[RawHumor]

And on that happy note, I'm outa here.

Have a great weekend everyone!