Pissed off

[SilverVeil]

I personally know a man in real life who is a very talented aritst. In fact, if you read science fiction/fantasy, you probably look at some of his art on the covers of your books. When you first meet him, he comes across as very intelligent and plesant. I WAS a fan of his work, but over time knowing him and spending time with him, I have found him to be shallow and very self absorbed, he is very opinionated about things and makes generalizations about people that are just totally off the wall.

He belongs to a social group I also belong to, so avoiding him means I have to miss group gatherings.

It just really pisses me off to have to sit and listen to him spout opinions and generalizations about things and people. I want to stand up and tell him to keep it to himself if he can't say anything nice.

Unfortunately, I am no longer a fan of his work. His attitude has spolied any pleasure I get from looking at his paintings and cover works.

It is really disillusioning to see someone you admire reveal what a ugly person they really are inside.

Sorry to rant about him like this ... but I wanted to get it off my chest.

 

[AnnaB]

If ranting helps then go for it...I am sure there are many that have had something like this to happen to them.

}{ugs to you silver.

 

[Debbie]

Sometimes people say things we don't agree with or have opinions that differ from us.
What the man you know in r/l behaves like or gives his opinion on does not detract from his talent. It may sour your outlook on the art but his art is still what it was before you found out what he was really like.
It is really annoying when you come across a person like this, but I find that I have to ignore their generalisations and 'attitude'.
I have approached the person and softly told them that I do not agree with their opinions and that it causes me offense. I have not found this works, except to make me feel a little better, using a direct approach to a problem I have.
It is hard but for me to ignore the person's constant negativity and generalisations. But for me it is better than avoiding social occasions I would otherwise have attended.

I am in no way telling you what to do. This is IMO only.

Maybe he is eccentric.
Still it can be bloody annoying.

 

[SilverVeil]

I have approached the person and softly told them that I do not agree with their opinions and that it causes me offense. I have not found this works, except to make me feel a little better, using a direct approach to a problem I have.

Maybe he is eccentric.
Still it can be bloody annoying.

Yup, I point blank told him I found his comments offensive. Made not one whit of difference to him. He proceeded to tear into me saying he considered the matter closed and did not want to discuss it further. I replied that " You are free to post what you want to post, if I happen to not agree then I am free to reply to your post how and when I choose to. "

He did not like that one bit. It is ok for him to rant to the mail list and say what ever the hell he wants, but if anyone calls him on it .... they are a " Bad bad person for smacking his verbal hands "

I now view his postings with what I like to think of " rolleye " smilie in my head and just click over to the next mail list post. Since I work midnights I can weasel my way out of a lot of social events he attends, and just avoid him at the ones I do go to. It just sucks to know someone who can paint so beautifully has such an ugly inside.