Pity Party Over Here

[Sexybritches69]

My job is just so frustrating right now. I really don’t know if I want to continue teaching. But if I stop, I don’t know what to do for work. I’m just feeling like I’m trudging uphill.

I needed to whine.

If anybody else wants to join my pity party and share what’s got you down, I’m happy to share this thread with you. Sometimes just venting helps.

 

[ExiledWelshman]

My job is just so frustrating right now. I really don’t know if I want to continue teaching. But if I stop, I don’t know what to do for work. I’m just feeling like I’m trudging uphill.

I needed to whine.

If anybody else wants to join my pity party and share what’s got you down, I’m happy to share this thread with you. Sometimes just venting helps.

*HUGS*

I totally feel your pain. I handed in my notice last week. Three year degree, one year Masters degree, three years PhD, ten years in academia...I'm done. 100% done. No more Dr ExiledWelshman.

Moving to a different career that I had a year in between Masters and PhD (dangerous goods handler).

The red tape and bullshit just got too much to take and I was hating it and I've gone as far as I can go.

Roll on January and a new start.

 

[Sexybritches69]

*HUGS*

I totally feel your pain. I handed in my notice last week. Three year degree, one year Masters degree, three years PhD, ten years in academia...I'm done. 100% done. No more Dr ExiledWelshman.

Moving to a different career that I had a year in between Masters and PhD (dangerous goods handler).

The red tape and bullshit just got too much to take and I was hating it and I've gone as far as I can go.

Roll on January and a new start.

Hugs to you too. That must have been a hard decision to make. It sounds like you’re confident it was the right decision for you. That’s great. Best of luck to you.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Man, hats off to you guys. I have so much respect for anyone in academia. Teachers should be treated much, much better then they seem to be nowadays.

 

[jmarx20102012]

Dont whine just drink wine. Kids need you. I have two girls and they have always had the best teachers. Keep fighting the good fight.

 

[13Fantasies]

I'm sorry, Sexybritches.

I was that way years back. I moved into a different field where I'm successful and recognized by my peers.

I even went back to teaching occasionally after a few years. It's great to change sometimes

 

[Rosencrantz1971]

Around 10 years ago I found myself unemployed, all of a sudden: the firm I was working for couldn't afford to keep me anymore.

I was 37, that was my first job and I simply had no clue what to do next.

I remained unemployed for 6 months, and over here in Italy is quite hard, until I found a completely different job, which I'm still doing.


All this to say... I understand what you feel, but sometimes you need to jump, even if they force you to, to find new happiness.

 

[cowslinger64]

My job is just so frustrating right now. I really don’t know if I want to continue teaching. But if I stop, I don’t know what to do for work. I’m just feeling like I’m trudging uphill.

I needed to whine.

If anybody else wants to join my pity party and share what’s got you down, I’m happy to share this thread with you. Sometimes just venting helps.

See if this doesn't help..


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[Apisto42]

Sorry it’s got you down today. If it’s any consolation, I’m looking for a change as well.

Hugs and spanks.

 

[MrDevereaux]

My job is just so frustrating right now. I really don’t know if I want to continue teaching. But if I stop, I don’t know what to do for work. I’m just feeling like I’m trudging uphill.

I needed to whine.

If anybody else wants to join my pity party and share what’s got you down, I’m happy to share this thread with you. Sometimes just venting helps.

Vent away.

I had to leave teaching through various reasons, not least of which I encountered a lot of bullies and asshats.

Where do I get my ticket for the party?

 

[Jordan90]

And here I am, heading straight for a life in academia *slams on brakes*

I take it that all is not tweed, bookshelves, and intellectually stimulating conversation?

 

[ExiledWelshman]

Hugs to you too. That must have been a hard decision to make. It sounds like you’re confident it was the right decision for you. That’s great. Best of luck to you.

I was and it wasn't. It was scary but the work was grinding me down (SPOILER: I didn't cure cancer. Sorry, folks), my mental health was taking a battering and something had to give.

I think this will be the right decision. Who knows? Fingers crossed.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

I always had it in my head that when I got older I'd become a teacher. Like I'd love to go to college and get a teaching degree or work in social services. Just doing something to help people. But then you see the logistics of it...go to college and accumulate crippling debt. And then get a job that is criminally underpaid. There just has to be a better system.

 

[ExiledWelshman]

And here I am, heading straight for a life in academia *slams on brakes*

I take it that all is not tweed, bookshelves, and intellectually stimulating conversation?

Depends. What will you be doing? If it's history or something like that, then dust off your tweed suit.

 

[NorthRockJohnson]

Around 10 years ago I found myself unemployed, all of a sudden: the firm I was working for couldn't afford to keep me anymore.

I was 37, that was my first job and I simply had no clue what to do next.

I remained unemployed for 6 months, and over here in Italy is quite hard, until I found a completely different job, which I'm still doing.


All this to say... I understand what you feel, but sometimes you need to jump, even if they force you to, to find new happiness.

This is excellent advice! Better things are always around the corner. And ya know? Sometimes some places do you a favor by giving you the boot.

Years ago I had a terrible exit at my job. A couple months later I got a much better job making twice as much. So things can work out. The key is to not get down on yourself. Which I've certainly been guilty of before.

 

[Rosencrantz1971]

This is excellent advice! Better things are always around the corner. And ya know? Sometimes some places do you a favor by giving you the boot.

Years ago I had a terrible exit at my job. A couple months later I got a much better job making twice as much. So things can work out. The key is to not get down on yourself. Which I've certainly been guilty of before.

It's very, very easy to get down... and that is not simply whining... and in a way you become uglier too, I did at the time: got to the point that I simply hated myself, because I felt like I wasn't doing enough to get out of the situation.
Maybe I was, maybe I wasn't, I don't know.
Fact is, I'm happy where I am now, and that wouldn't have been possible without those orrible 6 months.

 

[Apisto42]

And here I am, heading straight for a life in academia *slams on brakes*

I take it that all is not tweed, bookshelves, and intellectually stimulating conversation?

Depends on the type of institution you’ll be in. At least in the States, being a prof isn’t the same thing it was 20 years ago. But like anything else, it’s mostly up to you to define how you’ll succeed.

 

[tnman03]

My job is just so frustrating right now. I really don’t know if I want to continue teaching. But if I stop, I don’t know what to do for work. I’m just feeling like I’m trudging uphill.

I needed to whine.

If anybody else wants to join my pity party and share what’s got you down, I’m happy to share this thread with you. Sometimes just venting helps.

Teaching’s great career but so much of it is changing into something that isn’t fun any longer. Several friends I knew who loved teaching retired years earlier than planned because they were fed up with it all. So I hope you find what you’re seeking.
I can think of a lot of jobs that your background and experience more then have you prepared to do. Good luck.

 

[Led_Astray]

My job is just so frustrating right now. I really don’t know if I want to continue teaching. But if I stop, I don’t know what to do for work. I’m just feeling like I’m trudging uphill.

I needed to whine.

If anybody else wants to join my pity party and share what’s got you down, I’m happy to share this thread with you. Sometimes just venting helps.

I feel you. I'm in exactly the same boat, here in the UK. I love the actual teaching, but the paperwork, the bureaucratic hoops to jump through, and the hypocrisy of the senior management are all grinding me down.

But the though of leaving teaching - I *know* I am a damned good teacher, and its hard to see what other job i could now go and do that I would be equally good at. But if things continue the way they are, I don't know if I will survive another 5 years, let alone the 20 I need to complete before retirement becomes a possibility.

I either need to win the lottery or write a best selling book. Or maybe rob a bank?

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

Because of how desperate a situation my ex left me in, I started a GoFundMe a few weeks ago. At that time I had to fight with Amazon to get control of MY Amazon account. I reset everything, and added the need for an authentication. Once that was done, I put together a wish list of things I could use in case anyone wanted to help me out that way instead of with cash.

I got notified today, that my Ex had gone into my Amazon account, changed the shipping address to hers...and several orders that were supposed to be for me, were redirected to HER address...

So now I have a fight going on with Amazon about HOW she got access, AND people are upset because what they paid for has been shipped to her, and not me...

 

[Sexybritches69]

Because of how desperate a situation my ex left me in, I started a GoFundMe a few weeks ago. At that time I had to fight with Amazon to get control of MY Amazon account. I reset everything, and added the need for an authentication. Once that was done, I put together a wish list of things I could use in case anyone wanted to help me out that way instead of with cash.

I got notified today, that my Ex had gone into my Amazon account, changed the shipping address to hers...and several orders that were supposed to be for me, were redirected to HER address...

So now I have a fight going on with Amazon about HOW she got access, AND people are upset because what they paid for has been shipped to her, and not me...

Oh man, that’s awful. I’m so sorry. :-(

 

[Sexybritches69]

Thank you, Everybody. Just reading your supportive posts really boosts my spirits. I know I’m my head that things will get better. There are times of the year that are really tough, and the first quarter always takes a while to get going. I need to focus on the positives of the job, how I feel on those good days, and continue to just put one foot in front of the other.

Thank you again for listening to me and responding.

 

[done_got_old]

My job is just so frustrating right now. I really don’t know if I want to continue teaching. But if I stop, I don’t know what to do for work. I’m just feeling like I’m trudging uphill.

I needed to whine.

If anybody else wants to join my pity party and share what’s got you down, I’m happy to share this thread with you. Sometimes just venting helps.

I felt that way with my 2nd teaching assignment. It was a 6/7 split that had had more than a half-dozen teachers the previous year. Not only that, they’d been together for 3 years! I wrote a letter of resignation, but didn’t send it in. Everything that went wrong in the building my class was involved. The police from Illinois brought a group of my boys back to school one day. They had walked across the bridge (over the Mississippi river) and a storekeeper called the cops. This was the worst assignment in my nearly 40 years teaching. There were some really good kids in the group but as always, the bad get the press and the attention. One thing I learned and that’s the kids who act out need good teachers the most. Have your pity party, dry your tears, get a good night’s sleep and remember how important your task really is. If at the end of the year you don’t feel any different, it’s okay to throw in the towel and find something else to do.

You are not alone. My hope for you is that you find peace and happiness.

 

[Sexybritches69]

I felt that way with my 2nd teaching assignment. It was a 6/7 split that had had more than a half-dozen teachers the previous year. Not only that, they’d been together for 3 years! I wrote a letter of resignation, but didn’t send it in. Everything that went wrong in the building my class was involved. The police from Illinois brought a group of my boys back to school one day. They had walked across the bridge (over the Mississippi river) and a storekeeper called the cops. This was the worst assignment in my nearly 40 years teaching. There were some really good kids in the group but as always, the bad get the press and the attention. One thing I learned and that’s the kids who act out need good teachers the most. Have your pity party, dry your tears, get a good night’s sleep and remember how important your task really is. If at the end of the year you don’t feel any different, it’s okay to throw in the towel and find something else to do.

You are not alone. My hope for you is that you find peace and happiness.

Thank you so much. I know youre right. I just need to take a deep breath and recenter myself.

Today I had a student tell another that he was going to throw her into a fire. I teach elementary school students. It’s just crazy. Sometimes it just feels like thing s are spinning out of control and I need help. But they keep putting more and more hurdles in front of us. I’m supposed to fill out all these forms before getting major help from an admin for behavior issues. But damn..that needs immediate attention from someone other than me—it’s just so damned hard. And then it’s made more difficult all the time, it seems.

 

[done_got_old]

Thank you so much. I know youre right. I just need to take a deep breath and recenter myself.

Today I had a student tell another that he was going to throw her into a fire. I teach elementary school students. It’s just crazy. Sometimes it just feels like thing s are spinning out of control and I need help. But they keep putting more and more hurdles in front of us. I’m supposed to fill out all these forms before getting major help from an admin for behavior issues. But damn..that needs immediate attention from someone other than me—it’s just so damned hard. And then it’s made more difficult all the time, it seems.

Elementary is harder than middle school. I taught in 3 k-8 buildings, one k-5 and one middle school. Two of the schools were magnet schools. I was fortunate to have had only one bad year. Even then, the class improved once they realized they weren’t going to run me away.

I wish I had a magic potion or advice to offer to help you.